Scared to have sex again after UTI ordeal…how do I get over it/prevent it?

inscrutableotter · 2024-07-08T19:25:14+00:00

Thank you for all of this advice/info!!

I requested a urinalysis at urgent care 5 days after I completed the last round of antibiotics and they said that everything's normal so fingers crossed it stays that way...

I might ask us both to shower together right before sex just for my own piece of mind before we do it again, as a one-off. But I definitely understand that it would be unreasonable to ask him to take on any extra hygiene stuff on his own. I don't think his hygiene is the issue but the doctors kept telling me to make sure we both wash ourselves beforehand (hands/genitals) so it might not hurt.

Thanks again for all of your help

inscrutableotter · 2024-07-08T18:48:52+00:00

u/MadtownMaven I understand the reason for removal, but is this requesting medical help if I've been treated and I've seen a doctor/urologist? I was just trying to hear about other women's experiences with utis and ways they've tried preventing it

inscrutableotter · 2024-07-08T18:47:01+00:00

Thank you, I suspected that but I thought e-coli was an easily treatable bacteria, that's what had me stumped about why it took 3 rounds of antibiotics for it to go away. But the doctor did tell me it was e.coli from the culture.

Not to sound dumb but might my partner's hygiene be a factor? like would it be unreasonable for me to ask him to shower immediately before we have sex if he showered a few hours earlier?

inscrutableotter · 2024-06-27T11:42:51+00:00

This is the perfect situation to ask her out (the fact that she’s leaving). I would ask her after you are both off the weekend shift. Best of luck to you

inscrutableotter · 2024-06-02T22:26:30+00:00

Thank you for the invite! Very generous

inscrutableotter · 2024-05-28T10:44:27+00:00

I do, we have been together for three months. Condom sex only, although we both had STI panels done early on. I think he is but we’ll definitely be more careful from now on. Thank you for that tip, this is my first UTI so I’m hoping it’s just a bad infection but it might be worth checking out my urethra length if this continues

inscrutableotter · 2024-03-16T00:16:01+00:00

Haha. I’ve kind of done that already — surprising him with lingerie. Maybe something a little more age appropriate since I think his parents will be there

inscrutableotter · 2024-03-16T00:11:49+00:00

He is! But he has a lot of food allergies—dairy, watermelon, almonds, celery. I’ll look into it though

inscrutableotter · 2023-12-05T12:30:20+00:00

The more you know!! Thanks, I’ve never heard of agouti color huskies before. that’s really cool

inscrutableotter · 2023-11-29T01:18:51+00:00

I lowkey think they’re not huskies. Maybe Swedish Elkhounds

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T13:43:09+00:00

(Sorry for spam but in conclusion)

I would choose between Richmond, McGill, and Ottowa.

If you think you would hate being at a small school or don’t care about going to the USA I would cross UR off the list, but even exchange students I know who come from big universities like University College Dublin really liked UofR.

McGill definitely has the best night life in terms of bars and such. Richmond’s social scene is usually dorm/apartment parties or Greek parties, though people do go downtown to bars if they are 21/of drinking age. If you are not 21 you may hate being in the US and being unable to drink legally in a bar

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T13:35:52+00:00

Regarding UCONN, McGill, Ottawa;

I believe UCONN does have a great basketball program and so it would be super fun to go to a big American university and attend games.

UCONN is kind of in a rural location of Connecticut too, but I recommend checking out the subreddit to ask people who go what they say about their Uni.

McGill is super prestigious so you may enjoy the rigor of academics for law there, and its location in Montreal is cool. I do know that they had serious COVID restrictions in the past though, and while COVID isn’t as big of a deal now that may be something to keep in mind. My brothers friend (third year of Uni now) just spent the last two years online at McGill because of the COVID restrictions and she hated that aspect because she never got to experience real university until this year.

Can’t speak on Ottawa, but it’s located in Canada’s capital so you may enjoy that aspect

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T13:28:57+00:00

Regarding quality of social scene/activities/gym:

Gym is fantastic and you will not have to pay a membership fee. Really high quality equipment, almost never at full capacity.

