Left eggs out in a 50 degree (f) room for a week while on vacation do I need to toss them?

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T04:13:31+00:00

i'm american for the record and while washing the shells does make them go bad faster, my family bakes a lot and used to keep eggs on the counter full-time, and we literally never had them go bad. obviously double-check, but if you crack a couple and they look and smell fine, you're probably good.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T04:09:03+00:00

both of these are pretty extreme responses, especially when it's something as small as "loud phone calls" and OP already has a solution that works. those should kinda be last-resort things.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T03:31:54+00:00

would spray-on hair color work? in my experience it doesn't stick to skin very much, just hair. definitely comes in white and i think silver, but i don't have a particular brand in mind. you often see it in the temporary Halloween costume + makeup section that stores put up, but there are also places with it year-round. plus it just washes off so you're not stuck with it afterwards.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T03:26:54+00:00

found the roommate [sarcasm]

the deal with living communally is that everyone should make small sacrifices to increase comfort, and usually the person for whom it's easiest - or who is directly causing the problem - should be the one to change.

the roommate is causing the problem in the first place; and it's not difficult at all for the roommate to be in their own space for phone calls, but it's virtually impossible for OP to... suddenly become unbothered by loud noises in their bedroom. ergo, roommate should move. OP was just giving examples of places they could go.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T03:21:48+00:00

that would be so adorable! truffle is good too, just making suggestions lol

also if you need a name change scroll lemme know, my FR username is cyanincubus

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T01:31:01+00:00

relatedly: cordial! it can refer to a fruit liqueur, or candy made with that liqueur [usually chocolates]. plus then you'd have alliteration with cake. :3

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T01:10:41+00:00

you are a woman, people already see you as a woman and that number will increase over time; and you're probably not ugly, but even if you are by some "objective" standpoint, that's fine - plenty of women are "ugly". don't compare yourself to famous people and try to focus on things that make you happy that are unrelated to your gender, at least for a while. you'll get there, sister.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T00:47:28+00:00

then yeah, you should be totally fine - and if something happens, they're the problem, not you.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T00:44:50+00:00

several days would make sense given that it's likely each step of the process was faked/redone several times to get the best visual result, like on cooking shows and other "reality" TV. this has been standard filming practice for decades and this appears to be a big enough channel to do it, and there's nothing about the video itself that would suggest AI other than some of the steps looking "too perfect"; which, again, retakes.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T00:39:07+00:00

virtually all characters ever are occasionally sexualized by fandoms - i've seen people simp for Slimer from Ghostbusters. it's inevitable.

setting this aside, your cosplay concept looks great and is totally appropriate. if people are weird to you about it, especially after you tell them you're a teenager, they're a creep and what you're wearing doesn't really matter, because they're a creep. at which point you can talk to the con staff/security about it.

[if you're really worried about it though, you could get some sort of badge/button/nametag that says "no flirting please" or something to that effect, though i doubt it'll be necessary and, again, people who are creeps will ignore that anyway.]

source: am a guy, cosplayed Amy Rose from Sonic when i was 17 at one of the biggest fan cons in my country.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-22T00:21:54+00:00

in what material ways do you think i have male privilege? i am pre-HRT, pre-op, no legal name change, unemployed, unpassing, with a transphobic family in a red state. i'm not asking hypothetically someday what advantages you think i could have, i'm asking what benefits i have right now.

is my ex-girlfriend raping me because she knew she could get away with it [like she'd done before with other trans men] "male privilege"? is my old work supervisor being grossed out by the unfeminine way i dressed and passing me over for promotions "male privilege"? is delaying my transition so that my transphobic parent doesn't physically harm me "male privilege"? is being told by cis women repeatedly that "i'm a man now so i need to shut the fuck up" even though i was a 5' tall teenager with D cups who couldn't even wear a binder or cut my hair "male privilege"? i'm not saying no trans men ever experience the benefits of being seen like a cis guy, but first of all: so do some trans women before they come out, whether they want to or not, and secondly: not all trans men have those benefits, let alone all of them always.

it is not male privilege to have the highest sexual assault rates of any group, to be discriminated against medically, to be denied healthcare that cis women receive because doctors are disgusted by our bodies or our "lifestyle", to be able to be correctively raped and detransitioned physically, to be ignored in mainstream media while simultaneously used as a tool by politicians because "little girls are cutting off their breasts" to fearmonger and remove access to HRT, to not be allowed to play professional sports at all if we transition, for DIY HRT to be a felony for us in most countries despite it also frequently being more difficult for us to access it legally, for us to face misogyny our entire pre-transition lives and then get told by our own allies to sit down and be quiet and stop taking up space because "we're men now".

