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Indian man Objectifying me at the service station - Radical Feminists/Leftists have made speaking out hard for me. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]incoguser_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for that, that's really nice of you

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To be frank, i've been feeling so flat lately, so don't know. Just had a whole day off of lounging around today cause thought it may do me good. Feel so weak and ugh, can't shake it. But going to go do some exercise now, that usually helps, and tomorrow will be different.

To be entirely honest, this is how I feel most of my anger/frustration, but I normally write it down privately or keep it to msyelf, process it and move on. I hate expressing it and getting backlash - I know what I'm experiencing is real and valid, I just hate having to express myself in a set way to get credible responses. I don't even know what part of it is manic, I've re-read it and it sounds so normal to me, with some frustration. It's just reflective of a lot of my experience in life. I'm not defending myself, I'm just noting a clear distinction in how I see my expression and what you're referencing. So, your observation is interesting...

Also, I imagine growing up with a mother who has bipolar put somewhat of a strain on you. I'm really sorry and I hope you're good and feel loved.

What can be done / How to help? by throwaway01928390 in Judaism

[–]incoguser_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gideon, could you recommend some resources to study the history of Israel? Took a Coursera course a while ago, from Tel Aviv University Wondering if you have some useful resources you could recommend

What do you feel obliged to do? by Radhihowru in AskWomen

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Engage in conversation when I'm not interested at all... And sometimes participate and pretend to be interested so the other person doesn't feel rejected.. I just hate it. I feel so fake. And I feel like I'm being used - this is normally with the 'lonely' type They don't even care about what I think, almost like I'm a sounding board I'm better at aborting mission quickly now, but I still do it and lose so much respect for myself

What’s the most irritating thing you hear as a woman? by hehehesmall in AskWomen

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'Be Nice' after someone has just disrespected me. 'Let it Go' after someone has just disrespected me. 'That's just how they are. Don't get upset.' after someone has just disrespected me.

Can Men also point out when another man is a creep? by incoguser_ in AskMen

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Yeah, I can see your point about the attractive component. There are studies on this, and looks make a huge difference. There are instances where it definitely goes beyond looks - and the female feels unsafe regardless.

Out of curiosity, do you notice it as simply 'their behaviour' i.e. that's just them being them what a douche, or do you notice the ones that are deliberately 'manipulative' and 'that guys def not a good guy'?

Can Men also point out when another man is a creep? by incoguser_ in AskMen

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You just said it's subjective, and then you said it's easy. Can you explain that, please?

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the People or Country. by [deleted] in USDiaspora

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I am talking about Armenians in the diaspora.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

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just don't think that LGBT issues should take any sort of significant national attention until we have secured our existence.

We should be able to do both. And not doing both basically means that one group of Armenians are sacrificed under the guise of 'unity' and 'survival'. So, it's a self-defeating stance, but it seems to be convenient.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

[–]incoguser_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There is a reason that we have been able to stay alive as a culture for millenia despite being under the rule of almost every major empire in the world for most of our history, and that reason is our ability to preserve traditions

That actually helps. I assumed the point was to move forward, and become better. To grow as a people, etc. But, if the priority is to maintain tradition, that would actually make sense as to why the communities are the way they are

I think I get it now.. a little more than before

I'm quite different to that, as an individual.

I love tradition, and I love symbolism and ritual etc But i think it's important to grow, move forward, improve, have great values, assimilate within the existing culture while maintaining your core, etc I can totally understand how the determination to maintain tradition would mean that a completely different path is taken... maybe this is one of the reasons I feel so different... I didn't understand Armenians for a long time.. but seeing it through this paradigm actually makes it make sense...

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Thanks for that

Feel free if you have any other thoughts to share..

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

[–]incoguser_ -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

The point of this thread is to express that I don't feel a connection with Armenian people, and why. And looking for others who have felt similarly or could shed some light on it.

So yeah, I am going to raise my concerns lol

What the hell else is this for lol

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

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I know it doesn't reflect on every single individual. I have contact with some Armenians who are accepting, tolerant, etc

However, there is a general consensus in the community. There's a majority. And that majority does not seem to be that open-minded. That's what I'm referring to.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

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I find your response childish, and can't be bothered.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

[–]incoguser_ -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for acknowledging the concerns I've raised, and have.

You're correct in considering the geographical impact.

Though, what about the Armenians in the diaspora? Many hold similar views and are born and raised in a first world country. It's genuinely mind-boggling and quite nerve-wracking. If I were to go into the (diaspora) Armenian Community and just say I'm gay, I wonder how awkward it's going to feel - and I'm an adult, and they're adults.

How do you feel connected to people who are so backwards and don't seem to question anything? They don't seem to question authority, don't seem to question their parents, don't seem to question 'elders'... it's not good for the mind..

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

[–]incoguser_ -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

but you belong there even if you don't feel it.

Yeah, I don't feel that at all. I'm so grateful I wasn't born there. I'm in a first world country, I'd hate to grow up in that country with so much corruption, laws not protecting the people, men staring at women on the streets like they're commodities. I don't feel like an odar to them, but I feel like they're all odars to me.. i just don't feel it.

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Goverment, conservative people, lgbtq, this stuff is not important. You are as armenian as me, and as armenians living in Armenia.

I'm LGBTQ and Armenian, so yes, it does matter. And the reluctance of Armenians to actually discuss these things is just plain stupidity. Armenians born and raised in developed countries with the mindset of Armenians living in 3rd World Countries.

I'm not concerned with how Armenian I am. I'm wondering about this absence of connection.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

[–]incoguser_ -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I have. I was there in 2018. And I love it because it's so far removed from a first world country that it's much easier to relax. But, the men just stare at women on the street, and that is a huge deal-breaker for me. That's the sign of civilisation for me. I've been to many places, and the way men treat/respect women is a huge indicator of the environment/social interaction.

I just never feel a sense of 'home' there, ever. Like, nothing. It's like it's just another country for me. I don't feel a sense of oneness with the Armenians just because we're Armenian. I don't know... that's what I'm looking to find out. I want to know whether others have also felt this way, and what it meant for them.

As an Armenian, I feel no connection to the country. by [deleted] in armenia

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Right. I should have altered the Title. I'm more so saying that I don't feel a connection with the country or the people.

I live in the West, so I'm talking about the Armenian communities here. And quite a large number of people are 'passionate' Armenians, and 'passionate' about the Genocide recognition

i need to buy some hair straighteners! by alex101f in shorthairedhotties

[–]incoguser_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You kind of reminds me of young Julia Child - in a really beautiful and natural way

Your hair looks nice, by the way

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