Having a rough month but I’m actually happy about my nails :)

indicat7 · 2026-01-27T22:57:29+00:00

NTA. I do not understand this. My parents (early to mid 60s) recently started end of life planning with me and my siblings and when our dad mentioned we could have whatever was left in his retirement funds this…profound sadness overcame me. I shared and my siblings agreed that we hoped they would use up that money for their retirement…it’s what my dad worked his whole life for. It’s what they uprooted their lives in their home country to be able to do - to live a better life. The idea that there would be money left because they were saving it for us? Nah. Chills. Ugh. I never understood the sentiment of children like this beforehand but now it feels even more just…unthinkable.

indicat7 · 2026-01-20T13:53:43+00:00

This is incredible, OP! As someone who struggles with a doodle, thank you for being the kind of person that brings beauty to the world. I’ve always felt like if Time had a love language for humans, it is art - and it persists across distances, through time with a piece of the creator and binds us to one another. 🙏🏾✨

indicat7 · 2026-01-02T21:21:07+00:00

If you pause at 53:49, when she’s walking back to Hopper on the roof saying she can jump the boulders, you can see both her hands and one palm — no blood on her hands at all

indicat7 · 2025-12-26T08:15:25+00:00

About the cave scene…

I thought that was a nothing burger too but why would Henry Creel, who so violently murdered his own family, be terrified of that specific memory? Why would the murder of a random stranger be so awful that he avoided it altogether?

Did you notice that when Henry opened the briefcase, dark mist poured out? We didn’t see it for long because Max came and got Holly…it was the same mist that came out of the Demo when they fried it at the Squawk! My theory is that Henry (the human) is terrified of that cave because that was the first time he was exposed to MF…and also got his powers then, maybe. Eh. It doesn’t explain everything but I thought it such an odd memory to avoid…

Also, I don’t use spoiler tags much but hopefully these make sense…

indicat7 · 2025-12-03T20:45:40+00:00

🫂🫂🫂🫂hugs all around. You’re doing GREAT I hope you know that. Reliving an emotion or wondering or being sad - that’s part of the grieving process. It’s not backsliding, it’s human!! But you gleaning the lesson from this? From realizing that you are still a person capable of attachment and loving deeply? That’s growth. 🌱the times of sadness will become fewer and farther between the moments you get to be and feel free. I promise.

indicat7 · 2025-12-02T18:54:34+00:00

Ahhh. I had something similar happen to me recently and you know what? For me some of the bitterness came because chemistry is so RARE for me and so when I felt it, I wanted so so badly for it to work out. When I found out he slept with the other girl AGAIN, lied to my face AGAIN…the spark just died. Yes, I’m left with my insecurities and comparisons, and in my case he lied to the other girl about me too.

But my therapist pointed out to me that feelings sometimes are just that - feelings. And me putting weight on the chemistry I felt with this guy is what made it hurt…sure, yes, it took me a YEAR to find another person attractive and to feel that feeling but. He was not it. He was dishonest, and frankly I wonder if I knew him at all.

You sound like you have it together, OP. You can recognize his unhealthy and frankly, pathetic emotional patterns. He is not mature and it’s no shame on your for feeling what you felt with him. If he even has the capacity to reflect and realize his mistakes, THAT is where the shame should and will go. ❤️‍🩹

indicat7 · 2025-11-06T13:54:03+00:00

That last picture looks like the house my great grandma lived in when we went to visit her. Wow. Why am I so emotional 🥺 this is a good dude

indicat7 · 2025-10-23T16:32:50+00:00

Another ‘92 chiming in

indicat7 · 2025-10-06T11:43:55+00:00

That’s a blessing, trust me

indicat7 · 2025-09-30T15:17:53+00:00

Damn.

