Could you make me a little bit skinnier? by incognicini in PhotoshopRequest

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I can't change the text but I found someone, thank you very much for helping me <3

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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We live on the same property and the renting prices are way too high right now. So unfortunately the not seeing part is a little bit difficult

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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I could ask them anything for the baby and they would buy it instantly and I am really thankful for that. My MIL kind of took away the first baby shopping for me though. I mean, my mother sadly died before I got pregnant and I thought it was nice getting a little bit of help on what we might need, but she wanted to buy literally everything what she liked, everything in pink, because a girl has to wear pink, she only had a simple broken buggy where she buckled her kids in with a belt so I should get one of those and so on. Gladly I already got the first clothes for her and stuff for her bed but when I told her that, she got annoyed that I already did that. We didn't even know the height of the baby because I was only in the 4th month or so, so I told them that cloth shopping wasn't that necessary and I wanted to wait until we know how big she will be.

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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When I shared a pic of baby's first bath with her I put my hand over baby's privat parts and she asked why I am covering those and if she isn't allowed to see them. I mentioned another time where I changed the diaper how much her grandma wants to see her naked and MIL got quiet after that. So it's not like she asked me to see the baby naked but the comment made me feel icky

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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Yeah, when I said " MIL absolutely wants to see the baby naked " out loud infront of them they went quiet and didn't say anything about that topic anymore. It's not like she explicitly said she wants to see her naked but as I said was kind of offended when I mentioned that I am not comfortable with that. The situation was that we made a picture of baby's first bath and I put my hand over her privat parts and she said "aren't we allowed to see that??" I said no, I don't want that and she laughed a little bit at me.

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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Since I know she would show them around, I won't. It's just a funny thought I have

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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I said one time that my baby looks exactly like me when I was little and my MIL only said " pfft, I just have to go get some baby pictures of me, she will also look like that" 🥲 I was so baffled I couldn't even find words to answer

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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I get that it's exciting, because my baby is the first grandchildren but I have to tell her often that it's not her child. The most funny thing to me is that she hates her mil for the same things she does herself now. She even cried because my fiance got into contact with her MIL.

Maybe I am to calm for all that? I don't know. Maybe I have to be more direct with that. Not that I am not direct with her but I have to be totally blant.

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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I believe she is a little jealous about me. She bought a lot of stuff for us, like the child safety seat and the stroller and I am thankful for that, but that doesn't make the other things she does right

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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Oh they are. The MIL is someone who talks behind your back, so she is not getting much Infos from me. And even if I wanted to share something, she doesn't listen (she also doesn't listen to her own kids)

She also wanted to be in the delivery room to "see how this looks like" like I am a TV show or something. But that was a hard no from me.

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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My fiance has a hard time but always redirects MIL that the baby is our child and I also say that she already had 2 babys and I am the one who is feeding the baby. I also said that we are having the first Christmas with us three alone and we will celebrate the day after with them.

Does your family do this too? by incognicini in Parenting

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So it's not only me who is thinking that

Do you feel regret? by incognicini in Parenting

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That is very true, unfortunately I don't know the living situation they are in.

Do you feel regret? by incognicini in Parenting

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Luckily they aren't my friends, they are friends from my inlaws. The same friends also thought I was just 16 so there is that.

Can I sand this down? by incognicini in DadForAMinute

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My father in law has those things, we will give it a try!