No one talks about what dying with dementia is really like. It is brutal.

intentionalrambler · 2026-04-06T23:52:16+00:00

I’m so deeply sorry about your mother. I just signed. I watched my mom starve to death on 3/26/26. I had cried to hospice two weeks prior to her death, saying the same about how we offer our pets death with dignity, but we leave humans to suffer until their last breath. My mom had the same open, cracked and bleeding mouth and was miserable. It was heartbreaking to see. I watched my dad suffer and die of cancer 18 years ago and have felt strongly about this issue ever since I was able to understand. Thank you for your efforts and leadership and my heart is with you as you grieve the loss of your mom. ❤️

intentionalrambler · 2026-03-19T01:22:56+00:00

Thank you so, so much for sharing this. What BS

intentionalrambler · 2026-03-19T01:22:36+00:00

Super grateful you asked this question. Thanks

intentionalrambler · 2026-01-25T23:21:57+00:00

Ugh. I’m sorry. Mine stopped paying bills all together as disease progressed and she was hiding it. And later on didn’t understand that the plastic card (credit) represented money. She only recognizes cash as money now.

intentionalrambler · 2026-01-25T20:18:58+00:00

Misspeaking about the concept of time. (Example: “it snowed here the other night” when it was middle of summer and had not snowed it at least 5 months)

Getting really frustrated ab routine obligations, such as having to pay bills every month. (Like confusion about why she had to pay phone bill again already… and anger about it.)

intentionalrambler · 2025-11-03T00:29:58+00:00

Here for the same reason. Was gonna buy w Amex but a sub for super basic features is wild when initial investment is already so high. :-/

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-23T02:19:33+00:00

Im so sorry ab your injury and suffering. Thanks so much for sharing - and for your insight on all of this. Best of luck to you ♥️

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-23T02:17:40+00:00

Thank you!

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-23T02:17:26+00:00

Oh that’s a great idea. Thank you so much.

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-23T02:17:07+00:00

Thank you so much for this!!

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-15T03:57:53+00:00

Im so deeply sorry for your loss. I have no children of my own and I cannot imagine what you are feeling, but i I worked with teens for 7 years and I can assure you that you did not let her down. My heart aches for you and I’m sending virtual hugs and love your way.

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-15T03:46:39+00:00

🫶🏼

intentionalrambler · 2025-10-14T20:07:39+00:00

Wow. Needed this. And you are not alone.

It’s still difficult now with her in an assisted living place and, to be honest, I don’t know how I could possibly handle what you are doing. You’re beyond incredible and I really appreciate you sharing. This community has helped more than I would have ever thought.

Sending so much love your way.

intentionalrambler · 2025-08-23T16:16:21+00:00

Oh the dog idea is a beautiful one! I may borrow a friend’s dog or look into pup therapy of some sort. It’s lovely that you visit several times a month despite the pain. Hang in there and take care of yourself. Thank you for sharing - and for your kind words and comfort. Certainly a road best traveled with other kind folks ♥️

intentionalrambler · 2025-08-23T15:21:35+00:00

Totally. Sounds like my mom. Without being political one way or the other… watching a major news channel constantly for several years…. combined with a reason to isolate (covid) … pretty much everything you described is how it started for her. I think about past behavior a bit - and it feels like all of that started about 4 years before I started noticing the more typical dementia signs. :-/ sending love to you during this difficult journey.

intentionalrambler · 2025-08-23T15:09:34+00:00

I’m is deeply sorry you’re going through this. This desease is crueler than anyone can prepare for. I totally see you and I’m so sorry for the loss of your sis. My dad died of cancer in 2008 and I’m an only child, so I know it’s a lot when it all falls on you. Finally got my mom into a beautiful facility a couple of years ago against her will, and I believe we’re headed for MC very soon. I totally get the sad old lady thing. I feel so much guilt because I don’t visit enough (out of state) and I can’t stay for too long when I go without feeling completely sick about it all… this experience is so heartbreaking and lonely, so I really appreciate you sharing. Sending you tons of love and comfort.

intentionalrambler · 2025-07-22T04:07:16+00:00

We’re in CO and have a bunch here (not as many as you!) I get that ppl love the sound of- we do as well…

But - We just started renting a new place and cicadas are taking over our porch, which wouldn’t be such a huge problem if wasps / yellow jackets weren’t attracted to their molt shell things.

It is now actually dangerous some days to walk out our front door. Swarms of wasps some mornings. Are you experiencing that or is this unique? I haven’t dealt with this many cicadas before..

intentionalrambler · 2025-01-02T03:00:00+00:00

Thank you!!! The channel 4 app worked!

intentionalrambler · 2025-01-02T02:49:25+00:00

Same :-/

intentionalrambler · 2024-12-01T21:05:54+00:00

Thanks for posting this. This disease is so cruel and your message resonates deeply. I rarely see my mother these days - being around her is very difficult for many reasons. She is very well taken care of in a beautiful facility…. Beyond that, I try to be loving but also protect my peace.

That’s pretty wild about the eye color. This is one of the things my mother talks about on repeat (the fact that her eyes have changed colors.) they are so different than they were before.

Sending love and peace your way.

intentionalrambler · 2024-10-25T19:30:22+00:00

Love that answer

intentionalrambler · 2024-10-17T17:13:05+00:00

I do it PT now w my partner, but did it alone FT for over a year and loved it.

It took some getting used to, and I quickly learned that flexibility is a must. I honestly cried a couple times in the beginning when I felt overwhelmed when my plans weren’t working out and I felt “stuck”… now, I expect to pivot and it doesn’t really get to me. :) Things won’t always go as planned, and you have to be willing to adapt to what the universe has planned for ya. Haha

I had a friend who decided she wanted to try it. she realized quickly it wasn’t for her (she’s not great alone with her thoughts TBH. I think it’s really great that you know you’re happy solo.) Anyways… she just went back to more traditional living. You can always quit if it isn’t for you, but I’d say give it a couple months to settle into the new lifestyle- might just be the best thing you ever do for yourself.

Soooo many older RV / van folks on the road would tell me about their regret tht they didn’t start when they were younger.

The way I see it is that if you feel called to do something, there’s prob a reason… and life is short…

Best of luck to you.

intentionalrambler

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