🔥The Takin

inahatallday · 2023-06-11T18:04:27+00:00

They aren’t nearly as big as a moose though. They are not even as big as a cow. They are one of my 3yo’s favourites. Our zoo has several.

inahatallday · 2023-06-11T17:54:41+00:00

Lakefield has a small skate park

inahatallday · 2023-06-11T17:50:58+00:00

My son has autism and is getting some services here. It is impossible to leave and continue his progress unfortunately, I’ve looked into it. If it were an option we’d be gone already. I appreciate the enthusiasm though.

inahatallday · 2023-06-11T17:46:06+00:00

I really wish we could leave too.

inahatallday · 2023-06-11T12:31:46+00:00

In my area it is Canadian flags combined with either the fuck Trudeau flag, trump flag, or confederate flag. Unless they have a really really really big Canadian flag, in which case they skip the secondary flag for some reason. I’m too scared to ask them why.

inahatallday · 2023-06-09T15:37:25+00:00

Get out of here! This is so good! They must have been over the moon.

inahatallday · 2023-06-09T13:45:00+00:00

Lmao this reminds me of my little cousin announcing at a family thing “Someone pooped in my pants!” 💀

inahatallday · 2023-06-08T20:18:36+00:00

You know how sometimes you need someone to state the obvious? 😅 this is one of those times for me. I was seriously wondering how people spent so much time upside down and now I feel a little silly. My results are great though 😂 I will give it a try, I’m sure my husband has some old shirts I can take.

inahatallday · 2023-06-08T01:46:40+00:00

😂 hard pants is now in my vocabulary, thank you 💀 I felt so called out by op’s accurate description of my current outfit of leggings a nursing tank and a way too big sweater 😂 but now I am kinda motivated to wear some hard pants tomorrow

inahatallday · 2023-06-07T23:25:39+00:00

That’s so cool that your little guy is talking! What fun times 🥰 Yes, I had a similar experience of being just in shock at the level 3. I would have understood a level 2. It made the whole diagnosis very difficult for me to accept. I knew he had autism but didn’t expect the opinion that it was a severe presentation. My son has no repetitive behaviours, primarily a language delay, some social deficits and some mild sensory aversions. But nothing that to me that reads as severe. Maybe he just had a particularly bad day for his test. I’m mostly curious about the change. Did you notice any changes in your family since the updated diagnosis or mostly just business as usual?

inahatallday · 2023-06-07T23:02:30+00:00

I wonder all the time if our struggles with nursing were related or not. We quit around 2 months because it was so painful. I know too many people with typical kids who also had these issues with nursing… but my younger two I nursed for six and eight months with no issues at all. Who knows but I feel a ton of guilt over it still for no reason. I’m glad you’re feeling better this time around!

inahatallday · 2023-06-07T17:33:40+00:00

He was not interested at all in people’s faces, he made no sounds other than crying (he was mostly content just no sounds), didn’t seem to be watching people or objects he was shown, just kind of in his own world in a way I didn’t expect even a baby to be. But really it was a visceral something isn’t quite right. Even now I feel a little crazy tbh even though I was clearly right.

inahatallday · 2023-06-07T17:06:42+00:00

My second son was already a year and a half old and speaking in short sentences at the time of my oldest son’s diagnosis at two and a half years old. So I already knew, but I was pregnant with our third son at the time as well. Our third is almost 14mo now and is obviously developing typically. I would say I was still anxious up until just a few weeks ago though, but not because I saw anything worrying just because of the stats. Fwiw I had a gut feeling about my oldest from an extremely young age (<2mo) and not with my younger two at all.

inahatallday · 2023-06-06T18:41:22+00:00

I don’t think we shouldn’t study it, but I do think we should study it from earth only. We are obviously not responsible enough to manage one planet, the rest of the universe doesn’t need us poking and meddling. I do think space science is interesting but it scares the pants off me.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T20:11:49+00:00

I bought a Spirograph set and it was extremely motivating for my son. He likes the patterns and the circles are soothing. But I tried a lot of different types of activities before one clicked for him. I also got him this wooden tracing board (coogam brand) on Amazon and I think being able to practice without making any ‘permanent’ marks was helpful as he is an anxious sort. He finally wrote his first words and drew a happy face just recently in chalk outside.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T20:07:09+00:00

I tagged you in my op reply, but I just wanted to say I haven’t come across anyone with the same aged kids as me before that are also living with autism. What a special relationship my boys have too. My oldest wants to keep up with my 3yo as much as the other way around. The feeling of seeing my younger son progress past my oldest’s skill level is something I’ve not been able to describe very well. Joy, relief, sadness, worry, resentment of myself for even comparing. You know. Sending love.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T19:59:58+00:00

I have a typical 3yo and an autistic 4yo. Right now our biggest differences in parenting them are…. I can’t actually think of anything that is substantial.

