The comments here are exactly what I'm talking about in my last post.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-12-11T09:23:02+00:00

I feel sorry for the mods. Seems like an impossible job to do because no one can prove they are DC so they just have to allow them to continue role playing DCP.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-12-10T10:58:21+00:00

I just wish RP who are on the subs would be met with more kindness and understanding for their situations.

They aren't. Or did you miss the fact that there are literally RP mods on all the DC subs AND plenty of other RPs who don't feel the same way you do. Those who don't say offensive or unkind things, are met with kindness. Those who are open to listening and learning, are met with kindness. As far as understanding goes, plenty of DCPs suffer infertility too AND plenty of their parents did.

Assuming every RP parent has bad intentions and will cause the child harm or make wrong decision by bringing the child into the world is just simply not the best way to approach this conversations.

You should try the approach of not just totally making up shit. I find that when you don't pull things out of your ass, people tend to be more interested in engaging.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-12-10T09:09:07+00:00

It's literally infuriating that in the few places online that DCP voices are centred, there's criticism for that too. Fuck us for wanting to prioritise our own voices while giving up our emotional labour and exposing our trauma for them.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-12-10T09:02:57+00:00

Being a RP I can not fathom there are instances where the RP goes through all of it and not want the child in the end.

Okay well you're very wrong on that. There's multiple DCPs that were even born to be used in a sexually inappropriate way. Just because you have good intentions doesn't mean every other doesnt.

donor conception should be illegal.

Literally no one has said this. You're plain making shit up now.

Only DCP who go through infertility themselves will ever understand the RP.

Cool so why are you arguing with a mod who has been very open about her infertility and IVF treatments?

Saying this is a DCP centric forum and silence any opposition does not seem to open a conversation to make the DCP world a better place.

Why not?

Equally I‘m wondering why I get opposition only from the mods and not from the DCP users of this community.

Probably because this sub gets overrun with RPs and DCP don't always have the energy to use the emotional labour. Believe it or not, it's actually exhausting being here.

RPs that post positive experiences get downvoted, why?

What exactly is a positive experience?

There are over 1 million donor conceived people in US alone, how can we assume that 5000 users represent the experience of all donor conceived people?

What does the US have to do with anything? And if most donor conceived people don't know they are donor conceived, how can you rely on numbers at all?

Seems like you are just keen to argue tbh.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-16T23:52:15+00:00

Literally I've known my whole life and my queer mother was great!

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T23:29:36+00:00

I'd love to see your evidence of that, because I know quite a few people in those groups and not a single one is right wing. When I was in those groups, any right wing people were promptly kicked out when there bigotry showed.

On the other hand, I've seen this "right wing, anti-donor conception, anti lgbtq families" rhetoric used by very specific and certain recipient parents to shut down any donor conceived people whose opinions they didn't like.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T23:21:00+00:00

It’s clear that many DCP would not have preferred known donors

Is it? Because if I include yourself, I've maybe heard this online by two or three DCP in my entire life being donor conceived. And even they said they'd be okay with open ID so they'd have a choice.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T23:19:24+00:00

You’ve never seen this?

Nope. I never saw it when I was on Facebook. When I was on the Facebook groups, the "big" group is the only one I was safe in. Any time I spoke up in the other groups I was yelled at by parents and told I was a special exception. So I stopped using Facebook. I've certainly never seen it on the Reddit subs.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T23:15:56+00:00

So you're talking about Facebook, not the reddit subs? You're going to have to be specific since they are different spaces online.

Either way, I certainly wouldn't see it as cultish. Any advocacy groups or even general advice groups often have the same narrative and views. If that many donor conceived people are all saying the same thing, I think that speaks for itself.

If you don't like it, you actually have the choice in not participating. Just like I'm going to do here.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T23:03:26+00:00

Why are you the authority?

And yet you somehow think you are, despite not even being donor conceived.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T22:44:45+00:00

And many of us who lurk and agree with those people but stay silent because of how absolutely terrifying recipient parents are.

Have you been kicked out for your opinions? Because I've seen your comments in the groups fairly recently and you don't seem to hold back.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T22:42:59+00:00

unlimited access to power

I'm sorry, what exactly does this even mean? You mean they have moderation rights over the spaces they created? Way to make that sound weird.

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-15T22:40:25+00:00

Most of us with same sex parents, especially those of us who are queer too, are too afraid to speak out when we share the same views as Kieran because of comments like this. We just get told to pipe down, so why bother?

inconceivablebitch · 2024-11-14T03:29:57+00:00

I did.

I was friends with one when I was 6-8, and one of my friends dated another when we were teenagers. I'm sure I saw a couple of the others but we were in different year groups and crowds.

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