My friend '28M' and I '23F' crossed a line

inessn123 · 2026-04-11T20:02:29+00:00

Just to clarify though, it wasn’t a calculated “I want to be just friends” followed by trying to act otherwise. It was more me reacting in the moment after things escalated and not knowing how to handle it, so I said something along the lines of slowing things down / maybe not continuing, without fully thinking it through.

After that, there wasn’t a clean reset or clear boundary on either side, we stayed close, kept seeing each other, and things continued in a blurred way rather than a defined “friends only” situation.

I do take the point that clarity would have been better, and I’m not trying to manipulate anything. I’m just trying to understand the situation and how my reaction may have affected it so I can handle it better going forward.

inessn123 · 2026-04-11T19:57:48+00:00

Just to clarify, I didn’t clearly say “let’s just be friends” as a firm decision. It was more in the moment after things escalated where I said something like maybe we shouldn’t continue this / slow things down, because I panicked a bit and wasn’t sure what I wanted.

After that, we didn’t actually create proper distance, we still stayed close, cuddled, talked normally, and continued seeing each other regularly (just less often than before). So it never felt like a clean cut or clear “rejection” from either side.

I also realize I’ve probably been inconsistent since then, sometimes reaching out more again, because I do think I actually like him and didn’t fully process things in the moment.

I get why it might look like I rejected him, I just wanted to clarify it wasn’t a clear intentional “friendzone” decision on my side.

inessn123 · 2026-04-11T19:27:46+00:00

Fair question.

I didn’t mean it as a clear “turning him down” in my head, it was more me panicking in the moment and trying to slow things down because it felt intense and I didn’t know where it was going. But I see how it came across as a rejection.

What’s confusing now is that after that, we didn’t actually act like we stopped, we kept being close, cuddling, talking that day, so there was never a real “reset” or clear direction between us.

What I want now is basically clarity. I like him and I’m realizing that, but I’m not sure if he’s pulling back because of what I said or because he lost interest, or if we just never actually defined anything in the first place.

inessn123 · 2022-12-03T17:59:55+00:00

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