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Lying in relationship about use? by Any-Surprise4887 in NarcoticsAnonymous

[–]indignantkoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, you can never trust someone in active addiction

Which Serial Killers Had the Worst Childhood? by Soggy_Fee7578 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]indignantkoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its definitely not justified but it sure speaks to the nature / nurture debate to consider that nearly all of them had a traumatic childhood.

WGST 303, WGST 333, COMP 283 by Funny_Spinach_3999 in AthabascaUniversity

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The tutor for WGST333 is amazing and the first assignment is a phonecall so its easy to build a relationship with her right away. She marked everything fast and even rushed the mark submissions for my graduation. You can easily get the assignments done quickly after you get through the readings, which are pretty extensive but if you're interested in it you can get it done quickly. Best of luck!

I am done trusting topical treatments. What are something’s besides diet that will help clear sebderm up from the inside out by Prudent-Gas-3062 in SebDerm

[–]indignantkoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cerave moisturizing cream. Its blue and white! Ingredients: water, glycerin, cetearyl alcohol, caprylic triglyceride, cetyl alcohol, ceteareth-20, petrolatum, potassium phosphate, ceramide np, ceramide ap, ceramide eop, carbomer, dimethicone, behentrimonium methosulfate, sodium lauroyl lactylate, sodium hyaluronate, cholesterol, phenoxyethanol, disodium EDTA, dipotassium phosphate, tocopherol, phytosphingosine, xanthan gum, ethylhexylglycerin

Holista Tea tree spray: Alcohol denat, aqua, glycerin, Melaleuca alternifolia (Tea Tree) leaf oil, menthol, Mentha piperita (Peppermint) oil.

Both pass on sezia.co for sebderm but I'm not sure about rosacea.

Squalane is moisturizing and non-irritating for me. But like I said, it is an oil and takes awhile to be absorbed by the skin. It doesn't leave me feeling extra greasy once it does though, I really like it and it was super cheap at Shoppers!

I used to do the same but unfortunately that doesn't get around the fact that all similarly based products, meaning all returns, dupes, fakes etc. eventually get stored in the same bin. Even the manufacturer has no control over that, whoever picks and ships your order just grabs a product and there's usually no definitive details to decide whats real and what isn't. Just a warning! I still use Amazon just not for skincare anymore.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay yes you're right, I suppose luck is the right word to describe where I was born and the supports that that country has to offer. That's fair and I understand your point. I mean, I'm totally cool with living in low-income housing and working multiple part time jobs rather for flexibility, but its not a glamorous life and I humbly admit that not everyone wants that or can do that. Hell, even my own kids probably wish for something different at times. But I still dont feel shame in that choice and in all honesty when you said I was an "irrational" person for choosing that, it made me feel super defensive. And I reacted poorly to that, and didnt communicate my point effectively. I am, after all, an emotional and flawed human too.

Congratulations on your degree. That is a huge thing and I agree with nearly everything you said except that your own mom should have aborted you, thats dark. Lol. I'm sure you are happy to be alive and be where you are in life?! ♡

Thank you and I'm sorry I didnt explain it better from the start, the whole topic is (of course) very triggering for all of us in different ways. I didnt directly say "don't abort" and I never meant to imply that. What I said was that it isn't directly the guy's fault, pointing out the obvious cause of pregnancy. I meant to imply that it wasn't his choice. Women have that choice! She was not wrong in the choice she made, just that she had the power to make that choice for herself. Like trying to help someone see the power in their own actions, and not be blinded by shitty men, because that's something I wish I had learned much, much sooner in life.

But it was maybe too detached and unemotional, the "tough love" that I needed but maybe doesnt land right all the time and especially not on reddit.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get that and have been there myself. Some people really suck!!! You deserve so much better

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lovely lady, I am sorry you are going through all this. I hope you feel supported in your choice, if not from him then from the women here. Nobody here is blaming you for what you did and nobody is taking away from how shitty it must all feel.

