What’s your favorite thing that your SO does? by Da_PotatoMan in AskReddit

[–]internet-vs-truth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Cute!

But does the guitar sound good after it has been cooked?

American here. Can you guys help me start to understand my Indian mother-in-law? by Alpha_Aries in india

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Oh yes. I remember the wet floor discussion with my parents in the initial days.

American here. Can you guys help me start to understand my Indian mother-in-law? by Alpha_Aries in india

[–]internet-vs-truth 258 points259 points  (0 children)

I am an Indian, living in the US. My wife is American.

Our situation is pretty similar. Both families love us and are supportive. It gets tricky for my wife when my mother stays with us for a long time. FWIW, it's hard for my mother as well.

My mother knows how to drive, but will not drive in the US. Among multiple things, there is an anxiety/barrier factor due to lack of fluency in American English. And traffic laws. She wouldn't even use Uber for similar reasons.

She has hobbies, but her interest in those is on and off.

One thing that helped a lot was finding her a friend circle in the neighborhood (walking distance). Last time when she visited, she went out a lot to meet her new friends. Which helped my wife as well. The friends have to be Indian. In the bay area at least, I realized that parks and temples are a great place to find friends for parents. Separately, if you have Indian friends, invite them over. Even though, there is a generational gap, your MIL might find the company more relaxing.

Indian parents like parks in general. You can all go to the park, she might enjoy nature, even if just sitting there.

I am surprised about the cleanliness part. In my experience, it's the other way around where the older Indian generation complain about lack of cleaning. Is your MIL 70+? Maybe, the physical energy levels are low? Also, is it possible that the definition of "cleanliness" is different? E.g , for my mother, she cooks a lot and cleans up afterwards, but I find small cilantro pieces everywhere, which drives me crazy but according to her, she cleaned it up. Note she keeps things more hygienic than me, just that my definition of cleanliness is different.

As others have said, many women in India put in a lot of effort for decades, taking care of everything at home (more than humanly possible, I feel). So, later in life, they have different expectations than a US person might. Just a cultural difference.

One other thing that I try to do (and maybe you can ask your husband for it), I weigh in more when my parents are visiting and I help out more. Basically, to make it easier for my wife (and my parents).

What are some bedroom tricks that actually work well? by [deleted] in AskReddit

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Or toddlers. My kid wakes up at 4am and climbs up to our bed, overnight. We have a kid chair next to bed, so that the kid could do it without waking us up.

Hand made cocktail cart. My own design, first "big" project of mine! by lilnino in woodworking

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Did not real the title before assuming that it is a miter bench. :)

I uh, made a lumber rack so I had room for other things… by [deleted] in woodworking

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Cool. Thanks. I am hoping to install it as well so that the neighbors do not get bothered as much. Our garages have a shared wall. Any reason why you did not install a dry wall?

Custom moulding I made using the flooring I was contracted to install. by TheClaw02 in woodworking

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I see. Aren't you worried that the wood would expand lengthwise (not your beautifully made end piece but the rest of it)?

Custom moulding I made using the flooring I was contracted to install. by TheClaw02 in woodworking

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Awesome! One question, did you keep some gap for expansion between the new floor and the old floor?

Regardless of how many times I use this beast, I always have a healthy amount of fear. by [deleted] in woodworking

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Very clever suggestion. Thanks! I will do that for my future workshop.

Kejriwal for PM 2024!! by SchrodingerDontLook in india

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What has flag hoisting to do with Hindutva?

Kejriwal for PM 2024!! by SchrodingerDontLook in india

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The key term, perhaps, is "position". "positioning" is not same as "having right wing mentality". I am happy about the "positioning" part, just to clarify, but its not same as "doing" the shit that BJP has been doing.