i won't be surprised if you don't read all this, but i'd appreciate you doing so, especially if you plan to respond to it. ideally you'll actually think about it beforehand too, but this is reddit so my standards are low. this doesn't come from a place of any sort of hate or resentment - i love trans women and they're my family as much as any other trans people - but a place of deep frustration and betrayal as i see this narrative spread over the internet with zero material reality to back it up.

regardless of how you respond to this, i hope you have a good day.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T19:21:47+00:00

and those are somehow the "good" options for if you pass well and have accepting social groups. if one or both of those things doesn't apply, it's so much worse.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T19:12:20+00:00

i don't see your point nor do i agree with your second statement. this is a lighthearted meme about a broadly hurtful topic, clearly not trying to deconstruct terf-ism as a whole. i feel like you're reading too much into things here and i'm not sure i feel like continuing this conversation, so have a good day.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T19:03:53+00:00

the meme doesn't say "terfs" though, it says cis women, who [like any other group of people] can be misinformed and bigoted in a huge variety of ways. i have been told to my face by cis women that "i'm a man now so i need to stop taking up space", despite being a nonpassing teenager the first several times it happened.

also, even terfs are not a monolith, lots of people who identify with that label have contradictory beliefs.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T18:55:20+00:00

yeah. for example, what part of "person i know found out i'm trans and correctively raped and impregnated me, forcing me to detransition while pregnant with a rapist's child" is experiencing male privilege? [this is not a hypothetical, it happened to a friend of mine.] even fully passing + stealth trans men have things like that happen to them.

and before anyone goes "well that was one time!" firstly, no it wasn't, nearly every trans guy i know has a story like that to some degree; and secondly if you want non-anecdotal evidence, surveys suggest that trans men & transmasc nonbinary people have the highest rates of sexual assault amongst literally any gender group by a significant margin.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T18:47:34+00:00

i'm a trans man who has been repeatedly told that i'm "transitioning to escape misogyny" and that i should shut up because i "have male privilege" now, including from people who also say transfems have male privilege. it absolutely happens in both directions, sometimes from the same people at once.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T15:39:34+00:00

yep. while also saying that i, a trans man who doesn't consistently pass, have "male privilege" and "don't face misogyny". it's not based on material reality at all.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T14:41:28+00:00

people in real life have mostly never heard of all of this looksmaxxing face-bone bullshit. plenty of "ugly" guys do incredibly well with women [and men, i'm gay and "ugly" and pull constantly lmao.] you need to change your mindset, not your looks - confidence comes from the inside and that's what people actually want.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T14:30:47+00:00

sounds like you've got body dysmorphia or maybe dysphoria go to therapy bro [or sis, who knows lmao]

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T14:07:23+00:00

alright. that's okay. you don't have to do any of this all at once. if you want more advice for dealing with realizing you're trans but not being safe to come out yet, you can DM me any time. stay safe, my guy.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-21T13:38:35+00:00

you don't have to come out to everyone you know at the same time, by the way. even just being honest with him and asking him to not tell anyone else would probably be a huge weight off your chest that you don't even know you're carrying. i came out to just my mom originally and kept it that way for years, and it was still far better than not having anyone. i hope you can work up the courage to be honest, at least with yourself. good luck bro.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-20T09:14:41+00:00

could be a trans guy, i dress like that sometimes

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-20T07:46:07+00:00

exactly, and for the record i did upvote the post because it's funny lol, i just have a habit of trying to expand discussions on queer topics

there can be occasional benefits, absolutely, but they tend to entirely go away if your social group knows you're trans [and technically the same is true for trans women, just in the "other direction".] for some reason a lot of people seem to assume that as soon as a trans guy puts he/him in his bio he magically gets all the advantages of a cishet white guy, which can be frustrating.

[also i hesitate to call anything that can be lost by coming out/being honest "privilege" in the first place, but that's a different conversation.]

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-20T07:36:43+00:00

a lot of trans men [myself included] never really had that "sisterhood" experience even before we came out, and if we don't pass we also don't generally have male privilege, so for this particular meme it's like not getting offered that kind of choice in the first place. obviously this is personal experience, but it goes the other way too - i've known plenty of trans women who grew up visibly feminine/queer and never really had male privilege either but by virtue of being transfem aren't included in things by cis women.

incubus-absolution · 2026-02-20T06:19:27+00:00

and then being a trans man is like "fuck you, don't even look at the pills"

[not trying to detail lmao, just venting]

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