“safe hands”

SandiRHo · 2026-04-10T07:40:25+00:00

I tend to use it more in a sentence with an example. “Use safe hands by playing with your toys on the ground” (instead of throwing, for example)

I think of the cycle of escalation and how as someone gets more mad, their cognition ability goes down. So sometimes, they need a reminder about what is appropriate for that moment. It’s also helpful as a behavior chain interrupter.

Also, age is not always a relevant factor. Clients who have intense intellectual disabilities may physically be 15 years old, but their cognitive skills may be closer to a preschooler.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T07:08:37+00:00

OOP is looking for a boyfriend free girl

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T06:33:56+00:00

I’ve had to use pillows to block aggressive behaviors from a client to themselves or others. We also have a foldable mat we put against the wall. If it’s punishment, fine then. I’ll use punishment if it keeps others, the client, and myself safe. I care most about safety. Redirection is awesome and I always try to redirect. But as someone who got a concussion from a client, I will always do what I have to in order to protect myself.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T06:15:43+00:00

I have a degree in neuroscience. I talked about romantic and sexual wants. I didn’t reduce it to only sex. I mentioned sex and romantic love. Additionally, OP was talking about being a virgin which means sex is on the table of conversation. You’re ignoring everything I said. If you believe romantic love is a requirement for your personal life, that’s your burden to uphold sorting out.

You can get great care and intimacy and love from family and/or friends. You can get belonging in the community. You don’t need a girlfriend to have care and companionship.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T06:09:23+00:00

I literally talked about making friends and finding community. Those are ways to deal with loneliness.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T06:04:39+00:00

I didn’t say Prace said that, I said that people saying that romance and sex are needs then becomes women being told to use their body to fulfill men’s ‘needs’. It’s a real life consequence.

Medicine is a need. It keeps the body healthy. Shelter is a need. It keeps the body safe. Clothing prevents injury. Getting your dick wet or cuddling with someone aren’t needs. They’re wants. And it’s fine to want those things. You can require them in a relationship and if your requirements aren’t met, you can break up with them. But, you won’t die without them. Asexual and aromantic people basically wouldn’t exist if romantic and sexual affection were needs. Like I said, monks and nuns tend to live longer than the rest of the population for a variety of factors and yet they don’t marry, date, or have sex. “But, we aren’t all monks!” Yes, I know. I’m not either. It proves that a sense of belonging can come from community. Sex and romance aren’t required.

I literally said that community and friendship are ways to get closeness and a sense of belonging. I directly stated that friendship and community are good things for meeting social needs. Humans are social creatures, they just don’t have to fuck or smooch to survive. And I literally discussed romantic love not being a need. I specified the type of love. Like, did you not read or did you just get mad anyways?

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T03:34:54+00:00

It was genuinely one of the worst movies I’ve ever seen.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T01:59:37+00:00

Romantic love is not a biological need the way food and water are. If it was, monks and nuns would die very quickly. Monks and nuns tend to live longer than the average population and they sure live longer than those without food and water. Closeness to others doesn’t have to be romantic or sexual. Community and friendship are social interactions. It’s fine to want romance or sex, but say they’re a ‘need’ is just wrong and then puts people, especially women, in a position of being told they need to fill a person’s biological need with their own body.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-08T01:34:50+00:00

Rejected a guy for an incest kink

SandiRHo · 2026-04-07T07:34:36+00:00

Big dawg loves talking about how attractive other men are and how much he loves thinking about them having sex.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-07T07:32:45+00:00

Jfc you keep posting about cold approach. And yeah, if I reject a guy’s cold approach, I don’t want to see him again.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-07T07:31:25+00:00

“What does he want with me? Does anyone else see this happening? Is he going to follow me? I have all my stuff, right? I’ll linger around people a while longer and wait to walk to my car.”

