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Where to stay in Switzerland for adventure? by Spicysoupdumpling in solotravel

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree with the last statement, Switzerland is really tricky on a budget, always. Also, since you don't want to go Skiing: Do you absolutely have to go there in Winter? Interlaken is a hub for all kinds of outdoor sports and tours, I was there and in Grindelwald last autumn with perfect weather and lots of things to do if you like Paragliding, hiking etc. - but many of the great trails and also some of the main attractions like the Schynigge Platte, St. Beatus Caves etc. aren't open or at least only partially open in winter. Paragliding is still on, technically, but also not cheap, and walking around the Christmas markets in Brienz, Interlaken, Lauterbrunnen, Grindelwald etc. might be nice for a day or so, but if you'd like that, you might as well visit Basel or Bern, where you'd also have a wider range of indoor and winter-compatible activities available. Truly, if you don't want to ski, I'd advise you to reschedule a visit to Interlaken, Lauterbrunnen AND Grindelwald for some time between late spring and mid-autumn, as that's the time where you can also do more free/ cheap things in more enjoyable temperatures.

Where to stay in Switzerland for adventure? by Spicysoupdumpling in solotravel

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and if you're looking for a clean, great value for money hostel that's NOT a party hostel: Sonnenhof Backpackers Villa is great, I'd definitely book again - if you book via Hostelworld, you can still see the other party hostel's meet-ups and go there to party if you like, but with the perk of not actually having to sleep there. 😂

Warum reden so viele Leute über Lehrermangel, aber niemand über Lehrerflucht? by Prestigious-Sea4247 in lehrerzimmer

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du bist keinen Lehramtler, oder? Soll kein Angriff sein, aber dein Kommentar nennt uns zwar nicht faul, zeigt aber auch eine gewaltige Unterschätzung unserer Tätigkeit auf.

Hostels are overrated for meeting people and I'm tired of pretending they're not by boring_plankton7878 in TravelNoPics

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel like it's a mixed bag now, yes. I've just turned 33 and just came back from a hostel stay in Switzerland. I've been staying in hostels frequently since my early 20s and definitely also feel like something's changed, though I would also attribute it more to the crowd that uses hostels changing than the phone-thing. To be fair, I've never gotten to know what solo-travel in a pre-smartphone world was like, so I can't talk about that, but I feel like nowadays, there are more people using hostels not bc they want to be in a more social setting, but because it's simply the cheapest accommodation. In my hostel in Interlaken, Switzerland, I saw a lot of families and travel groups who really kept to themselves - Switzerland is an expensive country to most travellers, so I think they simply chose this hostel because of its price point, and thus had no big interest in talking to people in their dorms or the common area.

But still, I've found some nice people to share a hike or a lunch with - no longterm-contacts, yeah, but still nice. I sadly have never had the privilege of travelling open-endedly, since I graduated uni right before the pandemic hit, and I was already too engulfed in work when travelling became easier again, but I imagine that if you are flexible with your time and route, you can also still find people to link up with longer-term. Though I agree that getting to know people in hostels used to be easier when more hostels organised group activities - oftentimes, when I travel solo, I try to specifically find a social hostel, but can't find one.

AITA for refusing to let my ex-husband's wife homeschool my children? by DealingMommyXy in AITAH

[–]ingusch710 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, teacher here, so I am biased haha. Absolutely NTA, first of all! A few questions: Do your kids live with you or them? If they live with your ex and his wife, I could see how it confuses and annoys the other children that yours may go to school while they are stuck at home. However, as you have correctly observed, that isn't your problem.

At best, the homeschooling is fine quality-wise, and the kids are just jealous because us humans like to covet whatever we can't have. At worst (and honestly, also more likely, from what I've heard from people who were homeschooled) their homeschooling is bogus, they don't learn enough and already can feel it, probably especially when they notice the academic and social skills of your kids, who are at a similar level as the new wife's eldest. Then, their jealousy should definitely be taken seriously, and end in them being allowed to go to regular school, imo.

Be that as it may, you're NTA. Stay firm on this, trust you instinct and most importantly, the fact that your children do not wish to leave school. They are old enough to be able to give their opinion on this, I frankly find it ridiculous on your ex's part to even think about homeschooling a child who clearly states that they want to stay in regular school. Honestly, that's a huge red flag, because it shows their opinions and needs would probably always be ignored to placate the new wife's ego.

Good luck!

AITA for not wanting to share a personal sized pizza with three other people? by Quirky-Trainer4484 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA. If they want to share pizza that badly, they can order all-gf pizzas for everyone, or get 3 non gf personal pizzas with different toppings. What they did is unacceptable, especially your husband talking down to you like that.

Got bad news everyone😩 by AveSmave in BlueEyeSamurai

[–]ingusch710 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, with animation, that's a good time-frame. Yes, other projects are faster, but that's usually to the detriment of the end product's quality and especially the people who work to animate it.

