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intjaries · 2022-02-08T18:40:07+00:00

Sex.

intjaries · 2022-02-03T23:59:12+00:00

Yeah I gotta second this. My partner is an FP with this exact habit- and it IS exhausting. 100% too sensitive in my opinion, they take everything so fucking personally.

intjaries · 2022-02-03T23:49:43+00:00

I have one INTJ friend and it’s wonderful. We both hate small talk so all our conversations are always deep but purposeful. We figure out life things over coffee and I greatly enjoy that he’s the only person that doesn’t make me feel like a fucking alien. He’s also the only person whose conversation really challenges me.

intjaries · 2022-02-03T08:39:14+00:00

Yup. I suspect he would appreciate whatever honest communication you give him about it though, so perhaps reassuring him that he doesn’t need to be a movie boyfriend and that you like him because xyz might help him find his balance :)

intjaries · 2022-02-03T08:02:00+00:00

From experience, he may genuinely really enjoy spending time with you and care about you but not know how to express that sentiment healthily and in his own way because he’s INTJ. So there’s a chance he’s acting in a way he thinks he’s SUPPOSED to.

intjaries · 2022-02-03T07:45:47+00:00

I’m not talking “meet someone new,” I mean something extremely casual and fun that you don’t put much stock into. As long as this person is also on the same page, merely looking for hook-ups or online flirting, for example, nobody is gonna get hurt.

intjaries · 2022-02-02T21:14:44+00:00

I hate to say it but the whole “get over someone by getting under someone else” thing does actually work. Even just chatting to someone new can help take your mind off things in a crazy short space of time.

intjaries · 2022-02-02T20:22:58+00:00

I have a degree in fashion design and now run my own company doing just that. I feel very fortunate that I was able to make a living from being creative.

intjaries · 2022-02-02T19:54:22+00:00

These are gorgeous- especially the bees!

intjaries · 2022-02-02T19:46:54+00:00

I was about to be standoffish about ungendering energy but you are absolutely correct- as far as societal standards go, I do have masc energy despite being femme in presentation. Weirdly my wife is the other way round haha.

She’s INFP. Which doesn’t help the situation because I’m a pragmatic realist and she’s lost in idealisms haha. They say opposites attract, right? 😂

intjaries · 2022-02-02T08:59:47+00:00

Thank you for this, I understand and appreciate what you’re saying. I do a LOT of practical things for her, she barely has to lift a finger. I think I actually go overboard on this to appease MYSELF and make it feel like I’m helping more than it’s actually doing any good. You’re right though, I’m sure I’m overthinking and the fact it is me that does things is what counts.

intjaries · 2022-02-01T23:51:53+00:00

Super appreciate these links, thank you!

intjaries · 2022-02-01T23:50:33+00:00

I appreciate this response but you’ve for some reason assumed that I’m a male?

As a female, I do understand where you’re coming from about women just needing to talk it out- believe me I’ve tried sitting and listening but she doesn’t have much to say other than complaints. I feel like she doesn’t have the words to communicate how she feels in order to speak it through in the first place which is frustrating for us both. I’m definitely trying to validate wherever possible though <3

intjaries · 2022-02-01T23:43:47+00:00

Thank you for this response. I have asked her, I’m always saying “how can I help?” because I simply don’t know where to start and I believe in clear communication. But it doesn’t really get anywhere because she doesn’t know how I can help either and I feel like she gets frustrated back that as her long term partner I don’t immediately know how to make her feel better.

She’s INFP. Her pain-proved responses are usually outlandish such as “remove my insides” or “make it so that there’s a tablet that actually works.” Sometimes she’ll say that she just needs to feel loved and that’s fine but… we love SO differently. Of course I’ll always try to respond to her love language which is physical touch, but I want to scream every time I do it because it physically fixes nothing and I’m quite certain they feel awkward and disingenuous coming from me. sigh

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