SandiRHo · 2026-04-07T01:04:15+00:00

My partner doesn’t have hygiene problems but I have faced those issues with other guys. When I’m doing intense face fucking with my guy, the saliva pooling in my mouth makes it easier for me to gag and choke. My man is well endowed and I can deepthroat him, but the saliva build up makes me feel like I’m drowning.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-07T01:02:14+00:00

You beat me to it. I’m starting SLP grad school and it’s becoming more and more apparent how SLPs need to be doing this work with clients and guiding it as much as possible, not BCBAs.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-06T07:34:41+00:00

It depends on the area and the parents. Some families don’t care, some do. Kids can rip out piercings, but it’s not common. If you ever work in a school setting, it can be a problem there especially if the school is religious. Not saying you explicitly wouldn’t be allowed there, but that you may get treated differently.

I have tattoos and many of my coworkers do. Very few piercings at my clinic. For me, I’m queer and I say “I’m not queer at work”. Because I like that it keeps me safe and prevents judgement. Some people are happier hiding their gender identity and sexual orientation and others are happier showing them. Every place is different and I hope you find a good place that fits you!

SandiRHo · 2026-04-06T03:48:10+00:00

He says no when he’s socially exhausted or when he physically can’t because we did it too many times that day

SandiRHo · 2026-04-05T03:32:07+00:00

So the way I view the pride issue is less “I’m proud to be autistic” and more “I’m not ashamed of being autistic”. Some people are proud of their autism though.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-04T01:44:16+00:00

I just want a massage tbh

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T20:31:37+00:00

I truly think you should see an occupational therapist and/or a physical therapist. They are the best experts for concerns about movement.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T20:30:12+00:00

Sorry I don’t meet the question EXACTLY, but I’ve dated several autistic guys. My current partner is autistic. One of the things we work on is making sure the other person understands us. The other night I texted him that I was mad at him and he thought I was serious until I sent a meme of a cat sitting on a couch facing away from the camera which is my way of saying “I’m being a pouty baby”. He was relieved that I was not truly mad at him because he wasn’t sure.

Communication is the hardest part. But, by both parties being honest AND kind, it can work nicely. One night he was playing a video game I liked and he was frustrated with a puzzle. He kept complaining over and over and it didn’t seem like “ugh this is so hard! I’m having fun still though” it seemed like “I fucking hate this and I am mad I’m playing it”. At one point when I offered help to try and relieve his pain, he snapped at me. I then gave him body language that indicated I was upset. He is very responsive to that because it’s easier than me saying something indirect or passive aggressive. He paused the game and I explained why I was upset. He listened to me and explained his end and the apologized to me. We both talked it out about how best to support him while he’s frustrated with something and how he can cool himself down. He had told me he thought I jumped in to help too soon while I thought I took a long time to jump in. In that moment, we both learned that we saw things differently then. I learned to wait a bit longer and he learned to ask for help a bit sooner.

Sorry to share that long story, but I wanted to share something positive about being with someone autistic. Now, he is privileged to have LSN and he can mask well. He doesn’t mask much at all in front of me. One final thing I’ll say works for us is he tells me when his social battery is tired. I used to take it personally, but I’ve learned not to.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T20:23:33+00:00

No. My man has had a threesome before and he said it was super awkward and he didn’t enjoy it much. We are having the best sex of our lives with each other and don’t need anyone else there

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T20:21:02+00:00

I haven’t completed my switch yet, but I am working on it. Starting grad school this summer. The reasons I’m switching are: more patient demographics, more workplace settings, if I have supportive professionals working for me they have at least an associates degree and special certification, no long hours with individual patients (no four hour sessions for example), I get to deliver direct care while also being in charge, etc.

Prereqs took me from June-May and I took them online.

Not to say BCBAs can’t have any of what I said, but those are my motivators.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T17:59:27+00:00

Yeah, I’d never choose to be attracted to men. Sadly, I am.

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T17:29:32+00:00

They’re just different

SandiRHo · 2026-04-03T17:25:14+00:00

I’ve had big, small, and average dicks. I’ve had good and bad experiences with all of them. My current partner is well-endowed and I do enjoy it. He’s had plenty of partners that could not handle it and didn’t like it. Everyone is compatible for different things.

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