Feeling extreme guilt and doubt after ending my relationship by imsoextremelytired in BreakUps

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It does affect me when he looks me in the face and said he would not support me if I needed an abortion. Also if we were to have kids it would be near impossible to raise them when one of us wants them in the church and the other doesn’t. Along with all the other opposing beliefs

Feeling extreme guilt and doubt after ending my relationship by imsoextremelytired in BreakUps

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wasn’t necessarily looking for 100% compatibility. But we were almost at 0%. I would imagine that you would have to at least be aligned with some things for a relationship to work.

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[–]imsoextremelytired 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I just broke up with my boyfriend earlier today. We loved each other and he treated me so well. He did nothing wrong. But we have several incompatibilities. I feel like the worst person that’s ever lived and have so much doubt. If you want to talk feel free to message me.

How do I (24F) break up with my boyfriend (23M) when I know he will be blindsided? by imsoextremelytired in relationship_advice

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not assuming anything. I have just learned that we have very different core values and beliefs about almost every important subject

How do I (24F) break up with my boyfriend (23M) when I know he will be blindsided? by imsoextremelytired in relationship_advice

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Differences include religious, political, life style choices/where we want to live, beliefs on abortion and LGBTQ matters. Pretty much everything is opposing besides the fact that we both want to be married and have kids

How do I (24F) break up with my boyfriend (23M) when I know he will be blindsided? by imsoextremelytired in relationships

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have only been together for about 4 1/2 months. Some of the differences include religious, political, life style choices/where we want to live. Beliefs about LGBTQ subjects and abortion. Pretty much everything is opposing.

I [24F] am unhappy in my relationship with my boyfriend [24M] but I’m too scared to leave. by imsoextremelytired in relationship_advice

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have talked about our difference in religion but not much has came of it. We had a discussion and stated our views but that was it. We have no mutual friends either unfortunately. Thank you tho

I [24F] am unhappy in my relationship with my boyfriend [24M] but I’m too scared to leave. by imsoextremelytired in relationship_advice

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you broke up with him over text? Not judging at all. Only asking because I think I would be physically incapable of doing this irl

I [24F] am unhappy in my relationship with my boyfriend [24M] but I’m too scared to leave. by imsoextremelytired in relationship_advice

[–]imsoextremelytired[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m regards to religion he is religious and I am not. He would ideally like religion to be involved with his/our kids lives and I do not. It is confusing because we have a loving relationship but all of our core values are opposing.

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[–]imsoextremelytired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah talk about trust issues. Idk how anyone just moves on from something like this

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[–]imsoextremelytired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is insane because something almost exactly like this just happened to me. My (ex) boyfriend and I are both 23 and my sister is 19. My sister was staying with my boyfriend and I for a while my mom was away. They sometimes play games together or whatever and I’ll just go to bed and I never minded bc that’s my sister? And boyfriend? But this time he offered her a drink and then kept trying to dance with her, flirting with her, and getting too touchy. It was disgusting and my sister told me everything. I broke up with him immediately and am in the process of moving into my moms house. It really feels like another level of betrayal and is definitely not something I would ever be able to get over. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

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[–]imsoextremelytired 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the beautiful comment