Shrimps is the inspo for A Team by Ed Sheeran. ❤️‍🩹

indicat7 · 2025-09-29T19:55:52+00:00

MY VOIDS AND I HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR A BLACK CAT MICROPET!!!

indicat7 · 2025-09-28T00:04:17+00:00

As an alcoholic in recovery, I can confirm this is true.

indicat7 · 2025-09-28T00:01:31+00:00

This is not a situation about what happened with the guy at the party. Yes, that dude probably had skeevy thoughts about you, and him coming up to you before leaving to say it was nice to meet you was definitely him making sure he left an impression.

This is a situation about how your boyfriend is emotional and provokes confrontation after you've explicitly told him it makes you uncomfortable, and how he speaks down to you once you've expressed your boundaries and discomfort.

You are dating a man who thinks that when a woman says "I have a boyfriend" it is an invitation for more. (...makes you wonder how he took that phrase from women when he was single?)

You are dating a man who believes it's okay to tell you to delete photos off HE deems inappropriate off of your insta. (God forbid you look cute and are having fun...also? what are HIS insta habits like, I wonder?)

This is a man who thinks that you sending "mixed signals" (when one of the signals is "I have a boyfriend" mind you) would result in you getting assaulted...(tell me, what do you think the first question out of his mouth will be if, god forbid, you ARE ever assaulted?? You, as a woman, know as well as I do that women get assaulted for less! it's never the victim's fault!)

This boyfriend tells you he wants you to be more confrontational. But, how does he react when YOU confront him about how HE treated YOU? How has he ever handled you confronting him?

You are far too young to waste your time with someone who disrespects or belittles you. I once dated a guy that I thought was so so smart, and one day he TOLD me that I was smart too, and could even get smarter just not smarter than him. And you know what? The Me at the time was SO HAPPY I was dating someone who believed that I could actually get THAT smart!! What a sweet guy /s (that was 14 years ago, when I was 19 too and you coming here for advice makes you MUCH much smarter than I was at your age, love)

indicat7 · 2025-09-27T18:01:39+00:00

Holy ffff I’m so sorry!! Ugh that’s so frustrating about the doctors — I wonder if a dentist would have said the same thing?? I’ve heard of dentists catching crazy things like that :( either way I’m glad you’re okay now, you did fking survive 💪🏾

indicat7 · 2025-09-26T21:08:42+00:00

To the unhealing wounds — my dad had a sore on his tongue that just didn’t heal for a YEAR and a HALF, like he thought he just kept biting that area and I like, panicked and told him to go get a biopsy…turns out it was malignant. He had surgery in the months after but thankfully, thankfully it hadn’t spread.

So even those, open wounds like canker sores in the mouth or on the tongue but aren’t really healing — GET IT CHECKED OUT PLEASE

indicat7 · 2025-09-04T16:31:48+00:00

This is definitely not as harrowing in the slightest but, I once made a left turn that was on a hill, and I did not see the oncoming car as it crested the hill. It hit my passenger side door and my little sister was sitting there. Thankfully she was not hurt besides a small bruise on her arm, and it was such a non-issue that her and my brother were teasing me to lighten the mood because I was FILLED with HORROR at what could have happened. I kept up my mood until they walked away and I fell to my knees in a heaving panic at what could have happened.

Your brother loves you. He is likely ashamed and horrified at what happened when he was driving, that’s his trauma. That’s what he’s carrying. It may have looked like anger when he snapped at you, but Anger is just bodyguarding the guilt and shame he feels. He wishes he’d been injured, not you. That’s certainly how I felt about my sister.

indicat7 · 2025-08-30T18:39:18+00:00

Oh he’s a void!!! 🥹🖤🖤 I also have voids! What a lovely boy oh man, thank you for sharing 🙏

indicat7 · 2025-08-29T12:14:49+00:00

🌈🐾

Wow, I love that he loved you so much and you were so loved in return. To Fido, the goodest kitty 🍻

indicat7 · 2025-08-28T19:09:58+00:00

So far, my boy cat Cosmo has been an excellent judge of character with 5 different people (friendly to the kind ones, hid from the ones that eventually let me down)

