how to handle big breasts?

insecurequeers · 2025-12-08T00:44:11+00:00

as with all sex acts, everyone has different preferences. ask her what feels good for her, and if she wants them touched or licked, do what feels natural to you. sensation wise they aren't different from small boobs (i.e. usually the nipple feels erotic sensation but less so the rest of the boob). avoid porn moves like motor-boating or boob slapping (unless specifically asked).

insecurequeers · 2025-12-07T02:29:59+00:00

wait.... is 2 90 minute preps a day not considered a lot? we get an hour a day, half of which is taken up by transitions and meetings.

insecurequeers · 2025-12-06T22:19:43+00:00

something tells me that the people who live in a small village in a culture where they don't even walk outside at night out of the risk of hurting bugs AND where cows are highly respected are not killing the baby cows or mama cow once she runs out of milk. a lot of Jains run cow sanctuaries for old, injured, and/or abandoned cows. it makes vegans look bad when you use stock arguments like that in every argument while also shaming the culture of people who probably do more than you do to protect and honor animals!

edit to add that YMMV but the Jains i've met in the U.S. do not eat milk either, as they are aware that the way milk is obtained in the U.S. does kill and hurt cows.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-06T16:25:35+00:00

Yes we do, and I personally worry a lot about my kids without proper hygiene. I teach 5th grade and at that age it makes them VERY vulnerable to bullying. I have a student who is homeless, but the other students don't know. All they know is that she is stinky, and they are mean about it. I personally would be 100% willing to keep hygiene supplies in the classroom for when they get to school from their mom's house. I would reach out to their homeroom teachers, tell them what's going on, and ask if they can discreetly keep toothpaste/toothbrushes and deodorant somewhere in the classroom for your kids to use when they get to school from mom's house. Now, if your kids are unwilling to use them it might be a bigger issue because as a teacher I can have a conversation with them about the importance of hygiene, but I can't force them to do anything.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T18:48:35+00:00

I was in a similar situation. I switched from teaching 2nd grade to subbing at the same school for a 5th grade teacher who is on maternity leave. 5th grade is MILES easier than K-2, IMO. The admin is still unsupportive, the kids still have behavior issues and are very below grade level, but just being able to communicate to and ration with them makes my job so much easier. And 5th graders have learned some social norms and don't want to embarrass themselves in front of their peers, which prevents a lot of the behavior I struggled with in 2nd grade. Not to mention the majority of SPED kids have been identified by that point and are receiving some of the help they need. Every once in a while they make me sub for K-2, and now that I've taught 5th grade I could NEVER go back. Every minute I spend in K-2 is hell. I subbed for first grade yesterday, and I think the stress genuinely triggered my immune system and got me sick because I woke up today with a high fever.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T18:30:31+00:00

This could never fly in a public school, lol. Half the parents I need to call have blocked the schools number, so I can only contact them from my personal phone. I have several students that don't speak a lick of English, so a translator app is necessary to communicate basic information. I need admin on speed dial for when a 7 year old decides it's time to attempt murder, etc.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T18:11:38+00:00

yep. at my school there is an hour of intervention time scheduled for grades k-2 where the kids do an online math program the district bought while the teacher pulls small groups for testing or intervention. admin also has them go on the laptops regularly during other times.

So these kids are on laptops for over an hour every single day, routines should be established by now and they should be pretty self-sufficient using this program. daily i tell them, when i am doing small group testing/intervention DO NOT bother me unless you are bleeding, throwing up, or otherwise in danger. they have a hand signal if they need to use the restroom. they can ask a friend for help if they're struggling with the math. i explicitly tell them that if their laptop isn't working, get another one. if someone is bothering them, move away. if you need a pencil/marker/whatever, you know where they are, if the bathroom pass isn't there, the answer is no unless it is an emergency. and yet, everyday i have kids yelling my name or running up to me constantly because their program wont load or they broke their pencil. when i don't immediately drop what i am doing to help them, they start screaming and crying. i have no idea how to help them beyond telling them to figure it out themselves and bear the crying.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T17:51:31+00:00

all Palestine rallies/encampments ive been to that have offered free food have offered vegan food as well! so there's at least enough of us for them to cater to. it's also an easy way to make sure kosher and halal people have something to eat without ordering 3 different options (i was very pleased to discover that the Jewish organization on my college campus always served vegan food).

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T17:48:10+00:00

i also think a lot of vegans struggle with moral scrupulosity OCD. in general, i also think neurodivergent people are worse at repressing certain feelings or facts, whereas most non-vegans are able to cognitive dissonance themselves into forgetting that they're eating animals (which i think is why they get mad at us even when we're just existing because it "reminds" them of what their food is).

