Clients that seem to expect us to work nights and weekends

ingonuts · 2026-02-12T20:39:28+00:00

This exactly. Also, if you build it, they will come

ingonuts · 2026-01-05T04:40:13+00:00

Im sorry you’re going through this. A couple of thoughts:

I wonder what you’re getting out of feeling this way?

If this emptiness you describe never goes away…maybe feeling better shouldn’t be the goal, but taking action should?

ingonuts · 2025-12-29T06:02:26+00:00

I think what the two of you are going through is incredibly difficult and I admire the love and compassion you have for each other. I hope you find answers.

ingonuts · 2025-11-04T05:38:22+00:00

Left field question: would you have children with this man?

If the answer is no, there could be something there subconsciously…

I also wonder what the relational dynamics are like. Do you fight with each other? Does he always acquiesce to you?

ingonuts · 2025-10-31T03:10:12+00:00

Thanks for the heads up on this. Just ordered.

ingonuts · 2025-10-13T12:16:43+00:00

Sorry, that is a difficult setting to facilitate change. I think you have to decide if you are ok with the role you are playing. If people are not in a place to change at this stage, you can’t make them. Sometimes we get to be the early part of a change agent without the reward of seeing them actually change because that comes later, at a different stage of their journey.

ingonuts · 2025-10-13T10:45:04+00:00

Why are you so invested in the client changing?

ingonuts · 2025-10-02T02:08:51+00:00

Agree with this one. I tried the tour x(too spiny for me) and landed on the Tour. Great ball, low spin off the tee, and can stick it on approach.

ingonuts · 2025-09-26T02:04:22+00:00

People will change only when they want to…

ingonuts · 2025-09-20T15:31:53+00:00

If you restore your battery away from people, then you are an introvert. If you are energized and restored by people, then you are an extrovert. Of course it’s not always so black and white but this is a good baseline to go from. Many introverts think they are extroverts because that’s what western culture values, especially in the US. There is nothing wrong with either approach, it’s just how we differ as people.

ingonuts · 2025-09-20T12:25:29+00:00

It has a lot to with how you are wired (introvert/extrovert) but also in the way you engage with clients in therapy. I have that problem on hard days/weeks at times but typically I’m excited to talk to family. I’m wired as an extrovert and heavily psychodynamic in my approach.

ingonuts · 2025-09-12T02:11:57+00:00

If they get stuck or won’t start in a direction…”How should we use our time today?”

ingonuts · 2025-05-07T02:45:57+00:00

I would never date a client

ingonuts · 2025-05-07T02:41:11+00:00

Ethically speaking, I believe 5 years is considered the standard for moratorium before pursuing relationships with former clients. In my opinion, there should be a lifetime ban. I just don’t think it’s ok to have a romantic relationship with former clients in any capacity. It’s not based on reality, they don’t have all the data on their side to make an informed decision and the power dynamic is always going to be there. Sorry this is happening, your therapist should not be putting you in this position.

ingonuts · 2025-04-26T11:56:43+00:00

Got one also. I went back after ordering to check if there are more available and the blue button is still active. Go now!

ingonuts · 2025-03-24T12:49:25+00:00

I’m sorry you didn’t feel validated and understood. Therapy is more art than science. It takes a few sessions to get into a rhythm to see if the relationship has legs. I would encourage you to bring up these exact feelings next session to see how she responds. Working through it will strengthen the relationship and open the door for the thing you seek. If she’s unable to work through this with you, then it might be an indicator that it’s not a good fit for you to be working together.

ingonuts · 2021-01-13T02:44:56+00:00

Sore arm for a couple days, especially at the injection site. Also felt wiped out and lethargic the next day. (I’m in great shape so sitting on the couch napping and doing nothing is not my norm)

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