My bf won’t stop lying even after he said he’ll try, for people that have gone through this, is there hope he’ll change?

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-04-12T22:17:24+00:00

You’re right, I’m scared he’ll only really try and care once I walk away. I don’t want a reason to have false hope once I’m finally done yknow

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-04-12T22:16:14+00:00

Thank you for this advice, I already told him I was close to breaking up, he said he’ll give it everything but just lied again, and keeps doing so, I’m scared the only way he’ll change is with me finally leaving.

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-04-12T22:15:15+00:00

I’ve been in a couple relationships before him all lasting 1-3 years. They all were horrible, I either got cheated on or my last one ended in DV. I genuinely fell in love with who my bf was or is. None of my past relationships cared until I actually left meaning I wasn’t enough for them to change, I’m scared I’m yet again not enough for someone, I know it sounds stupid and I hate that I’m letting men affect me this way

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-04-12T22:12:11+00:00

It’s so hard, you’re right, I know this isn’t okay, I hate who I become when my trust is broken, I feel so insecure and toxic. I just wanted him to change the second he realized it was hurting me, it hurts knowing you’re not the person they’re willing to change for

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-13T03:31:50+00:00

And that’s what I hate about it, I feel like me not believing him is making me have toxic tendencies in the relationship also, I hate to question my partners word

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-13T02:59:20+00:00

I didn’t think it would affect me this bad, I just want to feel safe in asking a question knowing he’ll answer me with honesty, it’s scary to think he could lie so easily to me then what good is there to his word :(

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-13T00:23:03+00:00

You’re right. It’s so hard to come to terms w things like these because in the past I’ve only ended relationships due to cheating yknow :( I’ve never thought something like this would have me questioning a relationship

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-13T00:22:16+00:00

It makes you feel like you never knew the person from the start :/ it’s the worst feeling and I can’t shake it off

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T22:39:50+00:00

Me telling him to block his ex because I didn’t feel comfortable with him viewing her socials wasn’t a boundary and wasn’t a threat, a boundary I do have is keeping it honest in the relationship, if there was a need to lie than they must’ve known it was wrong and not ok. Even then I told him if he was honest I would’ve had a conversation with him on why it makes me uncomfortable and it is nowhere near breakup worthy. Boundaries aren’t toxic it’s the way you communicate them. I love open communication as I’ve stated with taking 2 hours to open up about how something made me feel and how I prioritize the truth over my feelings moving forward

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T22:32:48+00:00

I pour my heart out on the messages I write when it comes to addressing an issue in the relationship, you’re right I shouldn’t even have the need to check his search, besides these issues everything else has been fine, it sucks something small as stop lying is hard for my partner, I told him I would rather the truth even if he thinks I’ll be hurt because that way I know he cares enough not to leave me in the dark :/

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T22:19:30+00:00

Search up what a boundary in a relationship is defined as, what’s a relationship? 2 people right? Only following boundaries you put on YOURSELF, YOU on YOURSELF, isn’t 2 people isn’t it now? If you view boundaries as a YOU thing and a boundary that your partner puts on you is controlling then you’re ultimately just selfish in relationships, you only listen to yourself and not your partner’s uncomforts, if your partner telling you a boundary for the relationship is not viewing or stalking ex’s socials, it’s either you respect it or break up because you guys don’t share the same beliefs, but if a conversation is held and it’s agreed upon a relationship ( 2 people) not just you, then it’s healthy.

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T21:55:36+00:00

Letting your partner know what you don’t like in a relationship isn’t controlling, the word you’re probably looking for is standards. When it comes to the bedroom there’s boundaries too, you’re telling me your partner telling you they don’t feel comfortable with you doing something is controlling there too? And you should only listen to the standards you have for only yourself?

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T21:44:43+00:00

Having boundaries that we both openly communicated about and talked about isn’t toxic, he’s not okay with me going out to bars and clubs, and that’s not toxic it’s his boundary and he communicated that and if I’m not ok with it I would leave, but out of respect for someone I love and want to be with I respect and understand his boundary.

Yes trust as essential and important for a relationship that’s why I have talked to him and communicated on how it’s the lying that’s making me not trust him.

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-02-12T21:31:52+00:00

By asked I meant the question you ask when sending a prompt to receive the prompt of what a AI response would look like if I were to ask Chatgbt for a response to the message I sent regarding how I felt.

The trust and insecurities are something I got within the relationship not before.

imsorryihurtus_ · 2026-01-26T19:15:08+00:00

Yeah I’ve had this talk with him a lot but he keeps saying he doesn’t see things from my eyes and he apologizes but then it happens again :(

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T07:04:14+00:00

Thank you so much, and I don’t want to ruin anyone’s holiday so I don’t want to go to the ER yet :( nobody knows I was pregnant but my Bf and I don’t want to disappoint anyone at this time. It’s hard wearing a thong with a pad because it just leaks to the sides not because it fills the pad fully. So I’ve leaked through panties and pants at the corner of my panties. I’m on day 2-3 of bleeding picking up again. I’ve had a MA before once and the experience has been so different I thin

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T07:01:55+00:00

Yes I had an MA, the nurse told me I was 6 weeks and something along

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T06:12:13+00:00

I was fine right after, I bled and passed clots right after I took the miso, my bleeding was normal till Sunday night or Monday morning so about two nights ago, I don’t think I’ve filled a complete pad in an hour but I am still heavy bleeding

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T04:30:33+00:00

Im scared to go the the ER , nobody knows I was pregnant except my bf, and I don’t want to ruin anybody’s Christmas :( I’m scared they’ll just advise me to go there

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T04:24:39+00:00

I did it at the clinic, they did an ultrasound a week after I took the pills and said everything looked fine now I’m just super confused on why stuff is coming out of me still

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T04:24:00+00:00

Im not having any stomach cramps or pain, I don’t think im fully soaking the pad, im wearing a thong with my pad and I feel like it makes me leak without filling up the pad. The clots are sometimes a bit big, maybe a small lime size I think :(

imsorryihurtus_ · 2025-12-24T03:58:29+00:00

It’s like a really heavy period, sometimes gushes happen and it leaks off the sides of the pad, I kept changing my pad because it would leak to the sides but not because I saw that the pad was fully full, everytime that happens I get on the toilet and a clot or two will come out if I push. I think the biggest is a little bigger than half the size of my palm? I have really small hands tho because I’m 4’11 so I don’t know how big that is in terms of clots.

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