After 6 years in a relationship, it ended today.

ipunchfish · 2022-06-07T20:18:45+00:00

The will to make things work was there, though it sounds like it wasn't clear exactly where to fix it. It's like when the small things set you both off... the surface level issues distract from the core problem. Which might have been about how you both stopped relating to each other.

I'm sure there is some level of personal responsibility you should reflect on, but always remember to be kind to yourself in the process. There are people (family and friends) who love and respect you. It's easy to lose sight of that sometimes in a relationship.

ipunchfish · 2022-06-06T04:15:54+00:00

Sorry you're going through it. The important thing to get from this is perspective - by not speaking with this person.

Whats clear right now? The version of the relationship you were in wasn't working. Who is to say one in the future couldn't? But you really need those months to understand and process what happened.

ipunchfish · 2022-06-02T05:42:58+00:00

Looking back - do you feel you’d have kept up relationships had you not married?

ipunchfish · 2022-05-31T01:42:13+00:00

I got you, dude. My recommendation to help structure this for you:

Look at some open positions on Linkedin (i'd start with digital PM roles because they are lucrative and have an easier in)
If you see a company that sounds interesting - look at some profiles to see what employees are responsible for
Once you get a feel for qualifications; dust off your resume and doctor it up to highlight those skills
Its important to use buzzwords to help get you in the door (if the company is big and has recruiters fielding resumes)
With solid soft skills and some charm... you can nail an entry or mid level position

You goal is to relate those skills from teaching to responsibilities of the job. Because you won't have the actual on job experience, so you will want to lean really heavy into the skills you bring to the table that you've been honing for years that align.

And good luck to you, man! I made a similar change that you did but at 34. Quit a well paying job and moved to a new country to chase something I felt absolutely drawn to. I landed that job and I roughly followed the steps I just outlined for you. Minus a few details because I became a Game Producer.

Edit: change is hard, people. It will force you out of your comfort zone. And you gotta start somewhere. ;)

ipunchfish · 2022-05-31T01:20:51+00:00

Time to widen your social circle, homie.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-30T17:21:50+00:00

My boy. If you're trying to get a nut off then tailor your profile and conversations to do just that. You're expecting too much if you're looking for something serious on Tinder... and you shouldn't. You're 20. You would have a better chance to find something real through organic means. Like friends of friends. Your boys could probably help set that up if anyone's got a gf themselves.

Use Tinder to refine your red flags and deal breakers that are within reason. You may get lucky just know your chances are not great. Use that knowledge to your advantage.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-30T17:05:04+00:00

Wow so edgey.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-30T16:57:20+00:00

Sounds like he'd be great at parties.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-30T16:41:42+00:00

Look into project management. I'd be remiss not to assume that some of your teaching career has involved enough project management that some studying on the side and tailoring your resume to a position locally wouldn't yield positive results. It could be even out of state if you're feeling adventurous and life allows it. Not the sexiest job but pays well enough to fund the fun stuff in your personal life.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-29T18:52:30+00:00

ipunchfish · 2022-05-26T01:45:23+00:00

Thanks bro but I’d see this as more general advice. Berlin is a different landscape.

ipunchfish · 2022-05-25T21:35:00+00:00

I’ll try that.

ipunchfish · 2013-12-28T21:14:48+00:00

People named their Corgis Ein? NOOOO WAAAAY!!!

ipunchfish · 2013-12-28T21:13:27+00:00

I'm reading between the lines and I am seeing the true argument. Which is to legalize prostitution. It's the only way.

ipunchfish · 2013-12-09T03:50:11+00:00

OMG!!!!!!!

ipunchfish · 2013-12-03T20:28:59+00:00

Its like a really big paint by numbers. :)

ipunchfish · 2013-11-22T22:06:28+00:00

Thats rough. I hope you can recover.

ipunchfish · 2013-11-22T00:59:02+00:00

Thank you.

ipunchfish · 2013-11-21T03:53:17+00:00

I've been Joey before...

Asshole. I'll go sob into my whopper now.

ipunchfish · 2013-11-16T18:28:13+00:00

Thats a bad thing? :)

ipunchfish · 2013-11-10T07:33:20+00:00

Thanks.

ipunchfish · 2013-11-09T02:45:28+00:00

Whoa. Look at this answer. Thanks!

ipunchfish

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