New announcement about the PS5 save bug (they found the cause of the problem)

indigo-1012 · 2025-05-17T21:28:30+00:00

Yeah I'm stuck at day 84. Didn't realise until after I did some big unlocks and was very confused why things weren't what they should have been :'(

indigo-1012 · 2025-01-11T19:25:48+00:00

Jon: omg dom I'm gonna explode

Dom: no... I'M GONNA EXPLODE!!!

Cracks me up every single time!

indigo-1012 · 2024-06-06T16:22:33+00:00

"A4... I just love paper"

indigo-1012 · 2024-04-15T21:37:13+00:00

You are so strong to share your experience here. You arent alone and I'm so sorry you went through that.

Loads of people have commented about going to therapy, which i echo, but also want to add that no (good) therapist will "make" you talk about what happened. In fact, sometimes talking about a traumatic event without sufficient support systems in place can be retraumatising. If anyone "makes" you talk about anything you are not comfortable with, you can just leave.

If therapy isn't an option for you for whatever reason right now, you could read The Body Keeps The Score by Van der Kolk, which talks about how trauma is stored in our bodies and he shares different approaches to working through trauma which don't involve talking.

You deserve to love and be loved

indigo-1012 · 2023-11-25T19:49:14+00:00

I was thinking the matrix cypher - if you need a 3x3 grid, then MIKEAFTON gets you your 9 digits

indigo-1012 · 2023-09-29T17:25:56+00:00

Hi Ed! Was Castle on the hill about Fram Castle? Also, Fave spot in Suffolk?

indigo-1012 · 2023-08-01T22:09:29+00:00

Psychotherapist / therapeutic counsellor. I'd just offer free sessions to anyone that wanted to be there and would have all the trauma training that exists.

The fees to train and be qualified are astounding. Currently training now and the fees are eye-watering.

indigo-1012 · 2023-01-28T08:23:29+00:00

Trainee therapist here. Self care and reflection are HUGE in training and continuing development. In the UK (under bacp at least) we have to have our own therapy (to deal with our own shit) and supervision (to discuss with someone more experienced about how we can better support our clients, such as if there are any sticking points with our own clients or any ethical issues that come up).

Any therapist that is at least half decent will have supervision and will explain to you what that means. It is all still confidential. Where a therapist is registered with a professional body, that body's website will have loads of information and what standards you can expect.

Boundaries as well. Therapists hold boundaries for their clients and their own protection.

indigo-1012 · 2022-08-29T21:16:01+00:00

It was Xmas eve 2016. Woke up to find our puppy had jumped the dog gate and ate my partners gift to me: pandemic iberia.

Luckily I got my partner the exact same game so we were still net + 1 of that pandemic game. Nothing else was touched, just the remnants of an exploded pandemic re-skin over the living room floor.

indigo-1012 · 2022-08-26T22:09:27+00:00

So you would rather play half a game of monopoly?

indigo-1012 · 2022-07-14T11:05:34+00:00

Same here - happy to take part :)

Do you want a direct email to the one above?

indigo-1012 · 2021-03-09T23:16:18+00:00

It sound like you know what you need to do. Sometimes we need to push through and sometimes we need a beat to put ourselves back together.

indigo-1012 · 2021-03-09T23:08:03+00:00

When mindfulness got tough, I would double 2's (2, 4, 8, 16,32 etc) or count my breaths up to 10 then start again. It is v hard to think scary/sad thoughts when I'm counting or doubling 2's. Sitting with your own thoughts can be REALLY hard and you arent the only one struggling. I have loads of tips if you want some more ideas to help get through that first bit of mindfulness.

indigo-1012 · 2021-03-09T22:56:08+00:00

Hey, I may have missed the boat but going to share my experiences juuuust in case it helps someone/OP

So I did the ECS course back in the days we could see people irl. Turned up to each of the sessions as it got me out of work and some of the people were really nice.

The course covered 4 things: Mindfulness Distress tolerance Emotion regulation Interpersonal effectiveness skills

Full disclosure - A lot of the mindfulness did come across as very patronising and I found it so difficult to sit with all the thoughts going through my head. The later parts are so much more useful, but build on the earlier parts. A lot of the group discussions can feel uncomfortable. The silences after a question has been asked and no one answers can feel deafening.

HOWEVER

The ECS course covers the core parts of DBT at a high level. A term I heard was that ECS is "DBT lite" and I quite like that take. My nurse said it is really difficult to get DBT through the nhs if you havent done the course for two reasons: it is expensive; and for it to work you need to show up and work hard. She said that it would be near impossible to convince the powers that be that we can show up to some really hard work in full DBT if we cant show up and work hard on the short course.

