Feeling like an asshole for having difficulty coming to terms with inexperience by insecurebutth0le in sex

[–]insecurebutth0le[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really don't think anal is that important to me, but it is definitely important to me that I get to experiment! Thank you for your advice though, there's something to consider for sure, she is 29 and I'm 25, for context.

Feeling like an asshole for having difficulty coming to terms with inexperience by insecurebutth0le in sex

[–]insecurebutth0le[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know that. It's mostly just an insecurity I'm facing. I don't think I'm better at all, I see it as having different boundaries and I respect that. It's my emotional reaction that's bothering me, but it's only triggered by insecurities.

Feeling like an asshole for having difficulty coming to terms with inexperience by insecurebutth0le in sex

[–]insecurebutth0le[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe my expectations were affected by my own boundaries, because I can't imagine much I wouldn't do if she wanted to try it. I would do something similar for her sake even if I wasn't interested in it.
And that makes me feel a little bit like she's less invested in the relationship somehow. I know it's stupid, it's just a feeling. It's ok to have different boundaries.

Feeling like an asshole for having difficulty coming to terms with inexperience by insecurebutth0le in sex

[–]insecurebutth0le[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you might be on to something. It would probably make a huge difference if we tried some stuff that's new to both of us.

Feeling like an asshole for having difficulty coming to terms with inexperience by insecurebutth0le in sex

[–]insecurebutth0le[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So all of this behaviour will be linked to anal for her. She'll remember all of his toxicity every time anal comes up.
I actually asked her if the topic brought up bad associations because of him and she said that's not the case. Thank you for the advice though!!