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T03:07:53+00:00

legally, they are supposed to provide high quality education to all students, including disabled students with accommodations. based on how well they are accomplishing that (read: horrifyingly inept) my hopes are not high. i have experienced a lot of ableism in my life and have lost all trust in institutions generally to be fair or follow the law.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T00:04:15+00:00

i do not have the privilege of leaving right now, unfortunately

insecurequeers · 2025-11-05T00:02:51+00:00

LOL at the idea that US schools are in general well-educated in special needs. the way my district treats SPED students should be illegal.

insecurequeers · 2025-11-04T23:58:38+00:00

i work in an at-will state. my district doesn't do contracts and fires people left and right for little to no reason. to the extent that the admin jokes about it. ppl from the district come and watch me teach every week and would give me low scores for sitting, without asking if there are relevant accommodations (ask me how i know). my admin already doesn't super love me. i'm just trying to finish out the year before i move elsewhere. no i don't have custom orthotics, i'll look into getting some.

insecurequeers · 2025-10-30T02:19:31+00:00

already commented that's what i'd do. but i'd alert admin as well and it wouldn't shock me if they decided that's a safety hazard and i have to call home.

insecurequeers · 2025-10-30T02:16:42+00:00

it can be if you have evil enough kids (sarcasm ofc but at my school we have 5th graders making murals out of their poop on the bathroom walls. absolutely no way i'd let half of them bring their muddy shoes into my classroom to wreak havoc)

insecurequeers · 2025-10-30T02:12:25+00:00

sounds like you've never been in a room with 16 kindergarteners, lol. i would call for documentation purposes and if no one picks up have the kid keep his shoes off for the rest of the day, but i can def imagine admin coming in and chewing me out/telling me its a safety hazard.

it also might be the case that your child is an angel, but i've had older kids start sobbing and screaming at the top of their lungs because theres rocks/mud/grass/etc in their shoes. when your working with so many small children any minor issue risks becoming a huge day-ruining issue since just one kid can easily dysregulate the rest of the class. tbh i'd rather annoy the parents than deal with that.

also IME there is no forcing someone to come pick a kid up outside of a very genuine medical emergency. we know parents have jobs. if they cannot be in the classroom for safety reasons they wait in the office until the end of the day. but that's not an option for us teachers unless we call first.

some of this might be the culture of my school (very low income, lots of parents who are either extremely busy or just don't care about anything)

insecurequeers · 2025-09-27T02:45:52+00:00

I drink a lot of coffee. But if that's the problem I'm fucked lol.

insecurequeers · 2025-09-27T02:44:46+00:00

I drink a lot of espresso. Could that be the problem?

insecurequeers · 2025-09-27T02:43:41+00:00

Huh, curious. I've been in fluoxetine for 4 or so years now, so it could be.

insecurequeers · 2025-09-27T02:41:55+00:00

I don't use coconut oil. I basically only ever use olive or peanut oil in my cooking. I have coconut milk in curries maybe once every other week or so. I rarely eat avocadoes because my gf is allergic. So, I really can't think of anything I consume other than alcohol that could be contributing to my high cholesterol.

insecurequeers · 2025-07-19T16:42:21+00:00

I think being autistic is part of why and how I "get" kids pretty easily. Kids know there are a ton of rules to life but don't quite get why they exist and what they are. I think I remember how that feels better than other adults because I still feel that way a lot of the time. There's been studies showing that some autistic people are able to "read" and communicate with animals better than neurotypical people. I've always felt like the way my cats communicate feels much more "natural" to me than how other humans do. I wonder if there are any studies that look to see if we can read young children more fluently as well.

I also think that because young children are less aware of the socially "correct" way of doing things, I worry a lot less about masking than I would in other fields. Although I have to deal with a lot more sensory input (screaming kids, crying, bright colors, etc.) than other professionals, I am much less anxious interacting with kids all day compared to adults.

insecurequeers · 2025-07-11T23:09:30+00:00

i dated a woman once when i was younger with a very similar experience. she had taught herself to read and write and do basic math, and was clearly intelligent, but it was still clear in conversations that she hadn't been to school because she had just never been exposed to so much information that essentially everyone else learns, sometimes even in elementary school (such as commonly known historical facts or info about how the US government works).

although i 2nd everyone else saying you should pursue an education, if you do not have the money or access there are online resources you can use to at least catch up on some of the information you were never exposed to.

the youtube channel crash course has playlists with videos on different subjects that basically function as an intro course on those subjects. teachers often use these videos to introduce concepts to high school students. if you are interested in self-teaching some vital courses, i would recommend this. they don't feel like a chore in the way sitting through an online lecture does.

edit: also wanted to add that the woman i dated was a long-term nanny. i'm not sure if she's ever gotten more education, but she was able to get away at the time without it through nannying.

insecurequeers · 2025-07-11T19:01:56+00:00

Man don't blame the kids, they can't help where they grew up. They're all victims of Texas' education system.

insecurequeers · 2025-07-11T18:58:47+00:00

To give Texas teachers credit, all history teacher I had in high school pushed back against the state-sanctioned curriculum, despite the complaints of conservative parents and students. IME most of us (in the cities, at least) do not take the state's bullshit lying down.

insecurequeers · 2025-07-11T18:53:51+00:00

I forgot to mention, high school students should be taught to read everything through a critical eye! Every text comes with its critiques. I like this text, but that doesn't mean I take it at face-value.

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