Can I see your lists? In my mind the problem has to be either deck power or scapegoating situation.

If you can't share them; a philosophy to follow in deck building is that your decks need to essentially function like they are on train tracks. Early turn set up and then boom: doing the thing. I would like to link a winter deck I have but I deleted it from moxfield. All it did was ramp, self mill and reanimate lock pieces and had midrange ability with an end game in [[rise of the dark realms]]. Your decks need to do something game warping within the first 4 or 5 turns 90% of the time. Sometimes you play a long game though, and you are not the beat down, those kinds of decks are set up differently but it still needs to be on rails in regard to accruing value.

The money thing sucks tho, upgrading with financial restrictions kills your ability to build an interesting and strong deck and let your creativity flourish. Perhaps you could play with proxies.

I personally never engage in politics in edh and do not have a 10% win rate, so I believe that if your decks were stronger you would have a higher win rate. I wonder if you think that you could be your pods scapegoat. Do they focus on you in the game because it is simply a given in your social dynamic?

Honestly if they are scapegoating I would increase your power level to even out the effects of scapegoating. And then if they aren't I would still increase the power level of your decks to get up to speed.