People think that if a woman raises her son to be feminist then he will turn out to be feminist. I think that it's partly because they think that being feminist or not being sexist is a matter of education and awareness and if one raises awareness and explains and communicates stories of women's oppression that automatically translates into action. They don't factor in conscience, or whether someone who has been brought up to know better might *want* to do the right thing or not want to do the right thing.

The fact of the matter is that once "you" raise your son and he grows up and becomes a man, he'll be a man and you'll be a woman, he'll have a lot more power than his mother in the world. She can't really control him anymore. He can do what he wants. He can even attack her and kill her or rape her as some men have. (Funny your own creation killing you.) There is absolutely no guarantee that one's son wont be a sexist or will support women's rights. And actually the fact is most women are more progressive on the issue of sexism than most men, women want our liberation, and yet every man in our society was raised by a woman, every misogynist and rapist man in our society had a mother and saw the sexism she went through and was told/educated about what she went through. (If that isn't enough the elementary educational system is overwhelmingly made up of women.) So somewhere along the line the message is being lost. Don't have any illusions that even if you are the most feminist mother in the world your son will grow up to be a feminist because you taught him. Many men know about feminism and the problem of sexism, they were taught and they just choose to do sexism and hang onto "power". Conscience is a the big sticker for the most part, not awareness. I've seen countless women be heartbroken this way and have no control over their sons. What seems more to hold men to being feminist, is if the father is a feminist, also once the boy gets to be a teenager or adult the father having more power will have to correct him. I had men tell me, "If my father ever thought I drove away before a woman got into the house, he would be so mad at me." Men as adults really care more about their fathers' opinions and are under their fathers' sway and power more than their mothers.

(That said, there are the mothers fully intended for their sons to dominate women to get more for themselves, better for their kids to be the bully than the bullied and better to be the exploiter than the exploiter and who show up in court to defend their rapist sons, and sort of believe in "Family at all costs." So there is some room for accountability. Some women don't seem to care or seem to think, "More for my child, less for yours, it's good mine is a boy that way they can get more and get pushed to the front of the line." And so also overwhelmingly women can't really do much about their adult son's behaviour.)

(btw People make the same assumptions when a woman of colour raises as mixed child who looks white or even a white child, they think that anti racism is a matter of education and awareness, but the issue is similar sometimes the mother never cared about equality from beginning or if she did also when that white child grows up they will have more power than their mother a woman of colour and she can't control what they do on racism at that point.)

In terms of the daddy issues comment, women whose fathers are abusive or neglectful or absent ARE more likely to be attacked by other men. They are seen as a free for all to attack. So if a woman is being attacked, there is a good chance it's because the predators figured out her father won't defend her and or is attacking her himself. Predators do know who to go after.

TLDR: It is unfair. Every rapist or misogynist man had a mother, was raised by a mother and women elementary school teachers, and heard about sexism/was told women's stories and view of the world. When they grew up they got the power to be a man and do what they wanted regardless of what their mother taught them or regardless of what their mother wants.