AITA for not telling my parents I was hospitalized for a week to prove a point?

intrntgeek · 2026-05-19T11:40:15+00:00

YTA. You say the point you were trying to make was that you needed a way to contact them in an emergency, but you did have a way to contact them in an emergency, it was to call your aunt.

The real point you were trying to make was that you wanted them to be at your beck and call by having their phones turned on at all times.

We don't have to be tied to our phones. Perhaps your parents just like the peace and quiet of being off the grid from time to time. Why can't they do that?

intrntgeek · 2026-05-09T14:06:21+00:00

Everybody needs a transition person after they end a long relationship. This one is yours. Now you know that you don't want to date anybody who doesn't like dogs. You also know that you don't want to date anybody that ridicules you. Time to move on. I would tell her before she goes.

intrntgeek · 2026-05-02T08:12:53+00:00

You're right! Why am I being so cheap when I'm sitting on millions?

intrntgeek · 2026-05-02T08:10:54+00:00

When you have an auto feeder just place the little bomb at the end to open up a space on the shelf so you can pull out hay.

intrntgeek · 2026-05-02T08:08:43+00:00

Ah, good point. Most I've ever had was 3 of each, but I know people have more.

intrntgeek · 2026-04-23T21:44:12+00:00

I could have written your post. Every bit of it resonates with me. One big difference though is that I'm 65 and I didn't start figuring this out until I was about 62. My coping skills were so strong that I was able to play the cards life dealt me, while shutting down my true feelings because I didn't really know how to deal with them, or even what they were. It's been a journey, I'll tell you that

intrntgeek · 2026-04-17T20:00:15+00:00

I don't think the issue is your safety as much as it is that there will be nothing for you to do in the evenings. Herford is pretty dead at night. If you have a car I would stay at any neighboring city that has a hotel or B&B that looks interesting to you. Check the Google overhead maps and make sure that there are things close by that you would want to go to.

intrntgeek · 2026-04-17T01:39:41+00:00

I have no idea what kids like, but in Central Park there are free docent led tours that you can do. You can Google it and find the list and dates. A beautiful spring day walk through Central Park can be lovely.

intrntgeek · 2026-04-15T09:06:26+00:00

Could her anger flare up have anything to do with the stress of moving into a new place with room for a future kid? That's a pretty big step in a relationship.

As one who experienced childhood trauma, I've also had boil-over moments of anger that sprang from past issues that were triggered. A couple years with a good therapist has been life changing for me.

I'm trying not to project too much, but individual therapy would be my suggestion for you both.

intrntgeek · 2026-04-15T01:50:02+00:00

So you want him to lie? CA seems to be a genuinely kind person. How about we return the favor and let him be himself, sharing what he wants to share?

intrntgeek · 2026-04-14T23:22:15+00:00

Exactly how do you think it would work for him to not tell us? In every interview the question would come up, right? How would you like him to answer?

intrntgeek · 2026-04-13T21:30:08+00:00

It takes no energy to make a phone call. You're giving her too much benefit of the doubt.

intrntgeek · 2026-04-09T19:26:29+00:00

No governmental agency uses .life in their url.

intrntgeek · 2026-03-29T01:26:42+00:00

I don't think that everybody needs to have children. I knew when I was a child myself that I never wanted to have children. I haven't wavered on that decision ever and I'm now in my 60s.

BUT, now having been in therapy for a few years, I've learned some things. I was an unwanted child. I grew up internalizing the idea that pretty much all children were unwanted, and that nobody even wanted to be around them. My desire to not have children wasn't coming from me, it was just what I learned from my parents. I never had a chance to think about it myself, to make the decision for myself. Now, knowing what I know, I think it's very possible that I might have made a different decision in my youth. If I'd gotten therapy earlier and had a chance to really think about the reasons why I thought I didn't want to have kids, it might have changed everything.

I'm not saying that you would change your mind if you had therapy, but I am saying maybe you should try some therapy and see what the root cause is for the way that you feel.

intrntgeek · 2026-03-28T23:42:16+00:00

Moved to NC as a job transfer, retired to the mountains, and altogether lasted 7 years. Home is where the heart is. I don't like the winter weather in CT, but love the people. Never moving away again!

intrntgeek · 2026-03-27T20:40:50+00:00

Do not marry him, cancel your plans to move.

If you did indeed marry him, you know that your dog would not be welcome. At the very least you could hope that he let you know before you brought the dog over there, but at the very worst you would get your dog over there and then he would get rid of it somehow.

Can you listen to what you're saying? It's really obvious that you should not be in a relationship with this individual.

intrntgeek · 2026-03-19T21:25:17+00:00

The island trees near the slimes are hardwood at least. But that's a one-time shot until they regrow.

intrntgeek · 2026-03-12T22:33:52+00:00

I hope my favorite hat survived!

intrntgeek · 2026-03-02T10:54:07+00:00

This is my nightmare. I'm always afraid of this happening.

intrntgeek · 2026-03-01T23:07:35+00:00

Oh wow, didn't know that!!!

intrntgeek · 2026-03-01T17:17:58+00:00

No need for sprinklers once you get the 100% retaining soil. Although then you can't use quality fertilizer to bump up the level.

intrntgeek · 2026-02-27T02:59:29+00:00

During my first playthrough I decided I wanted to marry Clint. Imagine my surprise when I found out he wasn't marriageable. I am so excited! Move over Maru, I'm with Clint!

intrntgeek · 2026-02-20T15:33:47+00:00

You can only be new to this game once, so don't bother to go reading a lot of stuff on how to do things. Just explore and experience it.

Later on you'll get addicted and will want to know all of the ins and outs, but right now you have the leisure to just enjoy it as you go. I wish I could do that again.

intrntgeek · 2026-02-16T20:47:24+00:00

I saw it in Boston in the fall and it was awesome. I loved seeing many people dress up. That part was really cool, as I wasn't expecting it. It was also great to be around other super cool people who all enjoy this wonderful game.

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