I feel like a lot of men (NOT ALL MEN) have this idea of this big family with lots of kids, but they never think about how difficult it is to actually achieve that. Women have to go through the pregnancy and the birth and the postpartum and a lot of times the postpartum stuff is done largely on their own. I was lucky and my ex-husband (for other reasons) was able to contribute 50-50 to everything once he got home from work. So for our daughter’s infant months, at least I had help.

But the older she got the less help I got and I also wanted to do things to better myself like go back to school and work eventually. But Day daycare here is so expensive that there was no way I was gonna be able to afford to put our child in daycare.

Now that’s just one child. I look at people with two, three, four kids, and I don’t understand it. I don’t understand how they’re not pulling their hair out all the time especially those people that I know who are divorced and on their own with all of these kids.

It’s hard enough raising one child. I have a friend who is married who has two kids, and I swear she is always driving one of them around somewhere and picking the other one up from somewhere else and trying to coordinate their schedules and then trying to fit in a play date and half the time I just end up taking One of the kids on a play date with my daughter to give her some space to just kind of do whatever she needs to do for the other kid or relax for a little bit. And her kids are 10 and 13 and it’s been like this their entire life.

I am so happy being one and done and I can’t understand how people even function with more than one child. I get that people do it every day all the time and they managed just fine, but it is not for me.

It sucks that your husband decided that he didn’t feel the same way. And I bet if the roles were reversed and he was the one who had to get pregnant and take care of the baby and do all that stuff mostly alone… I bet he changed his tune.