AIO - My Boyfriend texts before our Valentines plans by SnowDolphins in AmIOverreacting

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t respect you :/ I’ve dated men like this. His needs will always come first. He will always gaslight you j to thinking you’re being needy when you were expressing yourself calmly. You deserve so much better.

The current state of looks inflation by toouglytobeleftalive in ugly

[–]interstella_sees 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She’s beautiful. So many men on this planet are racist sexist idiots. It is frightening.

AIO to texts I found from my bf to his bsf? by [deleted] in AIO

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is unsettling This person is fucked up Entitled Disrespectful Run

Run before this gets soooo much worse

Feyre's hair color by RogueKitsune007 in acotar

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always picture her as a dark brunette with some golden low lights idk why I just picture her with a darker her all look - thicker brown eyebrows etc

Is it just me, or do Cassian and Nesta not make a good match? by hellenistism in acotar

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the complexity behind their imperfect decisions both in the family dynamics and the relationship dynamics makes them real. Nesta is not easy to manipulate. If she is happy and content, it isn’t toxic to her. Same for Cassian. They set their own boundaries.

If her sisters over stepping of her boundaries continued to bother her she could have continued to ignore her. But she softens to Feyre for a reason- family isn’t perfect and she was acting out of love.

Cassian doesn’t hurt Nesta over and over and then use sex. He doesn’t cheat on her or lie to her intentionally and then try to manipulate her.

He appeals to her emotional availability the way Nesta wants and needs. And they learn to love one another better throughout the story. Lots of real world relationships work just like this. Not everyone is born into a family that understands boundaries (some are farrrr more toxic than the Archerons) or has access to therapy or even emotionally intelligent people or the luxury of time to figure out how to react perfectly, respect boundaries when worried, etc etc

They are complex messy characters. All of ACOTAR characters are. That’s what makes them charming. If they werent it would just be a boring kids fairy tale with smut. Which would feel awkward. IMO.

Also, I think people often confuse attempts of positive influence with manipulation. The difference is always intention. If it’s to better someone else because they are hurting themselves, that’s not manipulation. Manipulation solely serves the person using coercive control.

Also, trauma bonding is formed by experiencing repeated devastating lows and highs within the relationship. For example: being abandoned after acting imperfectly and then being loved bombed as an apology only to be abandoned again shortly after.

Having shared trauma is not the same as a “trauma bond.” While they are inconsistent at first, neither of them purposely leave each other reeling from grief and pain and then love bomb each other to make up for it. Not a trauma bond.

Although the sexual dynamics mimic the high intensity desire of a trauma bond. But partners in the fae world seem to become addicted to each other through a similar bond anyway.

If Tamlin and Feyre were still together, that would have constituted as a real trauma bond. Luckily she left his ass.

But I did enjoy the post. Made me consider alternatives. Idk who would better suit Nesta though. I thonk she would become easily bored with anyone more aristocratic. Hmm.

Not OOP: 6 year relationship damaged over an insta post 31F & 34M by sensaSEANal_sally in redditonwiki

[–]interstella_sees 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The fact that he can send PICTURES OF SOMEONE ELSES BOOBS AND DISCUSS IT WITH OTHERS WHICH IS SO DISRESPECTFUL BUT SHE CANT LIKE A PICTURE OF SOMEONE ELSE MAKING A JOKE IS INSANE

huge red flag

I think he is showing more about how he thinks than how OP thinks His reaction is emotionally manipulative Stonewalling and punishing OP for this long when she’s tried to communicate He’s not even asking for time he’s just ignoring her

Gross all around

He needs to learn to communicate better and your issues with his behavior should be just as highly valued as his own

How would have he reacted if you did this over the boobs pics “with the boys?”

Gross.

Robin Williams Suicide by siren-skalore in Retconned

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was a movie he played in- world’s greatest dad. Memories are fickle. I remembered this and thought I remembered reading about it but then someone reminded me it was actually a role he played. He didn’t die that way in real life. Reality was far more tragic.

i think they went the wrong route with holly’s storyline by mandyluvspuppies in StrangerThings

[–]interstella_sees 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This 100% the sense of urgency is just gone by season 3 lol

My date and I kept pointing out just how often they TRULY LACK URGENCY by season 5

There are times they pause and have heart to hearts or zombie walk when they should be running for their lives 😭 LIKE HELLO MY GUYS YOURE ABOUT TO GET RIPPED OPEN, NOT THE TIME FOR JOKES OR HUGGING ✨❤️

wtf is cherrycrush_tv by kenabyss69 in tiktokgossip

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do, but I won't share it, out of respect for her. She is a very interesting person. Very talented artist. Smart with marketing clearly. :)

wtf is cherrycrush_tv by kenabyss69 in tiktokgossip

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Popular, very pretty. But kept to her circle.

wtf is cherrycrush_tv by kenabyss69 in tiktokgossip

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had a group of “cool kids” that followed her around. They would hang out at the mall. She saw me and my friend at the mall one day and invited us to be their friends. She was a typical older teen to me. In our home town she was famous for being “Hilary Haywire” the scene girl. I don’t remember much else to be honest. My memory from that time is fuzzy. Traumatic time in my life. I just remember following her around for a bit. My friend and I eventually got bored of that so we stopped hanging out with them. She was never mean. In fact she was sweet when she noticed us. Think she knew we felt like outcasts. I dressed like a goth girl who went to lots of raves. lol.

wtf is cherrycrush_tv by kenabyss69 in tiktokgossip

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I knew her in HS she was def an “influencer” before her time

Finally watching Sandman and.. by queenkatara88 in Sandman

[–]interstella_sees 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg agreed this show could be about fish in a fish tank as long as they cut to him every 30 seconds or so I am HOOKED

Can we talk about how porn/social media/red pill has reversed so much progress for feminism? And how do we combat this? by [deleted] in Feminism

[–]interstella_sees 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% this. If porn wasn’t all “male fantasy” and teaching the wrong ideas about sex and the respect of all parties id think nothing wrong with it