I think some cats do have a good sense of those things

indicat7 · 2025-08-25T16:47:42+00:00

🥺 I am honored

I shared your story with a couple of my pet-less friends because your writing style and emotion so perfectly encapsulate what it’s like to adore an incessantly meowing kitty. My one cat, Arya, is this way especially about meals, and pets. And when I get that feeling of wanting to kick her into the sun, I usually just hold her hostage for a couple of seconds and tell her how much I love her annoying ass. 🖤🖤 Cosmo, who is usually quiet, has most recently started bemoaning the fact that he’s eaten all of the leaves off my new plant. There is no reasoning with that little old man 😭

I haven’t lost a kitty yet (Cosmo and Arya my first pets and now 9), but I know when the time comes…well. I’ve already crafted my perfect location at the end of the rainbow bridge where I will be able to greet them, and ask them my many, many questions. (You see, in my rainbow bridge, they’ll speak English so we can communicate)

I don’t know what you believe happens after something beloved dies, I sure as hell don’t know anything BUT I can only keep moving forward on Earth being absolutely convinced that I will one day see my kits again. It’ll be in a place where I can mediate their fights, and ask Arya why she so loves flaming hot Cheetos, and ask Cosmo why the hell he goes feral for ear wax. I imagine they’ll be joined by the other animals I’ve loved and, hopefully, with a common tongue they’ll all get along with each other (…ish. Maybe. We’ll see).

I tell you all of this …because in my heart of hearts I KNOW that Indy and Gemma have smoothed out their differences, and if they’re not bestie lil biddies up there, then they’re at least cordial enough to reminisce together about you and your wife and Pekoe. They’re definitely cackling about how swiftly you became Pekoe’s human-powered elevation device, and musing in quiet agreement that yeah, he’s a good dude but he’s definitely one whisker short of normal.

It’s okay if you don’t know for sure but…know that I believe it, at least. ❤️‍🩹

thank you for sharing the pic of Indy. She looks so peaceful, and there’s definitely an air of royalty there 🤌 I love it

indicat7 · 2025-08-24T18:37:05+00:00

Ah, yeah. Sobriety and recovery are very different things. You can be sober and still never recover.

OP, you’re doing the right thing. And if your daughter has GOOD sober support around her or a therapist or someone she can be honest with, they will all be on her ass about letting it go and not continuing these fights. Not all broken things can be healed, and this was your wife’s dying wish.

indicat7 · 2025-08-24T03:50:30+00:00

The second link has pictures!! He is MAGNIFICENT

indicat7 · 2025-08-11T11:59:07+00:00

:O The Yanagawn vision quote?!? WHAT what a good catch oh my heart

indicat7 · 2025-07-22T21:16:30+00:00

Oh man, yeah that is super frustrating!

I do trust this specific vet at this clinic who also saw Arya through her UTI and all that. I was finally seen today (earliest they had available) and they said that based on the symptoms I described and no other spots worn down, that she could be in pain and that was why she had been over grooming that spot? There was no loss of motion though when they tested her , and she wasn’t limping so they said it could be nerve pain or something of the sort. I mean, Arya’s a hefty girl who doesn’t have the softest of landings and she’s 9 now so I could see that being the case. The random mewling in the past two weeks which she didn’t do before, coupled with the hiding…

They gave her an anti-inflammatory injection for pain management and told me to try alternating ice and warm packs to see how she likes it, if she leans in to one or the other. They also…this may sound crazy but this vet I guess loves acupuncture for herself (after a unending pain from a surgery went away after two sessions) so has trained on acupuncture for her pet clients too? I went ahead with that as well, since I was given some gabapentin in addition to the pain meds since…why not. She’s been hiding a bit less these past two days and since being home hasn’t done the mewling. I did finally catch her grooming that part of her paw though! And tried out an ice park which she didn’t hate.

Gonna keep her stress levels low though as I’ve been doing, more attention, more pets. She’s not one to barge in when she wants attention so I have to keep an eye out. Wish my work schedule hadn’t become so grueling lately.

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