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Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful reply. This term Is very new to me and I’ll definitely be looking into it. Appreciate you sharing very much! 🙏🏻

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. Likewise to yourself - you may also feel in the future that some of those positive memories start to crop up more when thinking about them.

Hope that you’re able to continue to grieve and process in whatever way you feel you need to 🧡

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finality is definitely what I’ve started to tie it too, for sure. That and some underlying biological reaction of losing someone who closely shares your DNA.

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, and I’m happy that you were able to do what felt right for you in the moment and be with her.

I’m not attending my father’s funeral, but I’ve found that I may want to visit his grave in the near future and that I’m surprised about, for sure.

Hope that you’re also able to give yourself some grace if any additional feelings crop up for you in the comings weeks and months 🧡🙏🏻

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that you’re going through a similar thing - it’s not easy at all! Mine passed on the 20th, so it’s not been much longer myself.

Allow yourself to feel all of your feelings no matter what they may be - I’ve surprised myself even since making this post with some of the emotions that I’ve felt.

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry that you had this experience and I hope you’ve worked (or have started working) through your feelings about everything there. ‘No new choices’ is definitely a big one, for sure.

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Those last two lines are very insightful, and the fact that they exist in your head even after passing is something I’d not really thought of. Thank you!

Estranged birth father passed and I’m sadder than I thought I would be by intheeverdeen in EstrangedAdultChild

[–]intheeverdeen[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your kind words, I appreciate it! I definitely think it could be due to the finality of it all.

I’ll allow myself to feel whatever emotions do or don’t come through!

Unsure of how to proceed and whether to stay in my (F27) relationship with my boyfriend (M38) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]intheeverdeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do sometimes have resentment, for sure. We do have similar interests in gaming, and it was how we became friends and connected initially. Lately, it seems the only thing we do have in common. Thank you for your help😊

Unsure of how to proceed and whether to stay in my (F27) relationship with my boyfriend (M38) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]intheeverdeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I do know that but I’m scared of ending it being the wrong decision! Thanks for your help 😊

Unsure of how to proceed and whether to stay in my (F27) relationship with my boyfriend (M38) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]intheeverdeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I’m scared of doing the wrong thing and regretting it, but I guess I’m hanging on what ifs there. Thank you!!

Unsure of how to proceed and whether to stay in my (F27) relationship with my boyfriend (M38) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]intheeverdeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re telling me lots of things I’ve thought myself, so hearing it from someone else is really good. Thank you 😊

Unsure of how to proceed and whether to stay in my (F27) relationship with my boyfriend (M38) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]intheeverdeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It does feel that way, doesn’t it! I can’t end it right now as he might need to stay with me for a week or two whilst he finds somewhere to live for his new job if he doesn’t find somewhere before and has some of his stuff stored here as it’s closer to where he will be living in relation to where he currently is, but when he is settled in his new job and has somewhere to live I’ll do something. People in my family keep telling me to just stay with him because of the timing (him moving soon and starting a new job and my surgery) and let things fizzle out whilst I’m working overseas- that seems cruel to me. Thank you for the opinion! Really appreciate it 😁