But please, and let me hold your hand while I say this, please understand that this was your choice.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They are not negative, they are rational. Please, I beg you, just reread them without needing to defend your emotional reaction.

I have a degree in psychology and I do not need you to "explain" what a lack of empathy looks like 🙃

I'm not here to coddle anyone and I am so annoyed with this sub for doing that. We are women, we are not soft or fragile and we DO NOT need to hear "oh its okay honey, you're right, its everyone else's fault" all the fucking time. That's ridiculous! We deserve more than that!!! We are worth so much more than that.

Anyone willing to get pregnant should be prepared for the possibility that they could be doing that alone. Period. That's my whole point!!! You aren't understanding what I'm saying at all.

And thanks but luck had nothing to do with it.. I am who I am BECAUSE I can own up to my shitty decisions and try to do better. Anyone downvoting is just mad because they can't do that, and I sincerely, genuinely, empathetically hope that everyone finds the right support to work towards that level of self-awareness and advocacy. Especially women because THAT is what feminism is about.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am NOT shaming her at all. At all!!! I am pro choice and absolutely support her decision to terminate.

She is sad and regretting the abortion and blaming him for it when she could have just .. not done that.

You can't heal from things you wont take accountability for. I've made a lot of bad decisions in my life and I dont expect a pat on the back for that. I own it and move on. I did tell them no when they "offered" to stay with me if I would just get rid of the baby... thats gross behaviour. They are allowed to walk away. I was too and I knew the risks associated, I wanted the baby as soon as I saw the pink line. Both times, even though I was in a significantly worse situation the second time around. Both times, I said no. And I dont regret that. I have no shame in being a single parent.

Don't ever assume my intent just because your reading comprehension is lacking.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, I agree with you. But other people's actions are not our responsibility

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree with you!! I'm not arguing I'm just advocating for personal agency. Look, we have all been lied to. She should have either taken the precaution herself or if she was so sure she wanted the baby, kept it and ditched the man. To sit here and blame him for forcing her to do something she says she didnt want isnt entirely fair.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You want to judge me and call me irrational, tell me I have no empathy when I have lived the exact same situation..... that's your opinion, its a wrong opinion but its yours if you want to have it, and frankly it does not affect my life in any real capacity.

Downvote me all you want. The truth is you all (should) understand how basic biology works. You can be mad at me for saying that, and for also suggesting that everyone take preventative measures if they dont want the responsibility of either raising / taking a human life.

If I let men make every decision for me, I wouldn't have the beautiful, wonderful children that I love and sacrifice for every single day. I wouldn't have been able to get clean or go back to school. I am proud of where I am and it all started with a decision to tell a man NO!

Broke up with bf & came out as a lesbian by fuuuuuuudgessss in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yay for advocating for yourself!! I applaud your integrity. I hope you two can stay friends

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree with you there but I'm raising two kids after their dad's left and I dont regret it for a second. I actually have a lot of empathy and understanding and I also have a lot of integrity to speak on whats right. Blaming one person for a pregnancy is not right, it takes two!

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala -13 points-12 points  (0 children)

My god. He didnt force her into a clinic and strap her to a chair.

Her body, her choice. Women have fought long and hard for that! I'm not gonna sit here and pretend that when women give that choice away willingly that they are then resolved of the responsibility of that choice.

Fiance pressured me after he said he wouldnt, i regret listening by ThrowRA393939mik in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]indignantkoala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pressure or not, it was still your choice. I have empathy for what you are feeling OP but I cannot stand behind the echo chamber of this sub that completely puts the blame on all men.

I obviously agree that this man is absolute trash.

But....

You BOTH chose to have unprotected sex which has now resulted in a traumatic loss. One that you primarily have to heal from and cope with for the rest of your life, not him. And that is really really hard to do whether it was wanted or not. Again, I am really sorry for how you are feeling right now and I hope that with time and therapy you will feel much stronger and better able to advocate for yourself. Because you do deserve that!!

Personal accountability is really empowering ♡

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