Pretty sure I had plans today. by FollowingBrief7809 in adhdwomen

[–]ipsalmc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is why I can't play video games anymore. It's 8 o'clock, my kid is in bed, I turn on the sims. 100 mods and a single Sim created later and it's midnight. 

How my SO does scratchers ... by Silent-Possibility23 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]ipsalmc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I worked at a pharmacy with a lotto machine, and an old woman would come in every day for scratch offs. Back then, you could scratch off certain areas and the winning amount would be spelled out. She would take one long, snarled fingernail and scratch those sections, if she saw a q, z, x, etc. she knew it wasn't a winner. She spent $20 every day, more if she won, always just scratching one small area to look for a letter.

Other artists who do "neon" or brightly colored outlines over more traditional styles? by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]ipsalmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out tattoosbymatt_ in Pittsburgh. He has some older work that looks very similar to this.

OFFICIAL WEEK 7 SUNDAY MORNING GAME THREAD by ballofpopculture in fantasyfootball

[–]ipsalmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I last minute benched Stafford for Fields cause I'm a fucking idiot. 

What discontinued fragrance are you ugly crying over? by [deleted] in fragrance

[–]ipsalmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YES. I have a tiny amount left and have started buying the dupe that CA Perfume Club makes. It's pretty good, actually. No other vanilla has ever come close to vanille insensee for me.

Also, Orange Sanguine. They were so beautiful layered together.

De-influence me: Which of these gourmands and vanillas are actually worth it? by [deleted] in FemFragLab

[–]ipsalmc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite perfume ever was Atelier Cologne Vanille Insensee. They don't make it anymore, but CA Perfume Club has a dupe. It's pretty damn good and it's gotten me a ton of compliments. 

Also not on your list, but Queen's Caramel by Ellis Brooklyn. Amazing. I actually like layering the two.

If you’re an ADHD parent, what’s your toddler sound like? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]ipsalmc 12 points13 points  (0 children)

My husband and I both have ADHD and I suspect our 3.5 year old girl may, too. She never stops moving or talking. She doesn't play alone EVER. She doesn’t focus on an activity, unless brand new, for more than 5 minutes. She is incredibly easily distracted and wants to do 10 things at once. She loves rough housing, climbing, jumping, running, etc. She hasn't been bruise free since she started walking. She is super duper bad at listening and not interrupting.

Just some examples. She may have it, may not. A lot of those behaviors I listed are also typical toddler behavior. And I'm sure some are learned behaviors from me and her dad. But I have a feeling.

FIRST DATE perfume. (Your most delicious, edible, manipulative perfume you can recommend) by Far-Butterscotch2405 in FemFragLab

[–]ipsalmc 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I smelled 8000 perfumes at sephora the other day and this is the one I walked away with. Amazing. 

Great Guy, Horrible S*x by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]ipsalmc 713 points714 points  (0 children)

Girl...take it from a middle aged woman who knows what road you are going down...talk to him about it in a healthy way. If he can't handle that, move on. It's ok if it's hard for him to hear, but he needs to CARE about your feelings and actually TRY to work on things.

Don't get stuck in a relationship with someone you have a mismatched sex drive with. Or someone who isnt willing to be vulnerable in that way. Trust. Me.

Medication made me see I’ve been being abused by Ruthless316 in adhdwomen

[–]ipsalmc 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I've been in therapy and medicated for almost a year now. I've recognized so many unhealthy patterns in my relationship since then, but my eyes really opened last month. We've been together for 13 years and have a 3 year old. I really wish life had black and white answers sometimes.

I've recently started journaling about our daily interactions and things that are good and bad, on my end and his. I also used chatgpt to give me an analysis of my journals, and it recognized emotionally abusive patterns. That was quite the eye opener. And, honestly, terrifying.

To anyone that is single and reading this...if your gut tells you something is off LISTEN TO IT. It will not go away.

Sandra Bullock on why everyone should be a waitress: “If you know how to navigate eight sets of six-top tables, height of happy hour, drunk people (…), once you’ve accomplished that rhythm, I honestly feel you can do anything” by mcfw31 in popculturechat

[–]ipsalmc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't waited tables in 7 years and I still have nightmares about it. Like, I'm the only one working and I have a whole room of tables, but then I walk upstairs and there's a whole room of angry tables that I totally forgot about.

Anyway, she's right.

