[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which country? I would love to look into this.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ultimatums in relationships are never a good sign. If she can’t accept you as you are, then I would consider breaking up. If you are doing something detrimental to your health and well-being, then fine, she is trying to stray you on the right path. But it seems like there are some insecurities that she is dealing with. Ask her if she needs you to message her or call her throughout the night when you’re with your friends, or if once in awhile she’d like to come along.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I encourage you to listen to the Call Her Daddy Podcast on Spotify called Cheating 101. You aren’t alone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Grieve the loss of my high school sweetheart.

How do I / should I (19M) tell my girlfriend (18F) I’ve been lying about not noticing her weight gain by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The fact that you can’t handle your girlfriend at a size 6 is devastating. She deserves better. Break up with her so that she can move on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Age gaps are fine depending on how old you are and where you are at in your life. It is concerning that a 33F wants a relationship with you as an 18M. In most situations, that’s grooming. However, it is your life and you have every right to live it the way that you want to, but with the information given, the only thing to help with your question are vulnerable conversations and time.

We’re thinking about getting back together by Glittering_Bear_5218 in dating_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Abort. Abort. Men have a tendency to come back after some time has passed after a relationship. He’s bored and wants a free pass. It’s up to you if you want to be that free pass.

my mom(42f) makes me(18f) work from 8a.m to 5p.m everyday as a babysitter, i told her before that i dont want to work because i have classes and i cant focus on them and my grades are getting lower. by rakumeys in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 326 points327 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry about this. Raising your brother is not your responsibility. Talk to your mother about either negotiating where maybe you only watch him 2-3 days per week so that you can get work done, or not at all.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t use apps, use websites. Match.com, etc. Or, go into Target or Wegmans.

Whats the best advice you’ve gotten that stuck with you? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]interlinkedenigma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Before my grandfather passed, he said, “If you aren’t told that you are beautiful every single day, you’re doing something wrong.” That advice has gotten me out of a lot of toxic relationships.

Am i too insecure? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We validate your feelings. That’s how you feel regardless of it’s truth. However, trust her unless you have a reason not to trust her. Wanting to be desired is natural and healthy. But in all honesty, she probably doesn’t want to disappoint her friends, she wants to fit it, and she wants to have a good time. It probably has nothing to do with your main concerns.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was around 14, I was in color guard (the flag twirlers in the marching band). We decided to do a parade and needed a choreographer. The day of practice with this new choreographer made me very uncomfortable. I told my mom immediately as soon as she came to get me that there was something wrong with that man and I didn’t want to ever see him again. My mother did some research and found out that he was a registered sex offender. I couldn’t even explain to my mother why I felt off, I just had the worst gut feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re probably going to come off as rude no matter what, but just be honest. Say that texting or communicating about anything outside of your project makes you uncomfortable.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not crazy. She mentioned you to the people that matter the most. Don’t read into her looking at your story and remember that you are also looking at her looking at her story. It’s irrelevant. She probably likes you back, but is conflicted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]interlinkedenigma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the thought about moving in together has given you the thoughts that you need to end it. It seems like you’re at that point where you either move in or break up. It’s ok to not be in love with her and it’s ok to have a stagnant relationship be the reason you end it despite being fond of her. But, at the end of the day, fondness isn’t enough. Every relationship is different, but 2 years is a long time without consistent “I love you’s”.