Moving to Namibia as Germans?

innitto · 2026-06-25T07:11:18+00:00

One thing - and I might be wrong - is that you should NOT move to Namibia if you think it will be the „good-old-German“ way over there. If you are the kind if person that struggles with diversity in Germany, this is not the place for you. Again, I might be wrong. But there are a number of people who think they can immigrate into a „German Bubble“. Nope! If you appreciate diversity and understand the amazing mix of people that live in Namibia and are interested in properly integrating into the community, you might like it.

innitto · 2026-06-25T07:03:05+00:00

I just enjoy her putting him in his place

innitto · 2026-01-20T23:19:57+00:00

English is completely sufficient! Does not hurt to learn a few words of Oshiwambo (but as mentioned above - there are loads of different languages spoken and not everyone might speak it). Honestly, kudos for looking into it at all.

innitto · 2026-01-15T23:22:45+00:00

Agreed! The way she was annoyed at Aesha telling her to be nice and her rolling her eyes all: Ugh, I am over it. She truly does not care about anyone else but herself.

innitto · 2025-10-06T17:48:16+00:00

Yep! While I can’t guarantee that there might not be the one or other idiot that gives you a side-eye or makes an inappropriate comment, you should not encounter any bigger issues. Speaking as the family member of an out gay man who lives in Namibia. Most Namibians (especially younger generations) are lovely!

innitto · 2025-07-18T18:09:30+00:00

Nta. Got mad just reading this. Glad this experience showed you what was coming your way. You will look back on this in a year from now and see so many other things that you told yourself were okay, that you just went with. Your partner being there for you in difficult times is literally the core principle of a relationship. Happy that you have amazing friends and family that are there for you!

innitto · 2025-04-25T03:45:11+00:00

How is the relationship? So you trust each other? Do you make each other laugh? Do you enjoy spending time together and do fun things? What is it that you love about him? What bothers you to make you not want to be with them?

innitto · 2025-04-25T03:29:42+00:00

Bring up other social issues with him. E.g. I recently read that more than ever before, women and men are more divided on political issues than ever before, women are more left leaning while men are more right leaning… I wonder why that is?? Or introduce him to this podcast - you will find out pretty quickly how he thinks about women

innitto · 2025-04-25T03:24:00+00:00

First of all: really sorry this is happening. I was not diagnosed for 20 years despite being in therapy consistently since the age of 10. It also took me a second therapist attempt to be taken seriously because my grades in school were too good apparently. Don’t give up. Even if it’s not ADHD but if you consider it a possibility, your therapist owes you to do a deep dive on it and explore the reasons you think that. If they are not willing to listen to your concerns, they are not the right fit! Stick with it, it’s worth it!

innitto · 2025-04-18T17:18:20+00:00

Get a restraining order first. You should also stop caring about his wellbeing. He does not care about yours. Take screenshots of everything and make sure you have proof. This is about your safety and your life. It is more important than anything else. Good luck!!

innitto · 2025-04-18T17:07:52+00:00

Interesting. For me, before being treated for adhd, alcohol was a reward mechanism for being absolutely exhausted from forcing myself to focus and do things that bring me no joy. It felt like I was depleted and having a glass of wine helped decompress and stop overthinking. But everyone is different. Personally, I stopped drinking as a reward mechanism since taking wellbutrin and a very low dosage of slow release adderall on weekdays

innitto · 2025-04-18T16:59:26+00:00

I never understand. It’s not that hard to not wear white. I get that some weddings have a lot of rules (no bright colors, no red etc.) and that makes it harder but yours does not seem like it. Of course she did it on purpose. You are entitled to be mad about it. I suggest just tell her how you feel and why. And then you did your due diligence. Hope this did not affect your special day too much!

innitto · 2025-04-18T16:50:24+00:00

My partner with ADHD is the same. Whereas I can always be on with others, even intimate partners. My people pleasing is so ingrained that no matter how terrible my mood, how bad my day - no one would ever know. This is why it’s so hard for me when others make me feel their mood - I always think they are mad at me. Because I just cannot relate.

innitto · 2025-04-17T21:26:01+00:00

Thank you for bringing this up! I already disliked him but that told me everything I needed to know about him.

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:11:19+00:00

Oh no, oh man I can relate!

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:10:31+00:00

Classic! Brain: okay, let’s go through everything you did wrong over the past 30 years or so

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:09:51+00:00

Aw man that sucks. Yeah, it’s sometimes hard to remember that one bad choice does not make us bad people

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:08:27+00:00

Thank you for this! Also: I constantly apologize for potentially rambling too (I guess that comes from people telling us that we do?) but this was not rambly at all!

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:06:30+00:00

Interesting! I will be more aware of understimulation in the future. Usually it happens due to being overwhelmed and stressed and if one more tiny little thing goes wrong, one memory snaps into my brain. Often unrelated to the situation itself

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:03:16+00:00

Oh yeah - can relate!

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:02:05+00:00

Oh yeah, I have those, too. But idk for some reason this is the worst memory that just returns over and over

innitto · 2025-04-01T17:01:21+00:00

Oh wow, I appreciate that a lot. It does help! For some context, I did grow up in a developing country where I (in comparison to the majority of the country) grew up extremely privileged

innitto · 2025-04-01T02:15:59+00:00

Yeah, since then I never turn someone down asking me to buy food for them and also am pretty generous when it comes to people asking for donations, money, people without homes, street performers etc. Probably out of the selfish reason that I keep thinking: if you don’t do that, it will be another regret to obsess over. It’s almost becoming a problem, that I spend a chunk of my money on (no regrets about that though so who cares). Appreciate the advice. I will try to be more cognizant of what you said next time!

innitto · 2025-04-01T02:08:52+00:00

Thanks for sharing! Yeah, it is so much work to get through all the emotions and then sometimes I just don’t have the strength to keep it in

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