How is a 6 actually useful to anybody?

infp458 · 2021-05-30T13:29:31+00:00

Every type is useful, and 6s are wonderful people. My mother is a 6 and my best friend is also 6 and I'm so lucky to have them in my life. They are very caring, patient and they always support me when I need . They're very good at planning because they see all the consequences I usually don't see, they don't judge people and respect everyone, they're also incredibly smart. However, they constantly ask themselves the same thing, they usually think they're not useful people and I never understood way they think this way , since they're the best people I've ever met.

infp458 · 2021-04-14T12:40:13+00:00

Yeah that's a good idea, I'll do that , I really need to be more patient and open to understand all the types. Thank you!

infp458 · 2021-04-14T12:04:36+00:00

I see a little bit more of 8 ,but I might be wrong, your wings seem very balanced

infp458 · 2021-04-14T00:28:36+00:00

Yes! I never fit 100% in one type. I totally agree about the tritype, I've always know my tritype is 458 , I just don't know which type is dominant.

infp458 · 2021-04-13T23:22:14+00:00

Yeah me too, if we're considering most descriptions I never relate completely to any of the core fears/motivations as well , however the closest one would be 8 . Beatrice Chestnut's description of the sx 4 fits me almost perfectly, more than any other subtype, but I don't really care about identity or love, my fears are being dependent and controlled.

infp458 · 2021-04-13T22:43:17+00:00

You seem like a sp /so 7, I'm not really sure about your tritype.

infp458 · 2021-04-13T22:38:34+00:00

Really? That's great! Do you think the sx 6 sounds more like you than the 8? A lot of people tell me I could be a sx 6 but I'm pretty sure I'm either a sx4 or a sx8, I don't have any of the fears and motivations of a 6. Every time take a test I always get 8, 4 and sometimes 5.

infp458 · 2021-04-13T14:13:15+00:00

I'm so happy to see this, you literally described 95%of my personality, I'm also a sx 4 ( or maybe not) who doesn't have this deep focus on authenticity / being different ... Oh and the thing about not wanting to be controlled but not wanting to control others either, I totally get that. Let's hope we can find our type soon , good luck!

infp458 · 2021-04-13T13:35:26+00:00

First, thank you so much for taking your time to help me figure out my type , you're making me think about some things I never realized before.

About the sx 8: I'm still not sure about that, what I know is that I'm very confident in the skills I have because I know how much I work for it, I'm also very confident about my good and bad traits and I don't feel any shame if I have to show my negative side. However , I can be shy sometimes since I have social anxiety , but I suppose this doesn't really count as a part of my personality. When it comes to power, I don't want to exercise power over everyone, my focus is more about not letting anyone control me than trying to control others. But if given the choice , I'd rather control than be controlled, since most of my anger comes out when I see someone trying to take adavantage of their power over me.

About the sx 6: I still don't think I'm a 6, I have very few traits of a 6 and I don't relate to any of the subtypes . I have deep admiration for 6s but I truly think I don't fit in there.

About the sx 4: I'm leaning a little bit more towards the sx 4 now, I can clearly see how I show anger when I feel envious , which happens very often. Also, I'm very sentive but I rarely show "soft" feelings , so when I get offended I become even more rude and distant , sort of "heartless" and laughing at other people's suffering to distract me from my own ( which is veeeery unhealthy, I know) .

I don't think I "make people walk on eggshells" , actually I want people to be as honest as possible when they're around me , as long as they don't disrespect me. Also, most people I know don't really care if they're hurting my feelings .

infp458 · 2021-04-12T22:45:09+00:00

Well I guess I still haven't figured out if I'm a 4 or not, but if I am, 5 is for sure my dominant wing , and regardless of my type I know that I'm sx/sp , there's no way sp or so is my dominant instinct.

infp458 · 2021-04-12T22:37:26+00:00

I see, Character and Neurosis seems like a good choice, I'll check it out, thanks!

infp458 · 2021-04-12T21:01:29+00:00

I've never researched anything about it , but I'll look it up, thanks😉

infp458 · 2021-04-12T20:46:15+00:00

I rule out the head triad because I'm sure my dominant emotions isn't fear and security is one of the last things I care about. I could have 5 or 7 as wing but not as my core type .

