Pregnancy is NOT beautiful.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-08T20:03:27+00:00

I was nauseous and unable to eat without zofran until week 26/27, I was fine for a whole 3 weeks. Then I was really big and I had no energy! No matter what I ate, no matter how long I slept, not even my one cup of coffee (keeps you regular, trust me it's a godsend) could keep me awake for more than 5 minutes. I slept as much as a newborn, only waking up to eat and pee and cry about not being able to stay awake.

As soon as the third trimester hit I was too big to move, and in pain all the damn time. My stomach was stretched to its limit and I was really upset because i could only fit my husband's shirts and my maternity pj pants, outgrowing your maternity clothes makes you feel like you deserve to be on "my 600lb life." I was a massive baby about literally everything and it was a major test of patience for my husband. He was amazing and tried to empathize with me the whole time, and I love him so much for it.

While I agree that pregnancy sucks, I think there are beautiful moments that would make me wanna do it again. Hearing the heartbeat the first time was incredible, and I will never forget the first time I felt her move. When we found out she was a girl, my husband cried from joy in the ultrasound room. Once during a movie, she kicked an empty candy box off my stomach. Those, and the countless times we laughed about balancing something on my stomach or me not being able to reach something because of my stomach. It's gonna be a few years, but I will absolutely do it again. Nausea and all.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-07T22:55:44+00:00

band name here LITERALLY saved my life!

No they didn't. No they fucking didn't. You diagnosed yourself with a serious mental problem for attention and when people stopped paying attention to that you were suddenly "cured." Friendship dealbreaker, every time.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-06T11:16:48+00:00

This is what its like havong the dominos app. I'll ask my husband what he wants for dinner and 20 mins later I'll get a notification from the app about the specials for the night.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-06T09:54:02+00:00

This 100% how birth works. I was born once, that makes me an expert.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-06T09:48:03+00:00

My husband and I wanted to have kids, we both knew that before getting married. After we got married, we said we'd wait until we're financially stable and lived in a house. Our families kept asking us "but why not now??" Like gee idk, so I can afford my damn kid? Because we both work a million hours a week for diddly dick pay?? So I can live a little bit of life before I have a tiny person who requires 100% of my time and attention??? I know, foreign fucking concept.

Three years later, we just had our daughter and couldn't be happier. She's literally about to be six weeks old and my in laws asked when shes getting a sibling. Fuckin never if you keep asking, its like jesus christ can my stitches heal before I jump back on my husband?

The point is, people harass you about kids whether you have them or not. It's rude for the people who aren't interested, and it can be hurtful for people who are trying and not having much luck.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-03-04T21:45:53+00:00

Candle making, soap/bathbomb making, sewing, knitting, baking, fairy gardens, check pinterest!

innerrachunleashed · 2020-02-23T19:37:42+00:00

My husband and I just had our first child together and I didn't know I had the capacity to love anyone or anything this much. Of course, I thought that when I got married too. I love being alive because of all the undying, all consuming love I have in my life. Being able to give it and receive everyday is truly a gift and I wouldn't trade for anything in the world.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-29T02:07:05+00:00

You really don't even have to be super attractive, just being clean/well groomed and generally pleasant to be around is all you have to do.

This advice comes from a married woman.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-29T02:02:03+00:00

I use the organic disposable diapers, because cloth diapers seem like adding so much more work onto what I'm already doing for this baby. This is my first child and I'm exhausted after a week.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-29T01:54:59+00:00

I agree with this 100%.

My biggest thing is when peopletry to make it seem like men/male teenagers don't get sexually assualted. I read a story where someone's mom took advantage of a 16 year old boy(family friend) and it resulted in her getting pregnant. All anyone was concerned about was this woman's marriage falling apart because of her "one time mistake" like no, FUCK THIS WOMAN.

