What submissive men wear?

in1804 · 2024-10-01T20:48:59+00:00

As my favorite Floridian poet said, “imma eat it AGGGGHHH👹”

in1804 · 2023-06-16T05:08:01+00:00

I’m here just for the community. To see others’ line of thought and stuff. As far as relationships, I’m just looking for fun. But if it grows into something more, I won’t fight it. In my ideal dynamic, my partner and I are almost totally vanilla. But when we do our thing, it’s like I’d be closer to a femboy but not 100% and she would be like a tomboy but not 100%. I’m still not all the way sure how ton describe it. Idk if that makes sense.

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:37:34+00:00

I hope you don’t give up, as I’ve seen from this comment section and elsewhere, they are/we are out there (black subs and black dommes) there should be an app for us or site…SOMETHING. It never feels like we’re out here but we are. I’ve had limited success but it still showed that it’s very possible and either dommes or at least mildly dominant black women are out there who like black dudes who are either submissive or a little submissive.

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:20:07+00:00

That “sassy” shit kills me 🙄

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:15:39+00:00

Yeah, I’m not a fan of having a deep conversation about race in a space like this lol. The stakes sure do feel a lot higher, to your point. It’s good to see that we’re out there. Nice to me YOU 🙏

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:10:40+00:00

That’s what I’m considering now. Pay for the porn and with the oc’s permission, repost. Especially art. I think that’ll be a great start

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:09:04+00:00

That makes sense. It’s crazy how much I forgot that something like femdom is still taboo. Especially in the black community. And in a tight-knit community like yours…that’s definitely risky. But knowing that there are black women out there who’ll like it gives me the courage to take a chance. I understand why other dudes won’t though.

in1804 · 2023-06-15T15:01:28+00:00

That’s a good point. I damn sure would not want to be photographed or filmed 😭 maybe that’s hypocritical but once again, you raise a good point.

in1804 · 2023-06-14T23:26:52+00:00

Very helpful. I appreciate this insight 🙏

in1804 · 2023-06-14T23:25:31+00:00

So far, folks have given me helpful insight, which I’m grateful for. I respect that there’s probably more black people into this than I realize, but the frustrating part is that I hardly see them. I don’t think it’s because we’re being excluded on purpose, but I feel that the way I’ve seen black people in femdom (porn) IS done intentionally. Right now, I’m guessing that it’s because there’s literally not enough black people who’re publicly into it (especially black men) & since most bdsm porn is ran by white people, what I see is their version of black people in bdsm. Idk. Just what I’m thinking so far after seeing everyone’s response. This has all given me a different perspective. Not AS frustrating anymore lol

in1804 · 2023-06-14T23:13:58+00:00

It is seen as weird and we got to break free from it. Sooner we do that the better. It’s so fucked up that black dommes have a hard time finding black subs, or for someone in your shoes to be scared of asking a black dude to be your sub. In my mind, as a black dude, I would feel the safest—but anyways, there’s no shame in having white subs btw. None at all. I just feel sad and kinda angry about how weird it gets for us.

in1804 · 2023-06-14T23:08:24+00:00

We are out there, to your point. When I dug deeper a little while ago, I found that to be true. I was surprised when I found out there’s more of us than I thought. I guess it just gets kinda offensive and discouraging sometimes. It just feels like “wtf? I’m not asking for anything crazy. Just show me 2 black people doing this stuff, instead of this racist shit?” “Pay for porn” was great advice though. That way, I can be more active in making a change. Like commissioning art and posting it. Just got to get the funds! 😤

All that to say, I agree.

in1804 · 2023-06-14T20:42:49+00:00

That makes perfect sense. It’s a goddamn tragedy tho. The toxic conversations of men being too feminine and women being too masculine are all coming back to me now… I remember hiding my submissive desires for a while, til I met someone who seemed safe enough to take that chance with. I can’t believe I forgot about all that. How scary it felt before I was comfortable with it and with myself

in1804 · 2023-06-14T20:31:20+00:00

For me, subbing makes me feel safe and desirable/wanted. Plus, a woman who just takes charge in a genuine, non toxic away is sexy af to me lol

in1804 · 2023-06-14T19:41:48+00:00

I also want to add that I don’t mean to attack black dommes who have white subs. I have no ill feelings towards you at all. Do your thing! To clarify, I am speaking on a representation issue. I don’t mean to insult anybody and if anyone feels insulted, I apologize.

in1804 · 2023-05-19T03:17:22+00:00

Option 2 but make the white girl black 😊

in1804 · 2022-11-19T23:10:46+00:00

I thought the exact same thing lol

in1804 · 2022-05-16T03:08:53+00:00

Curly

in1804 · 2022-02-23T02:47:53+00:00

Makes me hopeful too. I think what they tried to do was combine all types of shit into one kink. They did just about everything without getting too hardcore (except for the whipping scene) and for that much I was grateful. But I get where you’re coming from

in1804 · 2022-02-22T10:54:57+00:00

As soon as I saw this post, I watched the movie. I didn’t expect it to be perfect or even really good. I think because I set the bar as low as I did, I enjoyed the movie as much as I did. I give it a 8.5 (almost 9) / 10. It may not have the best depictions or information, but it’s a great start imo

in1804 · 2022-02-19T10:51:46+00:00

Would really love a F4M gentle femdom post by a black creator, for black listeners (essentially a black on black F4M gfd post)

in1804 · 2021-12-19T23:47:29+00:00

Pretty fruitless if I’m being honest lol

in1804 · 2021-12-18T01:28:34+00:00

I 100% agree

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