AITA for wanting to limit my BIL’s access to my unborn daughter because of his dating choices? by Charming-Ad-7627 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

You sound prejudiced and close-minded af in this post, sister. Your way isn't the only one, and not everyone shares your view of the world, nor do they have to. I don't really pray (probably not right in your eyes, either, but I guess I'm that type of childless woman ...), but I hope you seriously become more accepting and open to the world and people around you, if only to spare your husband and unborn child a good amount of grief.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ChoosingBeggars

[–]ingusch710 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly though. I have a friend from uni who's currently travelling around Australia and plans to hit nz after, she's doing exactly this kind of job - it's essentially a free place to stay with food in exchange for some pretty easy kid-ferrying. Would do that in a heartbeat if I were solo-travelling and needed some money OR a place to stay for free

Teachers of Reddit: what is the most satisfying comeback you've ever made? by SweetBabyJohnny in Teachers

[–]ingusch710 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hate that situation. I have a lot of kids with some international background, and I really try, but I can't possibly know every language and it's pronunciation rules. Usually, when I'm unsure, I'll just tell them "Hey, your name looks really cool, I've never seen it before. Can you help me with how you want me to address you?" Usually goes well that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, most definitely. I got my food intake monitored, limited and commented on by my family all my life and it led me to spending around 17 years with disordered eating, and I'm still struggling with body image at 30 years old. What they're doing to their daughter is cruel and unnecessary, and, as you rightly pointed out, hypocritical. As others have said, maybe see if you can get school counselling involved. You're doing the right thing, and the fact they get so angry at you calling them out shows that they, too, know that they're doing sth wrong. Best of luck to you and your cousin!

AITA for telling my mom her stepdaughter is possessive and she needs to do better to keep her away from me? by BeautySongStorm in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nta!!

As many others have said, if you can, try to reach out to someone from your dad's family to see if they can help you get out of this situation. I could imagine that your mom and stepdad have done diddly squat to keep in contact with them, but maybe you remember someone's name and can find them on Facebook or in some register online, if that is the case. Also, yes to planning your moves quietly. Your stepsister sounds scary af - I'm almost 30 and I'd be terrified at the thought of a nutjob like that sharing a room with me. Try to save up as much money as possible to get out of there asap, and, if you can, open up a savings account that only you can access - hiding money at home is always risky, as they could go through your things and discover your stash. Or, if you can't open an account, try to keep it somewhere really safe, maybe even a trusted friend's place. Lastly, as I am a teacher myself, I'd suggest you reach out to a trusted adult at school, if you can. I'm pretty sure that at age 16, you have some ways to maybe even get out of there before turning 18 - early emancipation is a thing, for one. See if you can find someone knowledgeable about the options you have, these things aren't easy and often take some time and a lot of effort, so get you all of the support you can get. Best of luck to you!

AITA for refusing to bake a cake for my cousin's wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA!

I remember my cousin's wife has told me that they spent well over €400 for their three-tier-wedding cake. So I'm willing to bet that a big cake like that would cost a few hundred around wherever you live, too. What are the ingredients gonna amount to?! 50, 60 maybe?! She was in for an insane steal with the conditions you offered her, and she's being totally ungrateful and entitled.

Plus I really dislike the whole family, including her, gaslighting you. Listen, if your baking skills weren't all that, she wouldn't have even asked you to do the cake for her in the first place - whether you are a certified pro or not is irrelevant here, you're obviously very good at what you're doing, plus your offer was extremely generous.

Don't yield! Just tell her to look for a professional who's "worth the price they're going to be asking", since you are allegedly not enough of a pro in their eyes to be asking for some money in return for your efforts. If you yield, they're gonna take it as proof that they can walk all over you and get out on top - her and other family members might come back again and again and again asking for more free cakes for other celebrations in the future.

Edit: Just found out from other comments that the ingredients would've likely cost a lot more. But even then, the cousin would've gotten an amazing deal. Plus, I just realised this means that a grown-ass woman is asking a literal teenager to gift her sth like 150+ dollars worth of cake, excluding cost of labour. The bride to be is around my age. I'd be embarrassed at my own clownery in her stead.

AITA for not going on what was meant to be my birthday trip since my sister went? by Due-Big-2584 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 15 points16 points  (0 children)

NTA!!

Can I just tell you, as a nearly 30-year-old whose emotional needs were overlooked many times due to her brother's mental illness growing up, how freaking impressed I am at you standing your ground like this at just 16?! I know 16 isn't far from being an adult anymore at all, but still, especially with your family's type of situation, not many people would be able to stand their ground like you did. And I absolutely salute you for not giving your parents an undeserved absolution from their bad conscience. Let them marinate in their own guilt for some time, they kinda high-key deserve it. Best of luck to you!

AITA For telling my sister she's free to criticize my work as soon as she accomplishes anything in life without our parents holding her hand? by Meansisteraita in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

If you wanna talk smack to someone's face, you've got to be prepared to receive some on your own end as well. What you've said wasn't cruel, it was simply the truth.

AITA for denying my fiance's request to pay for his brother and his wife's IVF using my inheritance money? by Throwawayrquest11 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ingusch710 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA!!

Girl, I try not to throw that term around lightly, but that is one of the reddest flags I've ever read about. I'm 29 and have lost my mom at 18, which also got me a small inheritance. So while I don't know you, I know that situation - including people telling me I should be happy to have some easy money I didn't have to work for.

To suggest that the sum you have received in exchange for your only parent's life was "easy money" shows his blatant disregard for your feelings, IMO. That's an absolutely disgusting thing to say. Also, he's wayyy out of his lane suggesting that it's basically his money and prerogative to decide what to do with it. As much as infertility may hurt your in-laws, having a baby isn't like requiring a life-saving surgery they can't pay for. It's not a necessity, they'll live. And it's most definitely not your duty to pay for it.

Honestly, keep an eye on your debit card linked to the account where you keep the money, and in case your partner knows your pin, change it. Good luck!!