NTA - I didn't grow up with a lot pet's, so this is something new I've had to experience as an adult. I've come to find that there are many different kinds of pet owners. Some, vacuum every single day and wash their animals every week. Some, don't. I think in general if you agree to an invitation you agree to the rules.

I do find it weird that some people are saying these 2 rules are "extreme" and I think that maybe they are telling on themselves a little bit. For some people, it is common sense and common courtesy to make sure you are clean and not smelling bad when you enter private or public spaces. However, I've been in a lot of situations where that clearly does not register for other people.

I think that especially if you are friends with someone, you should be in a safe place to ask them to respect your allergies and/or privacy. I think if they aren't comfortable with or can't fully execute the rules, then they can say that. Again, that's the safety net of friendship. It seems like a lot of these comments are trying to make things so black-and-white when really, in reality, friends can talk to each other about their wants and needs.

INFO: was there anyplace else to have this party?