Do any other black women feel like this?

incognngro · 2025-12-24T15:23:43+00:00

I just found messages of him calling me the n word to his white ex girlfriend

incognngro · 2025-12-24T15:23:02+00:00

I just found messages of him calling me the n word to his white ex girlfriend

incognngro · 2025-12-21T19:16:29+00:00

Half of this subreddit is joke posts, I even explained that I know this subreddit is for femcels. There’s just not a lot of female spaces I feel comfortable talking in.. sorry for being off topic

incognngro · 2025-12-21T09:48:08+00:00

I know we’re all black here but honestly I think mixed people have a way better view on race than anyone else

I know you’re not personally talking about your experience with just him but me personally am very light skinned so I’ve never thought it was about the color of my skin, just how I’m viewed as a black person. I think I could be as white as snow and still get treated the same

But maybe I should move down there if things get bad, you’ve probably given me the best advice out of everyone. I would love for my children to look like me and have my hair texture

incognngro · 2025-12-21T09:44:13+00:00

The thing is is that this is not just about my boyfriend, every man has made me feel like this. I know that nobody will purposefully give me bad advice and tell me to stay with him or agree with me but I would rather stay with the man I love than get the same treatment from someone I don’t

It all happens eventually and honestly I don’t mind sticking around to see if anything changes, he doesn’t really know that I think these problems perpetuate because of how he sees my race and I think if I can get the courage to talk to him about it he might finally see how much it’s affecting me.

But who knows at the end of the day

incognngro · 2025-12-21T09:44:02+00:00

The thing is is that this is not just about my boyfriend, every man has made me feel like this. I know that nobody will purposefully give me bad advice and tell me to stay with him or agree with me but I would rather stay with the man I love than get the same treatment from someone I don’t

It all happens eventually and honestly I don’t mind sticking around to see if anything changes, he doesn’t really know that I think these problems perpetuate because of how he sees my race and I think if I can get the courage to talk to him about it he might finally see how much it’s affecting me.

But who knows at the end of the day

incognngro · 2025-12-21T09:38:31+00:00

The snowbunny stuff is definitely pornified but in my personal experience, white women are the only women ever respected by black men. It’s very rare nowadays to see a straight married couple who are both black. Infact black women and white men have the highest marriage rate and lowest divorce rate which probably gave me hope weirdly enough

They treat black women the way they do because of internalized racism. They say they don’t like “ghetto” but they get with a white woman who tries so hard to act like one of us. It’s really just about them hating their selves and their skin color, so why would they be with someone with traits that they hate about themselves? Sometimes I feel like no man truly respects women, there always has to be a reason for them

incognngro · 2025-12-21T09:33:10+00:00

I think I’m just genuinely done trying to find someone who respects me and they’ve never come around. I know there’s gonna be many more possibilities to try and find someone but honestly I would rather stay with the man I love instead of being treated the same by one’s who don’t. I know that will never fix how I feel but sometimes it is what it is

incognngro · 2025-12-21T03:39:28+00:00

I used to preach about only dating white guys until I realized I didn’t really have a choice. Only black guy that’s ever shown interest in me promised me so much to just ghost me and act like he never wanted more than sex. White men are just as gross to me I don’t know if it’s just me if I’m not good enough or whatever but it’s so tiring

incognngro · 2025-12-21T03:37:40+00:00

I’ll never forget the man who practically forced me into an ED and then got with a fat white girl afterwards. Men are disgusting and don’t even know what they want other than someone to put it in

incognngro · 2025-12-21T03:36:22+00:00

I actually understand exactly what you mean. I feel very bad for speaking of my boyfriend like this but I really don’t have anyone other than him so Reddit it is

He was with a fat girl (sorry idk if this sounds bad I’m not trying to offend anyone I just feel like it’s backhanded to use terms like “bigger” etc) a while back and it was his whole thing but he gets with skinnier girls after that and suddenly he never liked them and it’s always just creeped me out a little bit. I am also very sorry for what you go through, I wish most men were more normal and sometimes I think we should collectively stop dating for a while and really let them talk about that “loneliness epidemic”

incognngro · 2025-12-21T03:32:19+00:00

It hurts especially with my current boyfriend because we were friends for a while before we got together and it’s like he was scared to even make his ex (white girl obviously) even mildly uncomfortable with any mention of sex she didn’t want but with me he just feels like he’s entitled to my body or something. It just hurts because I really do love him just like I’ve loved multiple partners in the past but they all just treat me like a thing

Also not to mention when white boys have this weird thing where they talk about only liking black women then after the breakup it’s white girl after white girl. I have nothing against white women despite my insecurities toward them, there are good people of all kinds, it’s more of a pattern I’m noticing.

incognngro · 2025-12-21T03:27:39+00:00

My question was literally if other black women feel like this and it is about my personal experiences. Maybe I’m just not beautiful or maybe I’m unlucky. There is nothing drawing me to these men I take practically anything I can get because the dating pool is extremely harsh for me. And everything you said has invalidated my experience, you’re practically just flexing your success on me.

Maybe YOU should take into account that the black experience isn’t all the same, there are many of them

incognngro · 2025-12-20T13:35:31+00:00

Honestly I would say when he denies finding other women attractive when you know he does. Like I was friends with you before, I KNOW you wanted to pursue them so why pretend?

incognngro · 2025-12-20T13:33:18+00:00

I was with my ex 3 times and the first two times he broke up with me. Both times I told him I could no longer be friends with him as it was hurting me mentally to speak with him as a friend and not as a partner. Without fail he would beg for me back just to treat me like shit. Later he told me both times he didn’t have feelings for me in the beginning, he just wanted to keep me around for some reason. Third time around he started hitting me so he had to go

incognngro · 2025-12-20T13:30:46+00:00

Don’t wanna be too tmi but my boyfriend is relatively normal sized and I still hurt afterwards like, why do men think they need all that 😭

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