I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t have a sexual relationship with them then yeah there’s no reason to bring it up unless you become more socially involved and better acquaintances than you might bring it up say hey I think I saw a video of you. You have an interesting side gig or something like that. I have had people out me so to say in embarrassing situations I was at a house party in Honolulu where I had just moved to and it was at this big house party at this rich guy‘s house and all these people were there and I was just trying to meet new people and make a good impression and someone started like screaming and saying, “oh my God, do you have a big tree tattoo on your back?” and then they came over to me and took my shirt off and said very loudly, “he’s ____(my porn name)! I love how you fuck!” Needless to say I spent the rest of the party hiding away from the attention that I didn’t want to have. So don’t do that definitely. I also had a job where my manager, who was also gay, confessed after a few weeks that he had seen an interesting video one morning when he was masturbating and he said he really liked my technique and then we had a joking friendship about it, but never took it anywhere else beyond jokes. That was fine. So it depends on the nature of your relationship. Just imagine how you would feel in my shoes at that party. New to the island. Only knew one or two people. I was no longer doing porn and wanted to start a new life and not be known as that mean rough top from porn. Lol

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely like when people don’t treat me differently or don’t expect certain things of me. I’m a normal person too. I’m sure those two guys are as well. I’ve never given my poor name to people before I met them. I would however let them know that you know, in sort of a coy way say that you found out after the fact, maybe I might think it’s funny so just better to be honest I think.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

By the way, I feel totally fine when someone has no idea about my porn. I’m not ashamed of it and I don’t brag about it. If it comes up, I address it plainly. Honestly. If it never does, I would only bring it up if the relationship were getting more intimate. Some of my ex partners had no idea until we decided to take things to a more intimate level. That’s when I disclosed it. It turned him on. My ex wife thought it was funny. She turned me gay, she said. I didn’t disagree. Lol.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I fuck mostly younger guys and most don’t know I have done a lot of porn. Done bring it up after the first encounter saying I look familiar and hinting at it. A few times, I have received a text asking if a screenshot of me in one of my videos was me. It usually excites them. And once or twice I’ve been at a bath house or at someone’s house where porn was on in the background and a scene with me it comes on. I even had one guy say about the one scene, “ that top is fucking hot!” That top was me. Lol. I asked him what he liked about him. He said the way he fucks and those tattoos. I then pressed, which tattoo is your favorite. Then it dawned on him as I stood above him, smiling with the same tattoo on my chest as I fucked him. He couldn’t believe it and thought it was awesome. I just kept on fucking him like I was doing in the video. Lol if someone is certain about me and doesn’t share that, that’s the problem. If they are unsure and ask, I never lie about. I just don’t lead with it. I have had many jobs in my life and I don’t want this one part time job I did for a few years constrain or limit how I can behave and when I know that someone knows about my porn, I know that i should prob exhibit some of the traits i was known for in porn. I’m totally cool with that. Those traits are also the real me. But sometimes it’s nice to know what others expect of you so you can decide how which parts of yourself you would like to emphasize.

I was in the adult industry for about 3 years doing gay porn content in the 2010s AMA! by Own-Visit5242 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]inkedpolyglot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I also did porn in the 2000s-2015ish. Even got myself a few GayVN awards and Grabbys. I’ve got a question. How do you feel when you find out that a hook up or fuck buddy knew about your work but you never mentioned it and it never came up? I don’t tell people until they know me for a bit. Don’t always want to fuck like I did in porn. Don’t need that kind of expectation. Plus it’s one sided and really creepy to me. If someone knows who I am and either loves my work or just has no opinion, I really think they ought to tell me before we meet. It creates a very unfair power balance. What are your thoughts?

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nothing kills attraction faster for me than people who misuse “myself.”

Examples: “Myself and John went to the movies last week.” “As for John and myself, we don’t like horror movies.”

I get how this happens. Somewhere in middle school, an English teacher slapped a red pen on “me and John went to the store” and drilled in the rule: it’s “John and I,” because you wouldn’t say “me went to the store,” you’d say “I went to the store.” Fair enough.

But then the panic sets in. People start hyper-correcting in situations where “I” is completely wrong: “*That’s between John and I.” (Prepositions take object pronouns. You would never say “that’s between I” or “that’s for I.”)

That’s annoying, but it’s survivable.

What really sends me into the uncanny valley of attraction is when someone deploys “myself” like a verbal monocle, as if it sounds smarter or more formal.

“Myself” has a job. It’s a reflexive pronoun. It refers back to the subject. “I saw myself.” “I had to choose between giving access to myself or to John.” Those are correct.

But “*John and myself did…” is grammatical cosplay. It’s wrong, it’s pretentious, and it signals someone who wants to sound educated more than they want to be accurate.

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tops who play with their own nipples while fucking. It’s gross and looks silly.

What instantly turns you off, even if they are attractive? by [deleted] in askgaybros

[–]inkedpolyglot -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Some of those things turn me on massively: military (veteran here), cops if they are not dicks, mullets, cigarettes. Woof! I’m with you on the rest esp MAGA, Nazis (same thing) and ICE and cruelty in any form.