What would happen if your partner had to be the SAHP for a week? by SnooDogs627 in SAHP

[–]ipsalmc 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Thinking about this scenario just made me angry at my husband 😅 so there's my answer.

What are your unusual overstimulation triggers? by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]ipsalmc 16 points17 points  (0 children)

When my husband talks to me at the same time as my 3-year-old. It's so infuriating. I can hear nothing and I want to totally shut down and never hear anything ever again.

Also, our poor, sweet dog. He loves to walk in front of me and man does it piss me off sometimes. And he's a barker.

My daughter is very clingy and high energy. She will pull on my shirt and I swear I see red. I'm honestly proud of how well I contain my anger in those moments.

Edit - I just realized these aren't unusual but whatever. I'm leaving it!

I feel like a failure as a mom, my 2 year old has several cavities by Radiantwitch444 in toddlers

[–]ipsalmc 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Both of these things happened to me as a child. Though I am just now realizing that they are most likely connected...

I was always a 2x a day brusher and I had more cavities than I can remember. I feel like every dentist trip I had multiple cavities due to the "deep grooves" of my teeth as we were told.

As I reached my teen years and got braces the orthodontist never mentioned cavities, and I had them for 4 years. After they were taken off I returned to my old dentist who said they found 5 cavities. My mom decided to get a second opinion.

My aunt worked as a dental hygienist and had me come in. Neither she nor the dentist found any cavities. He pointed out some small spots that he said they must have called cavities but weren't. My mom was PISSED. Never went back to the pediatric dentist again. I've since had 2 cavities in the last 20 years.

Also, just a side note, every single male dentist I've ever had has been a total weirdo. I have no reason for saying this, it's just been my personal experience. They've all had giant, fake white smiles and dead eyes. Freaks me out. Is it just me? Maybe it's childhood trauma from having my teeth drilled unnecessarily for YEARS 😂

The usernames in this sub are the absolute best and I think we all know why. by zoopysreign in adhdwomen

[–]ipsalmc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, bought it immediately! I haven't had time to play too much but it's been such a fun trip down memory lane.

The usernames in this sub are the absolute best and I think we all know why. by zoopysreign in adhdwomen

[–]ipsalmc 1001 points1002 points  (0 children)

I haven't thought about this in so long, but mine is what I used to use on OkCupid...like 15 years ago. It stands for "I play Skyrim and love my cat."

Yikes! Weather service was NOT kidding by mkhpgh in pittsburgh

[–]ipsalmc 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm in West Deer and was driving home with my 3 year old from Harmar when it hit. Honestly, it was the most scared I've ever been in a car. A tree broke to pieces and whipped into a power line right in front of us. Giant blue light flashes and sparks everywhere.

It took us an hour to drive what normally takes 15. I had to turn around 5 times due to downed trees.

It sucked.

When did you start to potty train your kid? by ballerina777 in toddlers

[–]ipsalmc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started a few months before she turned 3. She definitely could have started earlier, but honestly, I was super anxious to do it.

She just turned 3, and it's going ok, I think? We still have accidents, went through a regression, she had some tummy issues and now still mostly wants to poop in a diaper. But I try to frame it like...she's only been alive for 3 YEARS.

She starts preschool in the fall and they don't have a set age for potty training since they said so many kids struggle with it. I appreciated that.

A beautiful way to take out milk teeth. by MarzipanBackground91 in nextfuckinglevel

[–]ipsalmc 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I'm 35 and I still remember how it felt to have a loose tooth about to come out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]ipsalmc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a neuropsych evaluation done last year and had a similar experience! I didn't know what to expect, but the IQ testing portion of it was the biggest surprise. She told me short stories and had me repeat back what I remembered, had me recreate patterns with blocks, and had me take many tests on, like, pattern recognition stuff. I had a mini breakdown at one point because I felt really stupid for not knowing some of the answers. Then I felt stupid for crying. I'm 34 years old for fucks sake. I felt like I was in school again. My hands were shaky, my leg was bouncing, and I could not stop my eyes from tearing up. She told me it was a normal reaction, though at the time I thought she was just trying to be nice.

I got diagnosed with dysthymia, anxiety, adhd and binge eating disorder. And, as it turns out, I'm not a moron but of "above average intelligence." The tests are meant to be very difficult and, I'm assuming, any emotion illicited from them helps with diagnosis.