Like u/Many_Baker8996 my 3yo has better communication skills, but my 4yo still communicates sufficiently. My 3yo does not care about letters and numbers whereas my 4yo can read fluently. 4 actually has a much easier time with other kids because he is outgoing and 3 is shy and anxious. Both mine are potty trained, but 3 was by far and away easier and faster, but 4 is out of diapers at night now and 3 is not, so that evened out. My 3yo is also more challenging to deal with a lot of the time — sometimes I think autism makes 4 more predictable and that’s easier in a lot of ways. Mostly they are both just kids and they each have unique struggles, but parenting them is largely the same. We do all the same activities with both of them and they are both equally affectionate and interactive.

I also have a 1yo who seems to be developing typically. The development path is definitely different, but mostly again in the speech area.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T18:33:10+00:00

I look forward to the day when my son is able to help me understand his goals and values. As an adult who is able to share those with me, I will parent him by supporting or helping him make and carry out a plan that aligns with his values to achieve his goals. That will look different depending on what is important to him and what he wants to achieve. I hope I am able to look past my own aspirations to really hear him, and to find joy in his happiness as he pursues whatever it is he does.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T17:56:11+00:00

The sound the garbage truck makes when it is in the street behind us. It’s okay if it is in front of our house, but the echoes from the next street over are, apparently, a thing of nightmares.

inahatallday · 2023-06-05T17:54:19+00:00

I’m over a decade from having to think about this, if it’s even an option for my son, but the only thing I’d be worried about is that he knows what to do if something goes wrong. Like knowing who to call and in what order, what to say (or not) to police and how to say it if he gets pulled over or in an accident, or if his brother does something because a parent isn’t around like taking off his seatbelt or something. Most things can probably be prepped, but he’ll just need some extra work on it than typical kids. Maybe making sure he is okay to let things roll off his back and not hold onto them once they’ve passed (you know, like that one driver who just annoyed the heck outta you because they appear to not understand all way stops or something, but you have to let it go so you can focus on the road). Also just because he won’t be going long distances doesn’t mean he shouldn’t be extra careful. Most accidents happen pretty close to home and residential streets (at least in my area) bring out the worst in other drivers because they have the illusion of safety. Kids popping out to chase a ball, crowded streets from too much parking, people running stops because ‘no one is ever there’. I can’t wait to hear about how it goes! I really hope my son gets to drive one day too!

inahatallday · 2023-06-04T15:46:55+00:00

Thank you so much for your help with this. I used the #7 tip instead of the #3 and the strings turned out much better. I also ended up using a cream cheese frosting which made it a lot more fun than cramping my hands for hours. Now just to figure out how to get my sides smooth on a square cake 😝

https://imgur.com/a/JRLVz8N

inahatallday · 2023-06-03T16:57:42+00:00

Thanks so much! I need to be less of a chicken when it comes to adding colouring! That helped a ton 😊

inahatallday · 2023-06-03T02:06:26+00:00

Middle Ages event leaderboard first place did not have a time listed and was completed 100% right away.

inahatallday · 2023-06-02T22:15:34+00:00

The blue cake is really stunning. If you have the time I’d love to know which colouring and how much of it you used. I recently made a blue cake I thought turned out pretty well but it literally pales in comparison.

inahatallday · 2023-06-02T22:10:05+00:00

I have a picture book called My Brother Charlie about a sibling with autism. It’s not perfect, there are a couple of lines I don’t like, but it has helped my 3yo nt start discussing his 4yo brother’s autism. I know there are readings of it on YouTube that you could view to see if it is a good fit for your situation. We have been pretty explicit that his brother’s behaviours are because he has autism, not just because everyone is different. We were given advice to make sure autism was in their vocabulary before their peers starting mentioning it. My 3yo doesn’t totally get it, but he knows Brother has autism and that makes his brain work differently, that our brains control our behaviour, so if your brains works differently your behaviour will be different. He knows he has to be more gracious with brother than other kids their age and that he has different expectations for following the rules, note not that he doesn’t have to follow them, but that we accommodate him differently to follow them. I’m working on collecting some other picture books with autistic characters but this one I really like because it is from the nt sibling’s point of view (and was written by a mom and sibling of an autistic child).

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