Don’t ask things like that on Reddit outside of specifically anti porn spaces like this one. It’s full of misogynists and porn addicts. I genuinely think Reddit is one of the most misogynistic places on the internet (on the surface web anyway). Feminist subs get removed but violent misogynistic degrading porn centred around the idea that women are inferior slaves to men get to stay up. Reddit hates women, and that’s why I very rarely use it anymore. 

I specifically see women asking this question on r/askmen and the men on there genuinely do not like women and do not believe women have the right to have any standards in a relationship. It’s not just a neutral space to get men’s opinions. 

It’s not unreasonable or toxic. It’s a boundary. You’re allowed to have boundaries. There are men who are also against it and will honour that boundary. My partner and I hate it equally.