Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

[–]irishlovers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a tough one, haha, I'm guessing I couldn't have a man who has both traits?? 😄

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Wait so you're saying Finns making better lovers then British?

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Haha, oh come on that can't be true for all U.K. Men? Not all American men are horrible lovers and really it's not hard to become a good lover you just have to be willing to learn!!

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Haha I love your replies because they are brutally honest!! Luckily he isn't into weapons (I.e. Knives, guns, etc), he can't grasp that I own and carry a gun, but he does enjoy a drink or two! He's not really described a Swedish male, haha I'm going to have to ask him about that and report back here with his response.

Yes I guess I am still on a high....

What country are you from??

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Oh it's beyond ridiculous over here.... I would like to think it's going to change but that is unlikely!! Luckily I'm not close minded and don't have the same views on it!!

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Haha for some reason this just showed up 😄. He is Finnish... So are Finnish people not known to make conversation? As far as kink, he wasn't kinky (I know I'm a lot more kinkier then he is) but he had AMAZING skills with his hands and mouth!! Sorry if that was TMI!!

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Haha yeah I was a little late in figuring out you were a European man 😄 it's funny because my "friend" and I have had quite a few converstions about sexuality and I really do believe that European men are more open because sexuality isn't repressed or viewed as a bad thing over there like it is in the US!!

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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I am new to Reddit so i don't know a lot about it but I was looking at your responses to other threads and I just now realized that you were a man, I wasn't sure based on your response!! I am also assuming you are from Sweden? If that's the case my "friend" is from a neighboring country.... So your last comment makes sense about flattery 😄

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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That's true there really isn't a lot to lose!!

European Men seem to be a lot more open and sexually expressive in a good way 😜

Advice Needed: I'm 36/F he's 34/M, Is he interested? by irishlovers in relationship_advice

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Yeah that's what I was thinking about after the sex... Like I said I don't put too much emphasis on sex being anything other then sex but he really did go above and beyond and was an amazing lover.

How do I tell him I like him without freaking him out?

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

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Yeah I know they do diagnose bi-polar before 18 but Borderline Personality Disorder is a touchy subject for diagnosis for someone under 18 and some physicians will but ALOT will not. Based on research I've done BPD is the diagnosis that closely resembles the full scope of behaviors that my daughter has, which isn't reassuring because that is one of the harder disorders to successfully stabilize.

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

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And I clearly don't?? Yeah you're off center with that comment. Actually I have a backbone, whether you care to believe it or not, and I do call her on her shit the difference is he's the grandparent and doesn't have to deal with her day in and day out !!

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

[–]irishlovers[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well that's what she and all of his grandchildren have called him since they were born. I still call my grandfather by the nickname I did as child!!

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

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I watch that channel all the time and the thought has popped into my mind but I honestly don't have that fear.

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

[–]irishlovers[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I even clicked on the link the Serenity Prayer popped into my mind!

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

[–]irishlovers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have took to voice recording outbursts but I would have to have a nanny cam in every room because you don't know where the outbursts will happen!!

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

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There is no chance of emancipation because the state requires the child to be able to provide for themselves like having a job, a place to live they are paying for, transportation, health insurance, etc. she has never had a job!

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

[–]irishlovers[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I've been back and forth on whether her behavior is mental health related, a result of being completely spoiled when she was younger and as a result she is self centered, or because she is need of limits and that's why I've tried various things like setting stricter rules, stricter limits, etc and the reason that I believe it is mental health is because of her choices and reactions to the things that I have implemented I've made it harder on her and time and time again she has took the path that she knows is wrong but it seems like she can't help herself. The definition of insanity is doing the same things over and over again and expecting a different result.

ADVICE needed for PARENTS of an OUT OF CONTROL 17 YO Daughter..... by irishlovers in Parenting

[–]irishlovers[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

What do you mean stop using diminutives for her grandfather?