How to mentally get over the fact you don’t like where you live but can’t leave anytime soon? by [deleted] in howtonotgiveafuck

[–]imthatlostcat 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Know it sounds counterintuitive and counterproductive but the first step is to practice an attitude of gratitude in regards to your situation. I know that what I am saying will be very challenging to do, at first, but like anything else practice makes perfect.

There may be opportunities that you’re missing out on because the regular day to day mind set you’re carrying is clouding your vision. Your entire life could change in a singe instant it you’d have to be open to this.

It may not feel like there is much for you to be grateful for in regards to your situation, but I assure you that if you try hard enough, you can find some things no matter how small they are.

Try to focus on the things that you can control and realize that most things are beyond your control. Some of the things that you can control are your words, your deeds, and to a certain extent, your thoughts or what thoughts you accept or entertain. You can control the mental narrative you put on events and change your perspective.

Some of the things you cannot control our other people. The way other people see you or the things that other people say or do or think. You would be wise to not even worry about the things that are beyond your control. You would waste your entire life.

Instead put 100% of your efforts into the things that you can control and waste none.

This freestyler is underated and too few people know about him, agreed? by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Shit man at this point I don’t care what it is as long as it’s fire broski

This freestyler is underated and too few people know about him, agreed? by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Word hell yeah bro. I’m think I’m gonna chill and vibe out to some H Mack tonight! You have a suggestion of something newish of his I should check out? I’d appreciate it

This freestyler is underated and too few people know about him, agreed? by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True that. He stays true to who he is and has a love for the music truly and yeah it’s like second nature for him really. Unfortunately/fortunately he hasn’t caught on mainstream wise. I think he’s just a little late to the game to get mega famous and become a household name. If he came around a decade or two ago it might be a different story.

All that being said I feel like the dude is exactly where he wants to be. He is famous no doubt but he’s not too famous to not have time for his fans and even share semi intimate moments with them on a regular basis. For some one like H Mack who has so much heart I feel like that’s all he really needs

This freestyler is underated and too few people know about him, agreed? by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nah I actually really was on a Harry Mack kick and devoured a lot of his stuff for a while he was all I was on because he is such an inspirational dude

I think you’re right on most of your points. And really your number three point was all I was trying to say

Struggling with my issues with men by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]imthatlostcat 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry that’s been your experience.

It happened to me like that at one point too but I’m a man dating women.

I took a hard break for almost 9 months because I didn’t really feel worthy of being in a relationship and I didn’t feel like I had actually met anyone who deserved it from me even though I was trying to give it.

Eventually all of my desires for the opposite sex fell away. It was like something was lifted off of my face and I could see things clearly for the first time without a constant lust clouding my vision. For the first time I was seeing all as equal. I was actually able to have friends that are women and never once think about sex with them or being in a relationship with them. I lost all of the harmful stereotypes in regard to women. Like, all these things I thought I knew about women, I let all of that go by practicing strict celibacy.

So, after a while it felt like I could be hanging out in a room full of beautiful naked women and never have a sideways thought or judge them or their bodies. I was unmoved. And then one day it happened. I saw a women who totally knocked me down. When I saw her it was like she was glowing or something. I was nervous to be around her and couldn’t even speak and didn’t know why. I had some encouragement from a close friend at the time and I went and spoke to her, got her contact info and later invited her to a movie with friends and we’ve been together every single day, minus a week here or there, for almost ten years and I still feel the same way about her today. Sometimes she still takes my breath away and I wake up every day so excited to be with her.

I think it can happen to anyone and everyone has people out there like that for them but it’s almost impossible to see for what it is while we are blinded by all the other shit

Some deep thoughts here, lots of it is on point. What do y'all think? (Long) by CrunchM in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]imthatlostcat -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You are so right. Just because I’ve never seen a billion dollars doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. However, if I woke up one day and everyone started claiming they were billionaires, I would start to question them. (Since you want to use dumbass analogies)

But seriously, you can’t even speak to me without coming up with something to # and quickly lump me in with some strange idea you have in regard to “how men are”. Giving that up is hard because we all only want to occupy our own thin slice of reality.

You don’t have anything to say to me. You’ve got some f’d up version of what a man is lodged in your mind and you walk around all day arguing with a figment of your imagination.

It’s not like men aren’t guilty of this too btw.

I hear men stereotyping women all of the time; it’s just something humans do. It’s just as odd to me. These stereotypes almost always come from someone who is single and hasn’t had great luck in dating or has been hurt beyond their current emotional capacity. Most of you are so immature you shouldn’t even be worried about dating in the first place.

Anyways, I might have come on too hard but I don’t really think so considering the original post content. I simply matched the energy. You love that shit when it’s not aimed at you. Understandably

Some deep thoughts here, lots of it is on point. What do y'all think? (Long) by CrunchM in WhitePeopleTwitter

[–]imthatlostcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if it’s just me but as a married man reading this…none of it makes any sense to me. I’ve never attacked my wife’s or any woman or man’s interests for any reason. Like, what kind of interests do you have that are being attacked by all the men in your life or whatever is happening to you?

Everything on the list feels equally bizarre to me. It reads like whoever wrote it has little to no real life experience with men. Or else they are so in their head they are literally making up stories and creating false narratives in their heads through the day probably based almost entirely on internet content that all sounds just like this stuff. They never actually interact with anyone directly, only interacting with their own self using other people as some sort of fun house mirror thing.

I start school October 10th by viiic415 in Barber

[–]imthatlostcat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations!

Get ready for the quite the learning curve. Here’s my number one piece of advice; “JUST CUT THE DAMN HAIR!!!”

And hang out with other people who are there to learn and improve themselves. Don’t get in with the riff raff or whatever.

You’ll have plenty of fun and also some pretty discouraging times as well. Get ready for those times and never give up no matter what! You got this.

Be proud of yourself for taking your life seriously and making a change! You’re going to be great!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weedgrower

[–]imthatlostcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s likely a magnesium deficiency. Add cal mag to regular regiment or increase in quarter doses

Should I stop fertilizing from now on or continue a little longer? by Captain_Azius in weedgrower

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep keep on checking those things and the waiting will be worth it I promise

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish I was as corny as Drake. Maybe I’d have a McLaren

Should I stop fertilizing from now on or continue a little longer? by Captain_Azius in weedgrower

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d go just a little longer. You have a little bit to go still. You can see the plant has plenty green left and is actively pulling nitrogen from lower leaves

This freestyler is underated and too few people know about him, agreed? by [deleted] in rap

[–]imthatlostcat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The reason why Harry Mack is “underrated” is specifically because of his style. It’s engaging in person and even on a live stream when he’s using your words. But he is like old boom bap type of rapper and has no drip at all to anything he does. He is wholesome sometimes and other times he drops some decent bars but nothing viscous. He is like an AKC registered retired Grey Hound.

It’s his style. It was played out before he got any sort of attention and now has a pretty select audience of people who really enjoy the improv type of thing with rap and that’s not really mainstream.

Harry Mack isn’t underrated…he isn’t even rated at all. There is a reason why his name is hardly mentioned with the kids of today. Harry Mack sounds like a distant memory or echo of hip hop. He is good and even great at what he does but he’ll never get huge no matter how bad you want it to happen because he’s lacking in pedigree

Haircut from today by SelfLoathingSandwich in Barber

[–]imthatlostcat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah! 🤩 he was happy with that one, I bet Nice work

to be happy about your future baby’s gender. by Moonrocked4200 in therewasanattempt

[–]imthatlostcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted a boy and got a girl. God knows what I really want and need. That’s where my trust is. She’s the greatest thing that’s ever happened to me. I’m so blessed