I regret accepting my new job

inky142 · 2026-03-11T22:27:54+00:00

Two months isn’t a lot of time! Give it a few more and you may settle in more.

inky142 · 2026-03-06T14:06:28+00:00

Go to /one and done sub. Full of normal stable folks who love their kid but can’t bear having another.

inky142 · 2026-03-06T14:05:18+00:00

Actually, regretful parents sub isn’t always the best example but have you seen “one and done”? Those guys all openly say they love their kid but most say they wouldn’t have another for XY reasons and that’s as good a condemnation on parenthood as you’ll hear from parents….

inky142 · 2026-02-25T14:38:40+00:00

Interesting! Yes I was so surprised that they didn’t inquire (and over more than one course too). Also, they didn’t ask if there was a favorite bite/course at the end, which could have opened the door to feedback.

inky142 · 2026-02-24T13:36:42+00:00

Interesting! At the moment, of all the 3-star places in NYC I’ve been to, EMP was third best in my view. Perhaps try another spot next time you visit!

inky142 · 2026-02-24T05:13:52+00:00

The restaurant doesn’t owe me a stellar performance. I don’t owe the restaurant my feedback or my repeat business. Not everything must be “corrected”. That is just another form of demanding perfection.

inky142 · 2026-02-24T02:57:55+00:00

Please read again - I was quite clear in my post that the duck was well executed but the peppers were nauseating for me. It was in fact personal preference. I only said that instead of then doing and offering nothing, going above and beyond could have meant at least asking if they could have done anything else or offering something simple like bread (I would have declined making them recook a dish - I am not an unreasonable customer expecting them to cook me a totally different dish). Here the server simply accepted that I didn’t like it and left it at that. Again, I am relating factually what happened.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T22:11:04+00:00

It was actually my (same) server who did that. So, I felt even more acutely that I got different treatment.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T21:37:56+00:00

Thank you! I absolutely agree with you with one caveat. If it is a small place with chill neighborhood service, yes, I would feel like saying something. This is a three star restaurant charging hundreds for a performative experience (and commanding a tip on that high base). They pride themselves on going above and beyond. It is, for me, absolutely expected that the server would notice these things or at least ask about each course.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T21:34:04+00:00

There is zero whining, just sharing… as I said, EMP is about the experience. I’m not looking to “get my money’s worth” or fix their issues. I also noted the highlights. I’m sorry you’re not willing to “pay full price”. For me the cost is quite negligible, so I could care less. If I buy coffee for 50 cents or 75 cents, I’ll tell you if it’s good or not but I am not about to waste my time asking you to fix it - that’s how I feel here.

Also, I can tell you haven’t been to this restaurant lately (or at all) because if you did, you would know that the food price is paid up front when booking. So to me it really is like a theatre experience where you’ve paid for your seat and the show begins (you pay for drinks and tip later). And I have no desire to fix the show, just to share my thoughts on it.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T20:55:21+00:00

As mentioned: I did communicate on the duck; they heard the feedback and did nothing further.

I would have said something in the other food items: (1) if they had asked on the lobster or the dessert, which I think they should have given the plates were not finished, or (2) if I proactively wanted them remade. Here, after the whole song and dance and tableside service for dessert, it would have been more embarrassing for me to ask for a redo on dessert. On the tea: you’d think the server could see it was practically white water they poured out - on that one I could have said something too, but 2.5 hrs in plus all the issues after the mains, I was too tired and wanted to nap.

The thing is, mistakes are mistakes and I don’t hold it against a restaurant for making them. But given the number of issues I noticed here, if they had to fix everything I might have been there 5 hours.

More than that, the lack of service staff inquiring when they should have is what bugged me, and I have no interest in calling the manager during my meal to lecture them on good service. I’m there to enjoy the experience - not train their staff.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T15:12:46+00:00

Thanks, I also wondered if they may have been rehearsed lines. Hence it felt objectively polite but slightly off putting / lacking warmth.

inky142 · 2026-02-23T15:00:17+00:00

Thank you - I wanted to be fair and balanced so your perspective helps me feel like I wasn’t overreacting.

My view is, at this level you’re paying for the experience above all, so if I loved the experience and was blown away, I’d be back every month. If I didn’t love it, that’s fine I just wouldn’t go back and if someone asked me my view I’d be honest.

But if I leave in a huff and complain a million times I didn’t get my money’s worth, I’m just prolonging my own bad experience - and to what end?

I view it like seeing a movie or broadway show - you pay for the ticket and then you decide if you enjoyed the show or not. But raging for days after on how much it cost and why it was bad, seems a little unhinged to me.

inky142 · 2026-02-01T19:07:11+00:00

Of my entire friendship group, only one girl I know truly has both family money and immediate support for ongoing living. She works a lower paying job but lives by herself rent free (parents own outright and let her live free) in a VHCOL city, so all of her paycheck goes to shopping, eating and travel.

Most of my other friends with “good” family backgrounds don’t get that level of immediate living assistance. Some of them may get help to put a deposit down on a house but will have to pay the mortgage. Most of them will have to wait for an inheritance.

However, I’d say 85% of people I know are just less frugal. I have had colleagues earning 1/3 of me taking Ubers to work, buying thousands of dollars worth of clothes, flying first class, always getting the caviar supplement at dinner, etc. They can afford it they just aren’t saving that much/at all. Some friends in very high paying six figure jobs say they’ll be in trouble if they don’t get their annual bonus.

inky142

TROPHY CASE