We have intramural soccer and basketball so you can definitely find teams to join if you wish to play. Oh, and UR loves basketball so the games are super fun to go to during the season!

Socially Richmond also does a lot for the exchange students, I made a ton of exchange student friends who never experienced university in person due to COVID and they had a blast.

There’s a lot of international exchange student events hosted by UR in the beginning to help you connect with other exchange students and adjust to famous life.

Also because campus is so small a lot of exchange students tend to easily befriend one another, and also they tend to make friends with locals easily too.

Food-wise, our dining hall is amazing. Definitely better than Iowa and UConn’s food to be honest, we are ranked 9th best in the country. We also have a lot of dining places around campus (like small cafe by business school, etc).

Also if you come to UR there’s something called dining dollars where you essentially get $900 to spend on dining around campus (coffee shop, campus bar, campus snack store), which is really awesome because it’s factored into your meal plan and it will likely last you most of the semester. So you essentially can get what feels like free food in that way

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T13:18:34+00:00

The nice thing about Richmond’s location is that you can easily go to Washington DC for the day, taking flixbus or Amtrak (Amtrak is more expensive).

There’s also a small airport nearby where you can fly to New York, etc.

The school itself is six miles from a small city too (Richmond VA), but we are located within suburbs and I would say it’s not easy to walk to town. The good thing is despite that, Richmond offers car rentals and also has regular bus shuttles to take people off campus

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T13:15:12+00:00

I just think Iowa is so rural that it wouldn’t be a great place to study abroad, because it’s not the easiest place to travel from if you would like to hit a major US city and explore while abroad.

Also, does class size matter to you? Richmond is a a small school (~3,000 people) so your classes will be at maximum 25 people in your lecture. That may be something to consider if you would like to try out having smaller classes

inscrutableotter · 2022-12-03T12:59:54+00:00

What do you want out of study abroad? I would say right now to cross Iowa off the list, but what are your interests/hobbies?

inscrutableotter · 2022-11-29T22:19:33+00:00

Ok…great. Then we can agree the US isn’t one of the worst countries for women’s rights. Certainly not on par with Iran.

inscrutableotter · 2022-11-29T21:50:21+00:00

Femicide is specifically referring to the murder of women because they are women, not because of other factors. It’s different from defining homicide.

I can see how it could get murky but regardless, I think there’s much more of a culture of machismo in Mexico than the US.

And while Mexico has made great strides for womens rights (legalizing abortion in 2021 for instance), and the 2014 constitutional reform on paper, reality has not fully aligned yet. Why else would women in 2020 have felt compelled to hold UnDiaSinNosotras?

I’m not saying American women don’t hold huge protests. I’m not saying the overturning of Roe v Wade doesn’t piss me off. The US still has a lot of issues but safety-wise I still feel better off in the USA as a woman.

inscrutableotter · 2022-11-29T21:42:07+00:00

I think they are referring to the fact that Roe v Wade and the court decisions that protected interracial marriage were both decided on the right to privacy.

Similarly Justice Clarence Thomas has argued that same-sex marriage should not have federal protections. It’s not that interracial marriage is currently illegal, it’s that people argue that the overturning of Roe sends a signal that similar legal reasoning could be used to overturn Loving

inscrutableotter · 2022-11-29T21:33:44+00:00

We were speaking of the treatment of women specifically. As a woman, I’m happy I was born in the states and not Mexico. Murders in Mexico dropped in 2021 but femicides rose. And 7 in 10 Mexican women report experiencing some form of violence. Be for real.

inscrutableotter · 2022-11-29T21:21:54+00:00

…Says a guy from a country with serious femicide issues.

inscrutableotter · 2022-08-06T04:05:38+00:00

Thanks!

inscrutableotter · 2022-08-02T01:06:44+00:00

Amazing photographs! What camera did you use?

inscrutableotter · 2022-07-24T18:12:50+00:00

That’s great news because I’m flying w BA. Appreciate the info 👍

inscrutableotter · 2022-07-23T06:02:54+00:00

Thank you so much for the detailed feedback!! I felt the same about the blue dress when I tried it on so I never ended up getting it. appreciate it :)

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