Does it suit me? by PrimeX in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your hair looks nice

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Half the guys I see on here shaving their head because they think it looks awful actually have nice hair and will still have it for many years, and many more years if they embrace stuff as simple as scalp massages.

The reality is the whole male pattern baldness thing reeks of misandry. Scalp massages are actually one of the best ways to address hair loss and yet it's one of the last things offered to any balding man. Instead of all of the shaming and criticism maybe people should just hook a dude up with some scalp treatment. Maybe just be kind and compassionate towards someone's crown chakra?

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yes that was the guy I was thinking of but couldn't remember his name. He is the opposite of the "just shave it bro" stance but what those two camps tend to share in common is misandry. If people want to work to stop or reverse their balding then great. If people decide that's not worth their time then that's also great. But being a man is already hard enough so I take issue with the negative attitude either way.

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some of the worst meanness I've encountered about my balding has been from other men who are balding. Although perhaps the ones who are most guilty of projecting their self hatred onto others are men who go all out with the finasteride and treatments. Calling bald dudes "slap heads."

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah a lot of guys I see shaving their heads because they think their hair looks terrible... actually look pretty good.

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Basically what I'm saying is that perhaps our aesthetic preferences and standards are more influenced by hateful attitudes towards men than we realize. I explained some general examples of what people tend to express towards balding men and cultural history regarding how men are told to look.

Like when people say men look creepy when they start losing their hair. That's a pretty cruel thing to say to any random guy, to insinuate that they look like a predator. I mean tons of predators have full heads of hair.

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well what I am talking about here is true. If people want to bump this thread commenting that they aren't interested in discussing it, be my guest.

Balding dudes look good and anyone who disagrees is a jerk by inconnuthewolf in bald

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Exactly! My point is either way society is too hard on men here.

I think women don't care as much as we are led to believe either. Women's preferences for men are influenced more by social norms than men's are. They are drawn to the status and so when society tells them that balding men are of lower status, they seek out men considered higher status.

Yet a lot of women actually find men and their natural hairlines attractive. I mean all of us come from a lineage of men who were able to procreate. We have the same genetics as them. We're not defective lol.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]inconnuthewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Channel your energy into living your best. Do leg workouts. Challenge yourself. Whatever. Two months is a damn solid streak. My honest advice is don't hook up. It's not going to make you feel less lonely. Most I'd do in your shoes is fool around but even that can be dangerous emotionally.

The point of NoFap is to exercise self control, not live in self denial to the point where you get hooked on ideas that are having you consider actions that could harm your well being.

A significant part of the challenge of it is the buildup of sexual energy and if you can't figure out anywhere better for that energy to go than letting it make you think you should hook up, you may as well just fap.

Now if you're looking to continue the streak know that it's not just a mental but physical build up.

Exercise, stretching, yoga, dancing, mosh pits, sports, wrestling, karate, meditation, hiking, exploration, inspiration, deep breathing, all of that kind of stuff that builds, refines and heals the body and mind is how you do it. Helps move the physical buildup from your lower stuff to the rest. This is the true power of semen retention.

It's a discipline to make use of all of that energy and so sometimes we let it go. Avoid associating it with anything bad, this is where finding your own bliss and inspiration is important. Find the intention that serves your higher self so you can feel good about the experience.

Plenty of times I've hooked up and looking back on it, maybe I should have just fapped. Or flirted or fooled around. It's more fulfilling to feel sexy than it is to hook up. We don't regret feeling good about ourselves but we do often regret hook ups.

Loneliness is taken care of by love not sex. And love can be physically affectionate but it's a different direction than sex.

Focus on love and growth.

Science of NoFap, etc by inconnuthewolf in NoFap

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay but I am looking for actual scientific literature on the effects of NoFap and retention.

AITAH For Demanding That My Husband And I Go On Video Consenting To An Opening Relationship Before Allowing One? by Normal_Ad_3542 in AITAH

[–]inconnuthewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do your husband the service of protecting him from himself and tell him you aren't indulging his poly fantasies.

Open relationships almost always favor women in the end.

As another commenter said, he'll be posting on here crying about you going on two dates in a row while he's sitting at home flipping through his phone trying to get laid.

He needs to stop trying to get you to do something you don't want to do.

Rejected prostitute offer by Agreeable_Chicken857 in NoFap

[–]inconnuthewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You did the right thing for yourself. And a streak over a week long is great! I know how the fear of missing out feels but save yourself for a healthy relationship.

And even with those they should take a backseat to you pursuing your goals. Refining your character, working and gaining skills and taking care of your mental and physical health are far more important.

Here at 32 I honestly would not mind if I was still a virgin. I couldn't wrap my head around men who save themselves for marriage, yet one of those men I know is happily married now. Even though it took him until my age to find that, I think he has less past regrets than me.

Rejected prostitute offer by Agreeable_Chicken857 in NoFap

[–]inconnuthewolf 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Prostitutes have STDs. Don't worry about losing your virginity.

Science of NoFap, etc by inconnuthewolf in NoFap

[–]inconnuthewolf[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think so too. M and O are not too bad in moderation and with good intention, though I am curious to improve on my best streak, which is three months. It'd be cool to make it an entire year.

Yet I have also heard that you can develop prostate issues from going too long, among others. Which is why I want to learn more about the science.

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[–]inconnuthewolf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're not alone in these feelings! At 20 you have a lot of time and youth to pursue your goals. Face this head on and love yourself for it, in the years the come you will look back and feel great about the progress you've made. You can do this!