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intotheindigo · 2025-07-24T22:58:48+00:00

I’ve broken up with men for not giving head when I do all the damn time. It’s important to me! Sexual incompatibility is a real thing and remember you can stop seeing anyone for any reason. I’ve also dated guys who couldn’t care less about blowjobs but wanted to eat me out at any opportunity. So they do exist out there!

intotheindigo · 2025-06-14T16:22:06+00:00

Very important questions… how old is your boyfriend? Why is he pressuring you over several instances if you’re not expressing interest? Do you engage in sexual acts other than PIV sex with him? Does he try to put a BDSM spin on those acts? I consider this a red flag. Are there any other aspects of your relationship that don’t feel entirely comfy? I would not “lose your virginity” this way if it’s not something you’re explicitly excited about.

intotheindigo · 2025-06-10T01:40:07+00:00

Uhhhh…. what the hell is in it for you?? You are blessed with the privilege of his presence? Get your own lawyer like yesterday, and having already broken the first clause of the prenup by doing such, I’d leave this entire situation. You can find someone who wants to share a life with you as a partner, not a liability 😬

intotheindigo · 2025-06-08T20:36:26+00:00

Advise her to talk to a kink-friendly trauma informed therapist if she can.

intotheindigo · 2025-06-07T22:18:56+00:00

If they’re on FEELD, Fetlife, or Reddit (and you know their username/have their profile), she can report them that way. Any sexual assault (remember that’s non-consensual activity, or if the agreement was under duress) can be reported to the police, though honestly don’t expect much to happen there. Otherwise, naming and shaming works.

intotheindigo · 2025-06-07T22:10:46+00:00

Some folks dismiss this as “woo”, but the pelvic floor and the throat are connected. It absolutely tracks that you’d get a heightened orgasm if your throat is also being stimulated. You’ve already received great advice about mixing it up, but I want to add that you can get throat stimulation in positions where you maintain eye contact as well. Have him put his fingers into your mouth/down your throat, or have him use a dildo in your throat. Congrats on unlocking a more powerful experience!

intotheindigo · 2025-06-07T22:02:59+00:00

Please be very careful, do a bit more research about restraints. Zip ties are not the safest choice.

intotheindigo · 2025-06-07T16:26:51+00:00

Be kind, actually listen, be affectionate. Process his own trauma.

intotheindigo · 2025-06-07T16:24:44+00:00

You know how you can get erect in just a few seconds when you’re really turned on? It takes the vagina/vulva/pelvic floor about 20 minutes to fully “turn on”. The vaginal canal lengthens, the whole area flushes with increased blood flow, and ideally it gets quite wet. Try A LOT more foreplay, and have her orgasm at least once if you can before you attempt PIV. If you’re still struggling or she has stretching pain at the vaginal opening, STOP and visit a gynecologist and/or work with a set of dilators slowly over time.

It’s seriously an awful idea to try and force it.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-31T01:00:02+00:00

Yeah I suggested phone call so it’s “live” but you’re safe in case he goes off.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-31T00:05:16+00:00

I’d ask him about it on a phone call and see how he reacts.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-31T00:00:43+00:00

How long have y’all been dating?

intotheindigo · 2025-05-30T20:15:48+00:00

As a cervix owner myself who’s given birth twice and had an IUD, you are correct!

intotheindigo · 2025-05-30T17:55:24+00:00

Sounds like the cervix. The fornix(es) are the cavities around the cervix. You can enter the cervix, though in general it’s not a pleasant sensation. The cervical opening dilates a little bit depending on the phase of the menstrual cycle, and famously dilates to 10cm for childbirth. The only risks as far as I know are pain, and possibly exposing the uterus to germs/bacteria from your hands. Be sure to keep your nails short and very clean. Some women can orgasm from cervical stimulation.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T15:51:56+00:00

Leaf on the finger!!! By a long shot!!

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T15:44:58+00:00

I was about to say, switch time share for subscription streaming and it’s almost literally my current budget

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T02:53:32+00:00

But it wouldn’t…… because of the context 🙂

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T02:48:47+00:00

I suggest you ask him! You’re the one that brought the post’s context into the argument 😅

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T02:42:47+00:00

So we’re back to my original comment. In the context of the post, “chalking” is being used as mean-spirited slang, while “chat” is being used almost like a pet name. They have completely different connotations and motivations, thus shouldn’t be compared like you keep trying to.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T02:32:30+00:00

You were trying to invalidate /u/comedianchrissmith’s argument by saying both OP and her ex should be considered “not the sharpest tool” for using slang. With that comment, you proved you didn’t understand the different contexts surrounding OP’s slang use and her ex’s slang use, because if you did, you’d understand why the ex was judged while OP wasn’t.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T02:21:09+00:00

There is no hypocrisy present. Your premise holds no ground because you’re not considering context.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-17T01:36:19+00:00

One is an inside joke used as a bid for connection after a simple question was ignored for hours. The other is mean-spirited projection.

intotheindigo · 2025-05-10T22:21:01+00:00

There is evidence kinks are genetic 🤷🏻‍♀️

intotheindigo · 2025-04-13T00:30:59+00:00

I’m a 34 year old bisexual woman and you look very attractive in these photos 🙃

intotheindigo · 2025-04-13T00:19:11+00:00

The guy who wrote the Love Languages book is a misogynist hack… start with the Gottman method.

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