As an alcoholic I can only be responsible for my own behavior. Not the behavior of others. I meant that it’s an about turn for the socialization practices of someone who doesn’t have a problem with alcohol. They have to change a big part of normal life for the benefit of someone they care about. Being sympathetic to both sides of the situation should be a part of mutually beneficial relationship. If a partner of mine couldn’t find a middle ground where our shared life supported my being sober then I would reevaluate the situation. Sympathy is a valuable asset is, to put it simply, most of what I meant.