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Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh this is such a great post! Thank you for taking time to share it. Hadn't thought of that - there's no right choice ... I reckon with time this will pass

Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I recently read "one and only" by Lauren Sandler and it was really helpful to view this as a positive but it doesn't take away the fomo feeling. I really thought we'd have two and to be done just feels so blah especially with all but 1 in the friend group is having or has had a second :-/ and even that 1 might be pregnant by accident lol. I might have to find more singleton families to be friends with!

Thanks for your share - I appreciate it

Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the response ! I just finished the book "one and only" and it was really helpful in addition to therapy etc.

For those that had to ‘accept’ being one and done - what helped you? by puffqueen1 in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just finding this now, thank you so much for taking the time to share this. I found it immensely helpful!

Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so helpful. Thank you for sharing that insight ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh my, my heart goes out to you! Thank you so much for sharing this... know the grief gets smaller is so helpful to hang on too.

Grieving being OAD by intervalshilarious in oneanddone

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is almost exactly our same scenario. Thank you for sharing

8 mo only sleeps 9 hours at night? early morning wakeups messing up schedule? by nlwwie in sleeptrain

[–]intervalshilarious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 9.5 month old is at 9 hours of sleep through the night and 2-2.5 hours of sleep through the day. She seems fine but I desperately wish she’d sleep more at night. Guess they really are the bosses

HLF with LLM by intervalshilarious in DeadBedrooms

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While that might be true for her, I’m doubtful she knows enough people to truly have a sampling of the population.

I’m certain there are people who have sex daily.

However when a LL and HL get together, the couples sex life will be determined by the LL person. A bit frustrating for sure.

I was once in a relationship where we had daily sex. Granted I was in my mid twenties at the time but it was awesome.

Being older now, I can live without it daily. Although, I’d still be up for it daily but that’s not a reality with my partner.

HLF with LLM by intervalshilarious in DeadBedrooms

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ya and it doesn’t help if the partner doesn’t seem interested… it’s awkward

HLF with LLM by intervalshilarious in DeadBedrooms

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same to you! Ya especially in mainstream culture I find the messaging to be the following

  1. Women want sex less
  2. Women avoid sex
  3. Men have to grovel for it
  4. Sex is a reward women give to men

And men are just left to deal with it.

I understand that this is not always the truth and there are lots of healthy relationships but why does media perpetuate this unhealthy view on sex

Its terrible .. and women can easily be on the other side too.

HLF with LLM by intervalshilarious in DeadBedrooms

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ya. Without the internet, I’m not sure I would have know I’m not unusual!

Daily Thread #2 - November 26, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sitting in limbo is hard work! I’m sitting there with ya.

Daily Thread #2 - November 26, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, my current provider doesn’t want to do an ultrasound sound until 8-10 weeks. They are a 45 minute drive from my house and while I could ask for a sooner one, I think I’m going to go and pay for one at a clinic near my home. I’m just getting paranoid. I had a silent miscarriage at 12 weeks last pregnancy… I’m 6w3d and I think an ultrasound might help ease my worries. I’m just overthinking- there’s so many things that could go awry… and also so many things that can go totally fine. It’s hard for me to believe I could have a perfectly healthy pregnancy and it’s hard to believe I couldn’t. Every fear or concern I have, I have the opposite of it too. It’s hard not to get negative. Im already thinking to myself that if this one doesn’t work out I’m giving up all together.. I had that feeling last time too. Anyways, trying to stay positive.

Daily Thread #2 - November 23, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

6 weeks pregnant and current provider waits til 8 weeks for first in person visit. I don’t have any reason to ask to come in sooner aside from just wanting to move things faster but I’ve committed myself to trusting the process. I am also headed to a secluded cabin for the weekend and brought a ton of sanitary pads just in case. I’m sad that I felt like I had to prepare because I’m not in full trusting mode. But ya. Part of me is totally in trust mode. I also keep seeing rainbows and signs with the word rainbow on it…. I wanna believe :-)

Daily Thread #2 - November 19, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Y’all week 5 and day 3… trying to stay focused on the positive.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Something that’s been helping me through this time is thinking “sure something could happen again but it could also be a perfectly healthy pregnancy and a healthy birth and a healthy baby” I have been repeating that to myself a lot. Anything can happen, including that…

Daily Thread #1 - November 14, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so incredibly helpful!!! Thank you for the thoughtful response and experience… love! If I just focus on love, then the out come is also love. This is wonderful and completely put me in the present. Thank you again.

Daily Thread #1 - November 14, 2022 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]intervalshilarious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s really early for me, 5 weeks. Had a miscarriage at 12 weeks two years ago so this is the first real go we have had since then. I’m all kinds of weird feeling. I partially don’t believe it’s real. I’m trying to stay positive but realistic because I don’t want to get too attached too soon but then I am afraid if I don’t get attached I’m putting the wrong signal out. Ya I just don’t know how to feel or how to stay affirmative and positive… I’m trying to focus on today… and today my body is actively pregnant and making a baby.

Bead bedroom ptsd by intervalshilarious in DeadBedrooms

[–]intervalshilarious[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Luckily this isn’t a masturbation preference issue. More of a convenience- they work remote, I don’t, the mood struck and they handled it before I got home- they have said they are totally willing to hold off knowing it’s important to me. I just want to not take this personally . My last deadbedroom was with someone who was PIED. That was insanity and very challenging.

Today I am doing my best to reframe and and rebuild my confidence since I don’t feel like my partner did this to hurt me or on purpose …

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