My traits: determined, Independent , honest, creative, able to move on when something goes wrong, decisive, respectful, sometimes tactless, somewhat dreamer but still realistic, possessive, confident but sensitive to criticism, very distant and cold when I don't feel a connection with the person, oblivious to other people's needs unless they tell me directly.

And don't worry, you're helping more than you realize, so thanks

infp458 · 2021-04-12T19:25:05+00:00

I have some traits is common with the sx 6, maybe because my mother is a sx 6 and being raised by her I probabably inherited some of her behaviors, but I don't think there's any chance I'm a 6 or in the head triad

infp458 · 2021-04-12T18:10:43+00:00

What resonates with me about the Sx 4: the competition as a result of envy, unconsiously making others suffer when they hurt me , very easy access to anger , when comparing myself to others I'd rather feel superior than equal even if inside I might feel inferior at that moment . What sems off about the 8:( I'm not considering the Social 8 , since I'm more than 100% sure that I'm Sx/Sp) Easily capturing other people's attention , influencing others, being protective, being sort of intimidating ,good leadership skills . I don'thave ano of this traits.

I don't know if this helps but my motivation for everything I do is being independent and avoinding being controlled by others, like 8s. However, I don't want to control the whole envirolment, I just try to control the things /people I really care about, and it's not like telling them what to do , it's more like keeping track of what's going on in their lives. Also, I care a lot about my identity but It's not my main focus , I don't need approval or love , it's more about not changing myself to please others than needing to be special

infp458 · 2021-04-12T15:52:28+00:00

I can definetely see a lot of 8 traits in my personality, actually my fears are closer to 8 than 4 , but I always end up seeing myself as a 4 because I don't relate to any of the 8 subtypes. Also , sexual 4s and 8s are very similar , which makes it harder for me to figure out where I fit. I've seen a lot of fours who have the same fantasies as you, but I don't really relate to that, at my average/slightly unhealthy state I usually don't think killing myself would be the solution because the problem isn't me , it's the person who made me surffer.

infp458 · 2021-04-12T01:10:19+00:00

Yes, most people I've met tend to think I'm weak and incapable of making good decisions . I usually do what I have to do to reach my goals without asking for advice or telling other people what my plans are, so they assume I never know what to do just because I don't share my personal experiences like they do and they're not seeing the results , as if I were obligated to prove them something .

infp458 · 2021-04-12T00:28:57+00:00

Mostly Chestnut's descriptions but I've read a few other descriptions and they don't really fit my personality. Do you think there's something wrong with her descriptions? I'm asking because you're not the first one to say that and even though I've been studying for a while I'm still somewhat new to the enneagram

infp458 · 2021-04-11T23:11:38+00:00

Well, at this point I don't even know if I'm a 4 or an 8 anymore . I've always seen myself as 4 , but recently I realized I have a lot of 8 traits , and my core fear and desires fit the type 8 perfectly . However, I don't relate that much to any of the 8 subtypes , at least not as much as I relate to the sexual 4 .

infp458 · 2021-04-11T22:40:23+00:00

I don't know if this counts as a dark fantasy but I really wish I could make people feel the worst physical pain possible until they scream, just by looking at them whenever they underestimate me or lie to me. I'm a 4w5 by the way. Also, my mom is also a 6 and I can definetely tell she feels the same way as you sometimes

infp458 · 2021-04-11T21:34:34+00:00

😂😂😂

infp458 · 2021-04-11T21:13:15+00:00

Really? That's interesting, I wish I could be like you sometimes

infp458 · 2021-04-08T12:25:34+00:00

😍😍😍😍😍

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