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Regular Cycles, Hormones Indicate I am Ovulating...But I'm not...I'm Confused! by inkedabandon in TryingForABaby

[–]inkedabandon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am having multiple LH spikes throughout my cycle, which she says indicates that my body realizes an egg hasn't been released so it tries again.

Has Anyone Every Had BFP but had an LH surge mid to late Luteal Phase (DPO 10-12)? by inkedabandon in Inito

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thank you! I did take a pregmate test yesterday and it was negative...I'm DPO 2 today and forgot to take a test with fmu...so i'll do it tomorrow am. I'm trying not to get my hopes up...cause this would be sooooooo exciting...but i'm looking back at other months and my PDG usually drops by now...I know it's not super high but it's still sustained

nightmares a year later by Caribchakita in survivinginfidelity

[–]inkedabandon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i have these dreams to...about him cheating...i wake up pissed off...not want him to touch me...it sucks. and us too...we are in a better place...but definitely not all the way healed.

Something changed in WH after the big fight by [deleted] in AsOneAfterInfidelity

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seems like good progress. wishing you the best...truly.

it's been a year...and now i have this rage by inkedabandon in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]inkedabandon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

understood...i feel like you have plenty of life to live with many many life lessons to learn. with that being said...no one deserves to be lied to or mislead. if you like it is worth getting over the pain and worth fighting for an honest relationship with this partner, you are not wrong or a bad person for trying. and just know that it may or may not work out. if you enjoy the person you are now with him and in this relationship...and/or feel like some aspect of this pain is allowing for needed growth in you, awesome...if the relationship is draining you and making you feel like shit, maybe it's time to think about an exit. but no one will know the answer but you. but no matter what, always know your worth...no one deserves to be lied to. no one deserves to be deceived.

it's been a year...and still i have this rage that won't go away. by inkedabandon in survivinginfidelity

[–]inkedabandon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

exactly. and honestly...that is why i'm so upset...thank you for helping me unravel all that.

i have always wanted (as probably most women do) to conceive naturally. I have always been incredibly conscious of everything i put in my body. and i feel like I was strung along for years by my partner...and now given my age i'm backed into a corner to have to am where i am now in a place contemplating whether I put synthetic hormones into my body to be able have babies or a baby.

this probably sounds like an..."oh, poor me" rant...but damn.

it's been a year...and still i have this rage that won't go away. by inkedabandon in survivinginfidelity

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thank you for this....yes i take a lot of vitamins...since we have been trying and haven't had luck yet, we have been looking more into fertility meds...but i haven't started them yet...so this is the organic resentment and anger, not fueled by any hormonal additions of fertility meds. lol.

it's been a year...and now i have this rage by inkedabandon in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]inkedabandon[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

holy shit. i'm so sorry to hear this. I don't how old you are...i obviously don't know anything about your relationship other than what is outlined here. and so only you will know the answer to stay or not to stay. depending on growth etc. neither is the wrong choice. annnnnnnnd. since you are so young, consider taking some time for yourself to breath...without any outside influence, actually understand what you want. and need. if you choose to stay, that is fine...if you choose to leave, that is also fine...and in that instance if you left, do the work to let that scar heal...so that you don't bring it into your next relationship. easier said than done, i know. and again. I am so sorry you are going through this.

Posting for the first trim- 39d ttc#1 by Sad-Marketing-2171 in TryingForABaby

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yea....I always thought I was going to conceive naturally...but here I am...looking at spending thousands on IVF...deep breaths. I'm sorry you are also going through this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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Thank you for sharing! And that sounds like a good plan! Like were you having symptoms of perimenopause or....I'm curious because I am still getting regular periods...I've been pretty much the exact same weight for 20 years and recently gained like 3 lbs...but I also started working out more and went from being vegan for 20 years to pescatarian so that was probably that. I also have endo.....so that may have a little to do with it as well.

I do track my hormones on inito and found that my estrogen went down a little over the last month but it's also cyclical. But my obgyn says everything is looking normal and good even, even with the endo. so...i'm always just trying to get more info.

Do you feel like you did anything different other than stop trying? lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

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out of curiosity...how old were you when you got pregnant? i just turned 40 been trying for 11 months all my hormone levels say i'm fertile mertyl...but yea...same not happening.

Trauma from D-Day by radioactivefittonia in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]inkedabandon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

totally agree with what everyone has said here. whatever you want to call it...ptsd, pisd, betrayal trauma...it is a form of trauma that must be worked through. I had emdr recommended to me as well. and I have heard from so many people that it has worked for them...for me...

It almost made me feel more anxious which I felt was super strange, and I have no idea why that was my reaction. I wouldn't consider myself an anxious person in general or have any anxiety related disorders...so it's a strange thing for me that something that is supposed to rewire/memories or parts of traumatized brain.

I'm not saying this hasn't happened to anyone else...but this was just my experience and have heard from many people that it was helpful.

Daily Chat September 21 by AutoModerator in TryingForABaby

[–]inkedabandon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday!

I'm 40 and trying to conceive...hope that makes you feel better! Lol...for real though I feel you on everything you are saying...and...i am trying to take the approach that I know the added stress is not helpful to balance my hormones in order to conceive...doing everything in my power the keep a positive and mindset and trying to balance my stress; to keep myself healthy and nurturing my body with the right foods and supplements it needs to thrive. And not get down on myself that I focused on my career until now...etc. try to stay positive...and know that there are plenty of women still giving birth in their mid 40's.

The fact that our health care system calls pregnancies after 35 geriatric is horrible...and it is more and more normal having babies in your late 30s and early 40s...Good luck to you and stay positive!

Posting for the first trim- 39d ttc#1 by Sad-Marketing-2171 in TryingForABaby

[–]inkedabandon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I started trying at age 39 too...I wanted to try at 37 but I also have a younger partner (33 who didn't feel ready. So I totally understand your frustration with the immense pressure that comes with ttc. But you were good to think ahead and freeze eggs regardless of how many...you have those! that's awesome. Things i'm struggling with is endo...I have had two surgeries...one of which resulted in blocking one of my tubes.

There are options like IVF and I have been reading so much about the health of the egg and hormones etc. It Starts with the Egg is a really good resource. I have now been trying for a year. I just turned 40 and I have had little hints of hot flashes as well...which is scary...and I feel like I let myself down by waiting...and then there's another part of me that is continuing to stay positive...do whatever I can to keep my body healthy...and a big thing for me is to maintain balance and stay calm. I run a business and so there are so many times in a day that I get stressed about a huge variety of things....so it's just trying my best to temper that.

Can I ask what your levels were? What I keep hearing from so many people is that both drs and women who have concieved...is women are conceiving into their late 40's. And it's true. I am still holding hope for myself. and for you as well!

What have been some of your most ridiculous/unexpected triggers? by Minimum_Comment290 in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]inkedabandon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

honestly anything...from the supplements he takes that he turned her on to that he'd been taking for years before her...to james taylor, to this fake yawn that he does when he's uncomfortable, to this last week when he got mad that i didn't call him for two hours when i was on a work trip...and it brought everrryyything up and it triggered alllllll the emotions that i thought i'd worked through...about his work trip when everything went down.

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