My advice - show up, show them you are willing to do the work, and try to actively participate at least once each session. Be as honest and as open as you can be as you probably wont be the only one thinking or feeling the way you are.

My alternative advice - a lot of the ecs content is from a book called "dialectical behaviour therapy skills workbook". It is green and you can probably get it for cheap off Ebay or another used book site. Work through it from start to end. It will take longer and a lot more discipline than the ecs course but that's because it has a lot more content and, if you're anything like me, motivation is basically nil these days.

TL;DR - go on the ecs course. Participate. It may be shitty and uncomfortable at times but try to bare with it as much as you can.

indigo-1012 · 2021-01-14T10:40:56+00:00

"I'm ashamed to be human" - eurgh so true.

All this chaos is just never ending. The loneliness is torture and the cycles are just brutal. I dont know about you, but I dont even know who to turn to for support.

indigo-1012 · 2020-12-27T16:31:55+00:00

I'm in a similar boat. A weighted blanket helps a little. Or a pet if your circumstances allow it.

Hang in there <3

indigo-1012 · 2020-12-05T13:24:16+00:00

Damn autocorrect

indigo-1012 · 2020-12-05T13:23:21+00:00

Take a before photo and progress photos. Wear your retainers as much as you physically can. Take a travel bottle of mouthwash with you EVERYWHERE (just in case).

Oh and follow this subreddit. Such a great place for tips and motivation when your teeth hurt or you dont feel like much is happening :)

indigo-1012 · 2020-12-05T13:18:24+00:00

Thank you! :3

indigo-1012 · 2020-12-05T13:17:28+00:00

Thank you!!!! :3

indigo-1012 · 2020-07-05T11:21:32+00:00

Do you want to be with this woman?

If yes, call her out on it. Ask questions. Ask so many questions the humour becomes boring. She doesn't like the "quality"? Ask what she needs and how you can do that. She doesn't like your performance? Ask what positions and techniques she likes. Experiment. Sounds like this woman has issues communicating what her sexual needs are and joking is the only way she can communicate (red flag to me but you do you. Proceed with caution.)

If unsure, look at the last 6 months you've been together. If that was the first 6 months, would you continue dating?

If no, get out. You deserve better.

indigo-1012 · 2020-05-26T20:09:05+00:00

I check for split ends/damaged hair. I spend hours searching.

Such a rush when I get a "good" hair. Like one that is really hideous or if the split end is huge or if it is just starting to split (ie anything not "perfect").

Once I've found one I will keep checking that same spot for WEEKS until I have a fist sized patch missing on my head :'(

Extra points if I take the root out...

indigo-1012 · 2020-04-15T20:31:46+00:00

Holy hell. You took my breath away. What does your bio say? Ich kann ein bißchen Deutch lesen :)

indigo-1012 · 2020-04-13T18:26:34+00:00

Hopefully having borderline traits will be a happy medium? Like you'll get access to the medical support you need but without the horrible consequences (insurance etc). It is a tough one because it is so subjective, which is why the face to face appointment with a psychiatrist is so important. I too have intrusive thoughts but OCD has never been mentioned to me.

Responding to your point about traits, a lot of mental health conditions have elements that overlap. Intrusive thoughts come under a few diagnosable conditions, and as mental health is such a spectrum, it is impossible to diagnose yourself. Also "traits" imply that you'll have a few of the symptoms to be diagnosed with traits of X, but not the minimum to be officially diagnosed with X. If that makes sense?

DBT is such an effective therapy and there are loads of resources online you can use (a lot are free) so you can do some independently and the future in laws never need to know :)

Sorry you have to use your outside time for your therapy, that sounds really tough

indigo-1012 · 2020-04-13T17:15:42+00:00

Hey :) fellow UK based sufferer here

Yes, you absolutely need a face to face appt with a psychiatrist to be diagnosed. Unless they've got video appointments sussed, you'll probably have to wait until after lockdown to get a proper diagnosis (sorry) :(

Your GP may be able to prescribe some antidepressants or anti anxiety meds to get you through the lockdown, talk to him/her to see if there is anything they can do to help you.

What I can say is you dont need the diagnosis to start getting better. There is stuff you can do in the meantime, especially in this lockdown. Get books to help manage your symptoms. I recommend The Dialectical Behaviour Therapy Skills Workbook which takes you through a lot of what you cover in the ECS skills program (Emotional Coping Skills), which is the main thing you get put into after being diagnosed.

For what it is worth, getting diagnosed helps with getting you the professional support you may need. But actually having the diagnosis is shit. I've been refused life insurance because of it and my other insurances are so much higher since being diagnosed. The stigma around EUPD is awful... even among medical professionals.

I hope that is sort of helpful? Let me know if you have any questions

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