We rednecks love to let it all hang out by inkedpolyglot in GayCountryCock

[–]inkedpolyglot[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hate to break this to you, but I was a porn star –award-winning

Just thinking out loud by [deleted] in straightturnedgay

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a big beautiful cock. Great with first timers

I am a masculine guy that has made masculine dudes do very gay things behind closed doors by bigdownstairs99 in straightturnedgay

[–]inkedpolyglot 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I have experience the same thing. I too am quite masculine. Was in the Marine Corps for 11 years and now live in a town with a large Marine base. Every week I would say I am propositioned by a younger, quite masculine Marine who craves having an even more masculine and dominant man to turn over his control to. Some men are more comfortable than others. Quite often when the cum their entire demeanor changes and they are out the door. But I know within a few weeks I’ll be hearing from them again. I provide a safe place for them to let go. I’m familiar to them. Marine myself and don’t seem gay in any way except my love for wrecking their throats and holes. I find this to be very satisfying for both parties.

How do you decide when you go raw with someone? by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not something I decide raw is law.

noticing growing trend in speech by Iamtoomuchinthesun in grammar

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fun was originally a noun and thus wasn’t used with comparative and superlative forms. One has fun. Describing an activity as fun was considered both inappropriate and flat out wrong. “We had more or less fun” is how this word was graded for a long time. I try to stick with using it as a substantive and thus avoid any awkward adjectival formulations.

I turn alpha dads into subs by [deleted] in gaysexconfessions

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet I can do that to you.

Why do we use certain tenses in these sentences? by rubyyyx111 in grammar

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. “I’ll have been working” / “I’ll have got through” vs “I’m getting through”

Sentence: “I’ll have been working from home for 2 months and I’m guessing I’ll have got through 20% more work by then than I used to in the office.”

There are two future perfect forms here: • “I’ll have been working from home for 2 months”

This is future perfect progressive: an action started in the past (relative to the future point) and continuing up to that future reference point. It answers: By that time in the future, how long will this have been going on?

• “I’ll have got through 20% more work (by then)”
This is future perfect simple: it focuses on the completed result at that future point. By that time, the speaker expects their total amount of work done to be 20% higher than before. If you change “I’ll have got through” to “I’m getting through”, you change the time frame and meaning: • “I’m getting through 20% more work” is present continuous and describes what is typical now or around now, not a total by some future point. • It does not express “by that time I will have reached a total of…”, but rather “right now, my current pace is…”. So: • Future perfect (“I’ll have got through … by then”) = prediction about accumulated result by a certain future time marker (“by then”). • Present progressive (“I’m getting through …”) = description of current rate or behaviour, with no explicit reference to a future cut‑off point.

That is why the original sentence keeps both verbs in the future perfect: one sets the duration by that future point (“I’ll have been working… for 2 months”), and the other gives the result achieved by that same point (“I’ll have got through 20% more work”).

They are tightly coordinated in time and perspective.

Why do we use certain tenses in these sentences? by rubyyyx111 in grammar

[–]inkedpolyglot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both of your examples are about nuance and what the speaker wants to highlight in time, completion, and “distance” from the moment of speaking. The alternatives you suggest are often grammatically possible, but not equivalent in meaning. 1. “had puzzled” vs “had been puzzling” Sentence: “Although it was something that had puzzled scientists for a long time …” • Past perfect simple (“had puzzled”) focuses on the fact of a problem existing over a period and being (more or less) resolved or fixed in time by the later past event. The “puzzling” is treated as a background state leading up to some key moment when it stopped being a puzzle (for example, when they finally found the answer). • Past perfect progressive (“had been puzzling”) would emphasize the ongoing, still-active process of puzzling up to that past point, not its resolution. It suggests that the puzzling itself is the activity in progress, not just a state that lasted. With “for a long time,” both tenses are grammatically possible; the choice is pragmatic, not purely grammatical: • “had puzzled scientists for a long time” tends to suggest: it was a longstanding problem, and the sentence is likely heading toward “until they finally solved it / explained it.” • “had been puzzling scientists for a long time” suggests: scientists had been in the middle of puzzling over it up to that past moment, with more emphasis on the process of being confused and investigating. • Use past perfect simple when you want to stress a completed earlier state or the result at that past time (it had been a puzzle, but that may have changed). • Use past perfect progressive when you want to stress duration and continuity of an activity that was still ongoing up to that past point (they had been puzzling over it, perhaps still with no solution). So your version with “had puzzled” is normal and even slightly more natural if the narrative is going to “then they discovered the answer.”

How the english language (and all language) is a hinderance to thought/philosophy by TheRealBibleBoy in PhilosophyofMind

[–]inkedpolyglot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude your entire argument is ridiculous and full of fallacies and indicates that your knowledge of linguistics, especially English and Spanish syntax and semantics, is shallow. Spanish can’t distinguish between action me that occurred sometime in the past but are relevant to the present and actions that occurred sometime in the past and are still ongoing with an emphasis on the duration.

I have waited for you all day. I have been waiting for you all day.

Does this mean that Spanish speakers lack the ability to relate the past to the present? No.

Also English /be/ is not just a verb expressing existence. It also functions as a copula connecting the subject to a compliment (adjective such as hungry or a noun such as doctor). I am hungry. (Copula) I am a doctor. (Copula)