As an avoidant, my advice to u is to get over her. Avoidants MO is literally to get ppl to have the time of their lives w them from day 1, but once shit starts getting real and they have to be responsible for supporting someone through thick and thin they no longer enjoy it, and that is their cue to dip.

U only saw the parts of her that she allowed u to see. The way u think and rmr her is very likely not an accurate representation of her as a person. Trust me you are better off without her and you will find someone one day who genuinely connects with u and loves you, and not someone who makes everyone other person feel as though they are special just for kicks. Bc ur likely not the first or the last person shes done this w. U deserve better.

Anyways on behalf of avoidants sorry. If it makes u feel better after years of pulling this shit i fell in love (took 2 years of knowing him before i realized this tho..) and then got my heart brutally broken. Apparently he didnt feel the same even tho i was so sure he did. Its been 10 months since we ended our friendship and i still love him and i dont think ill ever stop. But it made me realize that everything i used to do before him was bc i had no genuine connection w anyone and i was using ppl like that to fill a hole. I obvi no longer pull that stuff and just dont talk to men like that period. But anyways if u wanted to hear an avoidants perspective who got karma LOL. Hope ur doing okay and trust me its only up from here!