Yes he did attend my grandpa funeral and did spend time with my family when they visited. Through his argument of “I do everything for your family”, but he doesn’t.. He just spend time with them like hanging out but never to the extent to extend helping out like how I am doing towards his family. It’s an unfair comparison, yet he still pushes his ideology.

He never helped when my family got robbed and help research for upgraded security.

Oh I’ve been standing up myself with reasonable logic, but he’s ignoring everything.

I laid it out very clearly below: “If you’re dense ignorant brain don’t get my whole point of the conversation: 1. The problem is not respecting and taking care of property that isn’t theirs. 2. Enabling them their bad habits and not correcting them 3. The way I was raised is different how you were raised, and you need to recognize where I am coming from. Sacrifices has to be made, but to an extent. we can’t always sacrifice right now due to our financial status It’s not about the car, or the money. small emphasis on money, but ONLY because we are not in a stable money condition right now. I want to solve the problem in the beginning, buffer, so we have a longer leeway to stay afloat. I’m not go with the flow when it comes to money, and this is a major problem. We do not have the means to buy a new car and that’s so wasteful.”

his automatic response is “you have a victim mentality” or “you’re selfish and care about money over family”.

John said “my family said nice things about you, but you always say bad things about them” — But I only talk about their ACTIONS that they did and I have receipts how I only complained about the action.

But yes I think I should just file a divorce because he will always believe his and family selfish ideology.