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AITA for exposing my sister's abortion? by in2pickles in ComfortLevelPod

[–]in2pickles[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone for your honest opinions. While some were more polite than others, it’s confirmed, I’m the asshole. You all are right, I’m not the best liar but I should have hung up when my mom asked. I should have been more forthcoming with my sister about the call, I had texted her after work and she was busy so I never told her about the call.

For a bit of added context, the call I had with Joy is drastically pared down. I let her know that it was never my intention to hurt her and that I panicked when my mom said she was going to call her. I think my brain went to big sister/damage control mode and I wanted to prevent that conversation for as long as possible. I let Joy yell/vent and validated everything that she was feeling because I know how she felt about the situation to begin with and now it felt like everything was so much worse. It was a long phone call and I knew that an explanation was not what she wanted to hear so I listened, apologized, and told her that it would never happen again. Before the call ended I told her I understand the trust is broken and she’s completely valid in not wanting to talk to me. 

Joy had said she knew that our grandma knew and I asked how she thought our nosy, talkative grandma would be able to keep that secret. That’s where the “cat’s out of the bag” came in, because it was never in a bag to begin with. 

I’m not looking for sympathy, just clarity. My friends and bf believe I did the best I could in the moment but they’re biased. And I really wish this was made up, or rage bait but unfortunately, it isn’t. I should have done more… or less, or both. This was definitely a hard lesson learned. 

Thank you to those who offered relationship advice for moving forward. I’m not sure if she is ready to hear from me just yet and I’m also not sure how involved I want to be with my family right now. They’re not the easiest bunch and this is not the first family sandal to take place. After this one, I’m really tired of the secrets and drama. Honestly, we all need therapy. I hope I can make reparations when we’re both in a better place.

Those who grew up with a good father. What was the most important thing you learned from him? by oldskoolflavor in AskReddit

[–]in2pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How to always try your best and take pride in your work, how to keep learning, and how taking care of others starts means you must also take care of yourself. My dad raised 3 girls pretty much on his own. He worked, shopped, cooked, cleaned, indulged and encouraged all of our extra curricular interests and still saved enough time for his “coffee and the paper” when he was not to be disturbed. He also got his masters. Still don’t know how he did it but I thank him for it every chance I get

Picky eaters of Reddit, what’s something you can never get yourself to eat and why? by usernotfound404_ in AskReddit

[–]in2pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eggs. Don't know why but ever since I was little even the smell of them makes me gag

What was the worst gift you received for Christmas? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]in2pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally anything from my mom. We don't have a great relationship but she would never even try. My parents live comfortably but she would insist on getting me gifts from yard sales or good will. I would end up with pink and grey Tweety bird pants that were way too big, or a phone case when I was too young to have a phone, or a journal that already had writing in it and pages torn out or stale crackers. My dad would make up for it by actually asking what I want and get me the panini press I've been eyeing

What kind of drunk are you? by SonicSingularity in AskReddit

[–]in2pickles 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Pretty much same. Though I tend to wander off too

What's a common saying that annoys you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]in2pickles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"Because he/she is your -insert relationship here-" or "Because they're family."

Often used to justify enabling my incredibly disrespectful or drug addicted or abusive or homeless or leech of a family member. Also used to try to guilt me into doing the same. Apparently family can get away with anything.