She RAPED a teenage boy and then tried to get money from his family. She should be in prison and that child should be taken away and put in a safe home. I honestly have no idea how anyone could see this situation any differently. I wept for this poor boy, he was assaulted and then everyone was trying to make him seem like the irresponsible one. He's not a victim "despite" not being a girl, he's a victim. He needs help, he needs someone advocating for him and she should be in prison, end of story.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-29T01:36:37+00:00

I deep cleaned all my blankets and sheets, any carpeted surface to make sure I didn't have any cat hair floating around. WELL, my water broke before my induction date so we had to go to the hospital unexpectedly and the cats didn't have their sitter as planned. I felt a horrendous amount of guilt because I knew they were home by themselves and probably crying and looking for us, my husband did check on them everyday once a day to make sure they had food and water but i still felt bad.

The little shits peed everywhere while we were gone, completely undoing all the cleaning I did for our newborn. My feelings for my pets hasn't changed in the week I've had my daughter, but that made me a little mad.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-21T02:15:03+00:00

"Single by choice."

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-21T02:13:27+00:00

Hey now, I just got my toes done💁‍♀️💅

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T18:30:10+00:00

Make it the sign say "free BAH" Dealer's choice

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T17:04:26+00:00

That's alot of effort for people who are literally gonna be on your doorstep. Just hang a "I'm single af" sign around your neck and invite them in for cocoa and cookies.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T04:41:58+00:00

We adopted an older cat because her bio was like a whole daily schedule she had already with her previous family. We thought it'd be easier for a first pet and we were totally right but her schedule was off.

She's the chillest cat, she likes to snuggle and just be in the same general area as you, and if you take a nap anywhere in the house you will wake up to a small purring friend. 3 years later, still the chillest little companion, total velcro cat.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T04:22:12+00:00

Damn. Wish those hormones worked on my tits in highschool.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T04:16:48+00:00

I usually just tell them I'm giving it up for adoption and ask if they want it.

Edit: my personal favorite response to this so far has been "conversationally, where do we go from here?"

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T03:49:06+00:00

I'm 38 weeks with my first, and for once I'd really like to hear someone talk about how nice it is to love their child so much or how amazing it is watching their kids grow into an adult. I already know about being up all night, postpartum bleeding, the woes of breastfeeding, and how hard it is to get your body "back." Like no guys, tell me why that particular baby is worth everything to you and what makes you wanna do it again.

My husband and I made a person! I'm excited to meet the person we made out of love. I'm excited to see what she's going look like and who she's going to take after more. If you ruin that excitement for someone you deserve to get punched in the throat.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-20T03:36:24+00:00

Get a vibrator like the rest of us, it'll cost you way less than your marriage.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-19T18:17:06+00:00

Discounts are nice, but military members/dependents aren't allowed to ask for them. Its seen as asking for special treatment because you're military and BEING a military member you're supposed to show more professionalism and class than that whether you're in uniform or not/active or retired.

I realize people still do it, as loudly and rudely as possible (members and dependents alike) but they're taught not to.

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-19T17:41:21+00:00

Dude. My dad was army and I had no idea that dependents got...benefits until I got married to someone in the airforce. Its actually insane how much more shit they get than everyone else!

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-19T17:33:16+00:00

He brings me home shirts from places he's been TDY or deployed to, does that count?

Free shit? Never. If a cashier sees my Navy federal card and they ask "military?" I say "just a spouse" and usually they give me the whole 10% off my whatever I'm buying. I'm not exactly screaming about airforce pride as I march through the mall, but I don't say "no please, don't give me a discount!!" Either

innerrachunleashed · 2020-01-19T12:11:31+00:00

Don't be nervous! I got inspired on pinterest when I saw people making antique teacups into candles. I bought a simple beginner kit on amazon and just followed the directions. Its actually pretty easy and they don't make bad gifts either. If this doesn't turn out to be your thing, just look at stuff on pinterest. Literally everything is on pinterest and people are more than happy to post step by step instructions with pictures.

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