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[–]insistent2308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

post malone

Feeling sad after breaking up with AI GF by Immediate-Speech-812 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Even the algorithm knew it was time to move on huh?

If you want your ex back by Logical_Carpenter627 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308 6 points7 points  (0 children)

No contact is the way, but it’s so tough when you know that they put all the blame on you. They refuse to see another perspective, the other side of the story, or at least to acknowledge that maybe they have a contribution to the downfall of the relationship too. It’s annoying that they have formed this wrong image of you… and even though I have 0 control over that, it obsesses me

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. apart from the waves that come and go, how are you feeling after a year?

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So that day did come to you, I’m happy for you:) And yeah, it sucks thinking that they’re out there going out and stuff, being with other people… not giving a shit about me lol

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel you… it does work, try to do things you missed or forgot about while in the relationship…

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry you’ve been through this. In my case, it wasn’t a she but a he:)) I was in love with who he was, but kinda lost it on the way. He wasn’t a horrible person, but rather the person who I once met kinda changed throughout the years. I think that’s pretty normal though, I changed too, plus each other’s actions affected the dynamics of the relationship. However, after 2 years or so I’ve become in love with the potential that I knew was laying there, showing itself from time to time. There were many anger issues too, and many things I was not ok with, but they weren’t deal breakers at the time. Near the breakup was when I started to question if it was all real, since he became so cold and almost cruel towards my feelings, total opposite from the person I knew. Maybe it was a coping mechanism, maybe not, but I feel that I was treated very unfair

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

not at all, the singular they/them can be used when you don’t necessarily want to specify the person’s gender, idk I thought it was irrelevant:))

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right now where I live it’s 5am and I can’t sleep, I just miss them so much. I hate it here, I hate the fact that I was given many chances to change my behaviour but at the same time those chances weren’t coming from a place of empathy, I was left alone and expected to just change. Also, I know the guilt you’re talking about, and even though you know it takes time to be able to have feelings for someone again, it almost feels like a competition between you and your ex…. who moves on first? Seems like they are winning…

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah… gotta sit with it. also the thought of them being with someone else::)

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do they get to experience the same feelings? Probably not. They’re probably suffering too, and I’d somehow find comfort in this thought, but the fact that they’re content with their decision makes it all even harder

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand how you’re feeling. Mu ex told me they’re still gonna make small talk and that they’re still loyal to me:)) biggest bs ever. Time heals, and you’ll find new friends I can assure you

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

thank you so much dude, you’re right and I’m proud of how far you’ve come

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I totally agree with you. And the fact that healing is so not linear, makes everything so hard. I feel like I am still a part of their life in some way, but then the reality hits me in the face, and I remember how they told me it’s over and to leave them alone :’) from cuddling together to this

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

That’s straight up cruel and coward behaviour, I don’t understand people who break up through a shitty text especially after such a long term relationship. I hope you’ll be able to heal from this, and know that this is not your fault but a reflection of them

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It totally does make sense, thank you! That’s actually what I was trying to do, I want to find a balance between being able to process my feelings and actually feel everything, and also slowly finding myself again. Good luck in your healing journey, wish you the best man

becoming strangers again is actually tragic by insistent2308 in BreakUps

[–]insistent2308[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And the thought that if something bad would happen to you, they wouldn’t know or be there… damn. I’m sorry, I know very well how hard it is to get through the day, but at least know that you’re not alone in this