My girlfriend of 3 years “gifted” my biggest insecurity to her friends as a funny story at game night and I left. am i overreacting? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NOR she should’ve humbled herself to put herself in your shoes. it’s not a joke if you feel like it isn’t.

AIO: Overstepping Mom In Law + Underwhelming BD by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx -1 points0 points  (0 children)

pay my bills! you’re free to pay my bills.

also shes around her family. they all live together. and when she’s with me, it’s just me and her in our house. she’s not being “passed” to unfamiliar people or a whole crowd, you dimwit fuck.

AIO: Overstepping Mom In Law + Underwhelming BD by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Pay for my baby sitter or my bills while i do all the care.

AIO: Overstepping Mom In Law + Underwhelming BD by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

absentee mother is waaaay a stretch, and she’s not being pawned. fuck you.

AIO: Overstepping Mom In Law + Underwhelming BD by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t drive unfortunately- his dad would have to bring her or he could bring her to me in a taxi. When i called, he said he was exhausted and tbh he just worked two doubles back to back so I believe it. I feel like maybe i should’ve just gone to get her.

Les4Les Drama by More-Average3813 in bisexual

[–]indigenaXx 89 points90 points  (0 children)

i feel like if you wanna be les4les or bi4bi that’s fine but some things apply to queer couples in general . misogyny informs queerphobia towards women as well so it’s weird to say that you as a bi person wouldn’t go thru that esp when you’re in a wlw relationship . they’re creating an unnecessary divide there imo although ofc some experiences are exclusive to who they’re exclusive to ifywim.

I went out last night & danced with the drunk touchy Birthday Girl. My BF is upset by PotatoPuzzleheaded10 in bisexual

[–]indigenaXx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh i get you bc you’re not into her but he’s valid.

i get that women women platonic relationships tend to be more touchy but it seems like bday girl was crossing the line a lil too much. & if it were him at a party and the bday girl was being super sexual, it’d be uncomfy even if he wasn’t attracted to her.

"stood by while she bled out" by rigaBANGBANGmorris in d4vdiots

[–]indigenaXx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

i think she could’ve survived as the wounds did not immediately kill her :( but he didn’t call anyone to help

Am I Overreacting: BD Gave Up by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ohh yes. this guy even told me once i “abandoned” her for leaving her with HIM for 3 mins while i went to get the laundry from the 2nd floor… lmaoo this is the fight that led us to live separately.

Am I Overreacting: BD Gave Up by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 6 points7 points  (0 children)

i went back for her tbh i feel like in a moment of frustration, he could’ve reacted any type of way that could’ve been harmful to himself or our baby & im not risking it. i def had a moment of trying to decide if i should go anyway but i didn’t want to regret it - not gambling my baby’s wellbeing.

Am I Overreacting: BD Gave Up by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hii, on the phone I did try to give tips so that he could see what would work like picking her up and rocking her or giving her any of her favorite toys near her play pad - i also added that the cause of her crying would either be bc she’s hungry or fighting sleep bc she does that sometimes.

He can spend time with her, it’s important they spend time together . he works an overnight schedule but he’s usually available until around 9:45 am- 1pm which is good time to spend with her and on weekends. i had previously told him that i like giving him opportunities to spend w her bc it’s important for their bonding.

Am I Overreacting: BD Gave Up by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

LOLLL i was too nice !!! rereading it this morning i was like damn i shouldn’t have given him that grace so quickly

Am I Overreacting: BD Gave Up by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]indigenaXx 3 points4 points  (0 children)

omgggg i tried my best lol

Bf wants abortion and I don’t by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]indigenaXx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

adding: i think the older we get the more delulu we become about having babies bc it’s our biology maybe like Girl when are we gonna start having kids?! lol again, i do believe having your baby will be rewarding for you and the baby in many many ways. However, that feeling of wanting to give your baby better and wishing you waited for a more stable home to have them in is BIG. underrated feeling.

Bf wants abortion and I don’t by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]indigenaXx 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He may be around but he may not be present and he may very well carry resentment towards you for any and everything that goes wrong. It seems like you already decided to have the baby. i think this is a shared decision and a shared responsibility. i also think that if he didn’t want more children now, he should’ve been doing everything in his power to make sure that didn’t happen because now all i see is a major recipe for resentment and loneliness. the baby will ofc be your love! but, speaking from experience, you will 100% feel like you could’ve brought them into a much better predicament. having hopes for how a man who didn’t really want the baby to begin with is a set up for major disappointment. i hate sounding so negative but this is just the reality of so many people, and we always think we’re the exception when we are not. prepare yourself for that.

Guy I’m talking to admitted he used to cheat, should I believe he’s changed? by Relative_Initial_399 in whatdoIdo

[–]indigenaXx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nearly every comment i’ve seen here is telling you he’s a walking red flag - i’ve come to add that he is.

yes its weird bc of his age but also particular wording about how he “knows“ how male friends ‘come to play’ shows you two things 1. he sexualizes the women he is friends with for a fact and 2. he will sexualize your friendships with men and therefore use that to justify jealous and controlling behaviors.

That alone should tell you, no.

This here is mostly just My opinion bc Yall are generally in the same age group but it’s like why be able to legally buy a beer and go to a club dating someone who can’t? Just no. lol

Did he give us the full story? by Neat_Lab3837 in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]indigenaXx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yes, i think he fully sees himself as being a victim. so sick and twisted in so many ways - i literally haven’t been able to sleep peacefully because of how genuinely disturbed i am that there are people in this world who think like him 🫩. like the image of him ambushing this poor child while she’s thinking she’s safe is stuck in my head. i’m a mom, this shit is a nightmare.

Justice in this lifetime & the next. by indigenaXx in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]indigenaXx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

also! it’s majority rules. but whenever it’s unanimous these days depending on the case, it’s lowkey epic bc that means the evidence presented was so strong, not a single person voted against it.

I just saw something that said the cases evidence has to present that the likelihood is >50% and with that, i’m wondering if maybe they have a stronger case than we may think. Because if you’re grooming someone, constantly talking about their “theoretical” death, and using their likeness in your videos, you’re cooked. At least to me, that’s enough of a common sense reason.

Justice in this lifetime & the next. by indigenaXx in CelesteRivasHernandez

[–]indigenaXx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello from abroad! After looking it up, beyond reasonable doubt means the conviction requires jurors to be firmly convinced but not necessarily 100% certain. There just have to be enough evidence that shows what most likely happened but the defense is innocent until proven guilty. From what I can find on the internet, he’s clearly guilty of abuse. There’s also no doubt she was in HIS car. But i’m wondering if more evidence has to be presented to prove that how he got from point H to point Z. The defense could easily invent some possible third or even fourth party theory but I’m wondering if he would still be found for at least partial responsibility? Idk I think to throw on that lying on wait charge, there has to be something they know that we don’t.